The first time I took part in a triad play scene, my Dom sat me in a chair, tied me down, and made me watch him beat on his slave. He did lovely things like spank her, and tell her to look at me, then tell me to watch her. He’d kiss her, pinch a nipple or two, then finally told her to come. Being that I’m a voyeur, just that alone would have been fantastic. But he didn’t stop there. Next, he put me on the cross and had his slave watch. Taking turns is one way to balance triad play.
Another great way to involve everyone in triad play is to have one submissive perform an act on the other. Or the Dominant might fuck one sub from behind and have that sub perform oral on the second submissive. As a Domme, when I play with more than one person, I often like to instruct them to do things to one another while I simply watch.
Balancing time isn’t always easy, and I find that this is an area that falls in the responsibility of the Dominant in triad play. So Dom/Dommes, make sure you’re paying attention! Everyone needs equal time unless part of the play involves some form of humiliation by withholding attention. But that type of triad play has a purpose and is, therefore, still involving all parties.
Submissives have a level of responsibility in triad play scenes as well. Though it may not be up to a sub to balance the time, it is up to the sub to make sure they are fair to the person in the play. For example, if one submissive is dropped into subspace and is cuffed to the cross—getting a nice little spanking—if time starts to feel unbalanced, running off in tears isn’t helpful. The Dominant can’t leave one sub in that state to run after another. The better way to handle this situation is to gently get the Dominant’s attention and let him or her know what’s going on.
Triad play is all about being present in the moment, being fair, and having a higher level of responsibility. While it can be one of the best experiences, it can also end in a tidal wave of negative emotions if we aren’t careful. The best way to have fun is by remembering that just like we need a balance between two partners, three to a scene is no different. Ignoring one party will only end in hurt feelings. So play fair, play hard, and have fun!
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