Victoria Blisse of Smut UK has always been a bit kinky. She’s always up for trying something new in the bedroom or out of it for that matter. Recently Victoria’s discovered she’s a masochist - meaning pain gives her pleasure. Here to share her favourite type of pain, impact play, and lend a few tricks of the trade for tops and bottoms.

 

Impact Play - How to Hit like a Masochist!

Impact play is the overall term for spanking, hitting and beating with or without impact toys. It covers everything from over the knee spanking to a serious whipping, essentially anything that involves impacting a part of a person’s body with something else. It includes pervertables such as hair brushes, spatulas and cheese boards, also specially created impact toys like the bondage paddle, flogger whip, dragon tail and of course, spanking and punching with bare hands.
 

Being hit by ALL THE THINGS is a favourite pastime of mine but before you even think about indulging it’s incredibly important to get to grips with the safety requirements of this activity. Of course, pain is the aim of impact play but you don’t want to be doing any permanent damage.  Both bottoms and tops need to know the safety precautions such as safewords,  as both are equally involved in the scene.

sexy backs
Backs are sexy, know where to hit and not to hit!

 

Watch your back…

  1. Hit only soft, fleshy areas such as the buttocks, thighs, breasts and back (but never, ever the spine) avoid bony bits as bones break and if they do a hospital visit will be required.
  2. Avoid major organs, this means don’t hit the stomach, the bottom of the back, either side of the spine (the kidneys sit there) or the chest (other than breasts) an injury to these can be fatal.
  3. Pre-arrange the limits. Toys that are a definite no-no, if the bottom has to be mark free and what the sub will say if they want the play to stop or simply need a break  e.g. a safeword. 
  4. The only way to find out what you enjoy is to try it out. People like different kinds of pain, some like spiky, sharp sensations inflicted by impact toys like whips, spiked paddles, flogger whips and canes where some like thumpy impact from traditional bondage paddles, heavy floggers and a person’s hand.   Others, like myself, like it all and a mix of the two.

 

Experimenting can be great fun! If you are using an impact toy such as a flogger whip for the first time as a Dom be sure to check how it feels on yourself first. Hitting your hand is a good way to test it out. When you hit your sub take it easy for the first few strokes. This isn’t always necessary but for first-time play you need to build up slowly to hard hits.

 

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It goes without saying that everyone is different. I’ve found out that I have a very high pain threshold and can take a lot of beating. Others might not have the same pain tolerance. It is very important that you communicate honestly how you’re feeling.  This is part of the trust between all those involved in your scene. It’s called impact play and play should be enjoyable for everyone taking part.

As a submissive, you might think you have to endure something you don’t enjoy because you think your Dominant wants you to take the beating being handed out, however, that isn’t how it works. Your comfort and pleasure are of utmost importance and you need to express yourself truthfully. You are never going to ruin a scene by needing a break or wanting to avoid a certain toy/action.

Also, tops need to be aware of their own limits, some implements need a lot of skill and practise to wield before you can use them on a willing victim, if you’re not confident with something don’t use it no matter how much you are begged to. Also, you might need to make a judgement call for your bottom too. Some people, especially masochists, when enjoying a scene don’t realise when they’ve had enough. You might have to decide that for them.

When you have all your safeguards in place you can enjoy your impact play scene. This can incorporate other kinks such as role play, sensory deprivation (use of a blindfold for example) and bondage. However only use restraint with a play partner you know well as it increases the risk of injury when a person can’t move and shift their body freely in response to a hit and don’t forget to always listen out to the safeword.

 

spanked bottoms
Safety first! Spanking, flogging and whipping all belong on the fleshy bits!

 

Last but not least…CUDDLES!?

Of course, don’t forget the after care. Once you’ve enjoyed lots of spanky fun you need a bit of time to chill out. Every person is different but cuddles, blankets, sugary drinks and snacks are all things that could be involved in after care. It might only be a few minutes or it might take an hour or more. It certainly shouldn’t be rushed and basically is an adjustment period taking people from subspace and topspace back to normality.

 

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