Does the idea of hard face slapping as part of your BDSM play, terrify you or turn you on? Sienna Saint-Cyr shares her experiences of hard face slapping to help you understand this often misunderstood and misused part of impact play. 
 

Slapping and safe impact play

Slapping is a part of BDSM that invokes fear in people. When I mention the art of hard face slapping, many shudder, but on the whole, people that haven’t seen it, don’t know how amazing and beneficial it can be when done right.

One time, my Dom wanted to use hard face slapping to demonstrate how my eyes change as I’m dropping into subspace. Usually, I'm highly responsive to my Dom, but this was the first time that he dropped me in front of so many people (including my husband), which made me nervous.

The first thing my Dom did after instructing me to sit, was to cradle the side of my face in his hand. I knew what that meant, and it made me squirm. He slapped my cheek with his other hand several times. It stung, but I felt a tingle between my legs. I watched his posture shift above me to one of complete dominance, and I dropped.
 

Getting into hard face slapping

When my Dom and I first spoke, he told me how much he loved slapping women. My chest went cold in response as I had envisioned him hard face slapping and jerking some poor girl’s head to the side by force alone, and I wanted no part of that. He would say how hot it was, how women dropped so fast, but I wasn’t convinced.

People had tried hard face slapping me before, but it didn’t work. My jaw always hurt afterwards, or I didn’t drop. The first time my Dom slapped me, I loved it instantly. Although it isn’t just because he’s my Dom, there's much more to this love of slapping as well as the effectiveness of it, both as the slapper and as the one being slapped. My passion for slapping came when I realised this wasn’t a simple ‘slap you in the face’ sort of slap!
 


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The art of slapping

My Dom taught me that when hard face slapping, aim is very important, and to hold the other cheek of the submissive to avoid injuring their neck.  He said I should use the base of my fingers firmly when slapping, not the palm of my hand where there’s more force. He also advised slapping the fleshy part of the cheek or cheekbone - not down low around the jaw, or around the ear as this could cause a rupture to the eardrum.  

Each slap is very deliberate, and the slapper must be in complete control. When done right, there should be an attention-grabbing sting. Redness to the cheek is a bonus.

Hard face slapping a submissive is a quick way to put them in their place under you. But, for those new to hard face slapping, as a general rule, if your hand hurts when you slap, it might be too hard.

The butt is excellent for slapping also, but here there is an art to slapping. Slapping my butt as I walk by will get a giggle while bending me over a knee gets squirms and redness on more than just my bottom. Pulling someone over the knee also offers support.

What makes hard face slapping so amazing and powerful is the amount of control the person slapping exerts. It’s humiliating to be slapped, but done right, creates a considerable amount of trust in one swift motion, because the control required creates that trust. There's an art of slapping, and it's a skill that needs practice, confidence, and extreme control.


Sienna Saint-Cyr writes erotica and blogs about kink, poly, body image, and most things relating. Follow her at siennasaintcyr.wordpress.com or on Twitter @siennasaintcyr.


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TransSwitchUk

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Can't believe someone from this site was so rude & demanding via the phone when it was the #1st time too!! So peeps can't even do basic texting without starting.....I'm so NOT tolerant of trans- divas & pushy femmes anymore than I'd be with guys!! I look like a gal But I think like a guy for sure....good thing too nowdays

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TransSwitchUk

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Never realised all this stuff had a name of impact play.....ive always called it wanting to be "manhandled" or handled roughly.....rough play!! Partly attracted cause my male aspect would want pretty tough stuff....the femme part wants it in the context of "the boyfriend experience" if there is such a thing?!? That the guy was a mean boyfriend who kinda owned me and used face slapping as a way to control me)

Guess I'd have to switch over to contacts thou as glasses are kinda delicate)

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FabSeverus

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I didnt feel it right the first time a sub ask me to do it. Then aftre a while he gets me and now I really enjoy it. But its very important to know how to do it!! and the explanation on the post are great for beginner, follow the instruction to avoid any accident. which remind me that I forgot one of my sub had some braces and i hit a bit harder than usual and it catch her inside mouth!! so be aware 

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E-dUbBs

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i'm a slapper (never thought i'd say those words lol) but i do get its an emotive subject and is only something i do if the sub i'm with tells me they ENJOY it, i'm not happy to do it if it seems to be something they just accept to please. i enjoy only if they enjoy it this has to go beyond just being consented to in my view
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SophieSub190

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Thanks for this article. Really great read. Also interesting seeing everyone’s responses below. Much to try! X
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BigPolly

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You’re not on your own @TransSwitchUK I had one Dom who slapped me continuously throughout play & I loved it. To be fair he didn’t slap me very hard but I wouldn’t have stopped him if he had. It’s a great article, when I was an apprentice Domme in a club we not only had to learn to slap correctly but also how to use a horse/whip & also a paddle correctly. A paddle is very much like slapping, you need to learn to use it in a certain way & in certain places if you are going to use it for continuous impact play.
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TransSwitchUk

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Okay I must be about only tiddly-peep into the idea of this Fetish then....
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SirRob999

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This subject is a hard limit for myself. The only feelings I could possibly feel from this is horror, anger, and fear. As hard as I do like to play I do have a soft side, and this is where even in rough play I draw the line. I understand that there are people who like to include it in their play (receiving and giving) and that is up to them, but at least these subjects are being brought up and discussed so that people can learn before they do. It's a good read, and for anybody who likes to involve this type of play I'd very much recommend having a read.
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HexThePup

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I've only ever had one guy slap me across the face and you can feel as the article describes that instant glaze over the eyes into a sub space... He only ever did it once as he felt bad about it. I've learned a lot from this article and my desire to pursue impact play is getting more and more intence
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Beau

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Just reading this article sent shivers all over me and could feel myself tensing up ,hard slapping is actually a hard limit for me such a huge trigger point I have experienced hard slapping just the once and the outcome was not a very pleasant one I I totally froze and went in on myself and ended up being left alone coming down from the scene before plus handling all those emotions brought on from the trigger as the guy left couldn’t deal with seeing me how I was So although this was an article that made me tense up it was a great read and understanding more about it and for those who it interests make sure you are actually aware of the true meaning of impact play and what and how it is done in a safe environment xx
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Mrchristopher70

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I learnt this some time ago when information wasnt so clearly available. Do this dont do that you will work out the rest kinda deal. So to see the basics explained so clearly is great well done .. and yes the topic is quite emotive .
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Jed

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Good topic and one that doesn't get much exposure. For many no doubt a sensitive subject purely for the area of the body that's involved, and if discussed and included in your play needs careful consideration and a good degree of sensitivity. Gauging your partners response is key, and it may help to build the process up slowly, unlike the rest of the body the face will colour up quickly and it will be a shock to the system, but the feeling of helplessness/degradation can be another facet to your play. As always good communication and patience are key. Enjoy
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