Does the idea of slapping terrify you or turn you on? This guide to slapping will help you understand this often misunderstood and misused art. Time to get slap-happy!


This article was originally posted on December 31, 2015 and was updated on December 2, 2017.
 

The Slapping Guide for Safe Impact Play

Slapping is a part of BDSM that invokes fear in people. When I mention the art of slapping, many shudder. But on the whole, people that haven’t seen it, don’t know how amazing and beneficial it can be when done right.

Last weekend offered up the perfect example. My Dom wanted to use me to demonstrate how my eyes change as I’m dropping into subspace. Usually, I'm highly responsive to my Dom, but this was the first time that he dropped me in front of so many people (including my husband), which made me nervous.

The first thing my Dom did after instructing me to sit, was to cradle the side of my face in his hand. I knew what that meant, and it made me squirm. He slapped my cheek with his other hand several times. It stung, but I felt a tingle between my legs. I watched his posture shift above me to one of complete dominance, and I dropped.
 

Very intentional slaps

When my Dom and I first spoke, he told me how much he loved slapping women. My chest went cold in response as I had envisioned him slapping hard and jerking some poor girl’s head to the side by force alone, and I wanted no part of that. He would say how hot it was, how women dropped so fast, but I wasn’t convinced.

People had tried slapping me before, but it didn’t work. My jaw always hurt afterwards, or I didn’t drop. The first time my Dom slapped me, I loved it instantly. Although, it isn’t just because he’s my Dom, there's much more to this love of slapping as well as the effectiveness of it, both as the slapper and as the one being slapped. My love for slapping came when I realised this wasn’t a simple ‘slap you in the face’ sort of slap!
 

The art of slapping

My Dom taught me that when slapping, to hold the other cheek of the submissive to avoid injuring their neck and that I should use my fingers firmly when slapping, not the palm of my hand where there’s more force. He also advised slapping the cheek or cheekbone, not down low or on the joint.

Each slap is very deliberate, and the slapper must be in complete control. When done right, there should be an attention-grabbing sting. Redness to the cheek is an added bonus. Slapping a submissive is a fast way to put them in their place under you. The butt is excellent as well, but here there is an art to slapping.

Slapping my butt as I walk by will get a giggle, while bending me over a knee gets squirms and redness on more than just my bottom. Pulling someone over the knee also offers support.

Man slapping a woman on the buttocks
Fetish Films Quarterly - American magazine from 1980. Credit:  Vintage - Days of Magic, Flickr Creative Commons.

My husband prefers slapping breasts. His hands are big (too large for slapping a cheek), so his art is in the boob slap. Again, he always supports the other side until his hand makes contact.

What makes slapping so amazing and powerful is the amount of control the person slapping exerts. It’s humiliating to be slapped, but done right, creates a considerable amount of trust in one swift motion, because the control required creates that trust. There's an art of slapping, and it's a skill that needs practice, confidence, and extreme control.


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Sienna Saint-Cyr writes erotica and blogs about kink, poly, body image, and most things relating. Follow her at siennasaintcyr.wordpress.com or on Twitter @siennasaintcyr.

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