I have almost a hundred playlists on my Spotify account. They cover any number of bases: I make playlists of songs that make me think of the people I’m close to, playlists to work out to, playlists for when I’m getting ready to go to parties, playlists for when I’m feeling happy or sad or angry or romantic or bored. I have at least three playlists related to sex in some way, only one of which it is actually reasonable to play during sex. Protip, gentle readers: the song Two Ladies from the film and stage musical Cabaret might be thematically appropriate for a polyamorous lifestyle, but it really isn’t what you want to hear while you’re attempting to give someone a blow job. Take it from a woman who knows.

There are some songs, though, that are right both musically and thematically. There are a small number of songs that simply pour sex and kink out of themselves in little three-minute packages of yes please. Here's some of my favorite music to get tied up to.

BDSM Music Playlist #1: Jace Everett - Bad Things


When you came in the air went out


And every shadow filled up with doubt


I don't know who you think you are


But before the night is through


I wanna do bad things with you


This is probably the corniest song on this list - it was the theme tune of a hit TV programme, for god’s sake - but I can’t help but be turned on by it regardless. There’s something dirty about his voice that I can’t quite resist, and something about the music itself makes me think of being thrown up against walls.

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BDSM Music Playlist #2: Danzig - Little Whip


You crawl across the floor


On your hands and knees


To seek revelation…


Much like Bad Things, this is another gravelly voice alongside a simple, pared-back melody. Much like sex, this song has a compellingly inconsistent tempo and a plethora of rises and falls. The image is what I find appealing, I think; this song takes a single moment of a longer encounter and crystallises it into something anyone who has been there can identify with in a heartbeat. Danzig’s voice can be a bit of an acquired taste, but I’m fond of this track.

BDSM Music Playlist #3: Magnapop - Hold You Down


I could tell you things you think don't show


I could kick your legs out from under you


Take you down, torture you deliberately


Confuse you deliberately, use you


I could take you home and abuse you


You can't hurt me


But I could hurt you


This was a bonus track hidden at the end of Magnapop’s 1996 album Rubbing Doesn’t Help, and despite its upbeat poppy rhythm it has a surprisingly large amount of sex appeal. It’s as much about a mindfuck as it is anything physical; I’ve always liked the idea of the deliberateness of the things a dominant does.

BDSM Music Playlist #4: Depeche Mode - In Your Room


In your room, where souls disappear - only you exist here


Will you lead me to your armchair, or leave me lying here


Your favourite innocence, your favourite prize


Your favourite smile, your favourite slave


I'm hanging on your words


Living on your breath


Feeling with your skin


This is not the most famous kink-focussed Depeche Mode song, and I can’t claim not to love Master and Servant - what goth doesn’t? Of the two of them, though, this is the one that can actually turn me on all by itself, not least because its lyrics look at the actual headspace of submission in a way that isn’t all that common. Because it is like that, of course - the feeling of being completely subsumed by someone else who is, for a time, your entire world.

BDSM Music Playlist #5: She Wants Revenge - Tear You Apart


I want to hold you close


Skin pressed against me tight


Lie still and close your eyes girl


So lovely, it feels so right


I want to hold you close


Soft breath, beating heart


As I whisper in your ear


I want to fucking tear you apart


I discovered this song and the next one on the same day, when I was about seventeen years old, and I think I might now have loved them so much and for so long that I have actually conditioned myself to get a bit worked up every time I hear them. Anything with a steady, deep bass beat like this is going to sound like raw sex to me, but the hottest thing about this one in particular has to be its juxtapositions - it is in large part a very relatable song about a teenage romance, until suddenly bam! And now he wants to grab her by the hair and tell her...

BDSM Music Playlist #6: VAST - Pretty When You Cry


I didn't want to hurt you baby


I didn't want to hurt you


I didn't want to hurt you


But you're pretty when you cry


I didn't want to fuck you baby


I didn't want to fuck you


I didn't want to fuck you


But you're pretty when you're mine


What was that I just said about deep, steady bass beats? God, the drums and guitar in this song make my spine shiver. The dominant in this is clearly a lot crueler and more serious than the dom in many of these songs - with the possible exception of Little Whip - and this song crawls into a headspace that even BDSM communities don’t talk about a whole lot.

BDSM Music Playlist #7: Nine Inch Nails - Closer


I want to fuck you like an animal


I want to feel you from the inside


I want to fuck you like an animal


My whole existence is flawed


You get me closer to god


This song came on once while my then-girlfriend had me in an exceedingly compromising position, and she leaned forward and whispered into my ear that the first line of the chorus isn’t at all the dirtiest part of this song - the second is far, far more filthy. She then proceeded to show me exactly what she meant. I realise this track is a big old BDSM cliche now - the only one on this list, really - but I have never forgotten that moment.

Abi Brown is a freelance writer and general pen-for-hire devoted to sexual deviancy, far-left politics and wearing too much jewellery. Find her at her website or @see_abi_write.
Images by Kiran Foster via Flickr with CC BY 2.0 license

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