Does the idea of slapping terrify you or turn you on? This slapping guide will help you understand this often misunderstood and misused art. Time to get slap-happy.

The Slapping Guide for Safe Impact Play


Slapping is a part of BDSM that invokes fear in people. When I mention the art of slapping, many shudder. But it’s generally people that haven’t seen it and don’t know how amazing and beneficial it can be when done properly.

Last weekend offered up the perfect example. My Dom wanted to use me to demonstrate how my eyes change as I’m dropping into subspace. I’m always highly responsive to him, but this was the first time he’d dropped me in front of so many people, including my husband. This made me nervous, which would have made dropping more difficult had he chosen a different path.

The first thing he did after instructing me to sit, was cradle the side of my face in his hand. I knew what that meant, and it made me squirm. He slapped my cheek with his other hand several times. It stung, but I felt a tingle between my legs. I watched his posture shift above me to one of complete dominance, and I dropped.

All from very intentional slaps.


It wasn’t always this way. When we’d first spoken, he’d told me how he loved slapping girls. My chest went cold in response. I’d envisioned him slapping hard—jerking the poor girl’s head to the side from force alone—and I wanted no part of that. He’d say how hot it was, how girls dropped so fast, but I wasn’t convinced.

People had tried it on me before, and it didn’t work. My jaw always hurt afterward, or I didn’t drop. Yet the first time my Dom slapped me, I loved it instantly.

This isn’t just because he’s my Dom. There is much more to this love of slapping as well as the effectiveness of it. Both as the slapper and as the one being slapped. My like came when I realized this wasn’t a simple ‘slap you in the face’ sort of slap.

There’s an art to slapping.


My Dom taught me to always hold the other cheek to avoid injuring the neck of the submissive. Also to use my fingers firmly, but not the palm of my hand where there’s more force. To slap the cheek or cheekbone, not down low or in the joint.

Each slap is very deliberate, and the slapper must be in complete control.

When done right, there should be an attention grabbing sting. Redness to the cheek is an added bonus. Slapping a submissive is a fast way to put them in their place under you.

The butt is great as well, but there too, is an art of slapping too.


SlappThe Art of Slapping 2 bare butting my butt as I walk by will get a giggle, while bending me over a knee gets squirms and redness on more than just my bottom. Pulling someone over the knee also offers support.

My husband prefers slapping breasts. His hands are big—too large for slapping a cheek—so his art is in the boob slap. Again, he always supports the other side until his hand makes contact.

What makes slapping so amazing and powerful is the amount of control the person slapping exerts. It’s humiliating to be slapped, but done right, creates a great amount of trust in one swift motion. Because the control required creates that trust. There's definitely an art of slapping, and it's a skill that requires practice, confidence, and extreme control.

Sienna Saint-Cyr writes erotica and blogs about kink, poly, body image, and most things relating. Follow her at siennasaintcyr.wordpress.com or on Twitter @siennasaintcyr.

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