With the prevalence of existing, well-established dating sites, you may question why you need to use a specialist one. It may be that you have a fetish for rubber, leather or PVC, enjoy domination or submission, or have a more specialised fetish. Wherever your desires lie, there are several reasons why it's probably better to avoid the mainstream dating sites.
Firstly, some of these sites have a strict policy for what's permitted on your profile. Surprisingly, some of them are owned by very morally rigid, religiously motivated, entrepreneurs who consider that anything other than straight sex in the marital bed is tantamount to a grave sin.
This means that if you suggest that you like being tied up, or tying people up on your mainstream dating profile, you will be likely to be barred and your profile will be removed.
Secondly, even if your profile is accepted, you can find that there are trolls on mainstream fetish sites who do not understand your particular fetish. They may consider that you're an easy target for abusive, sexualised comments and have a limited understanding of what fetish is all about.
This isn't everyone’s experience of mainstream dating sites, and some fetishists have found their life partner on these sites, but there are several reasons why you might choose a fetish dating site such as Fetish.com.
Due to a large number of people on the site who share a fetish, you'll find that there may be several people who share even the most obscure and deviant predilection. If you're a balloon fetishist, enjoy being a ponyboy or want a partner who is a switch (alternating between domination or submission), then you should think about using a dedicated fetish dating site such as Fetish.com, as it's hard to find an appropriate partner in mainstream dating.
When you're on a mainstream dating site, you constantly feel as if you're playing a game of having to justify your fetish. With a fetish site, there's no ambiguity as to what your particular fetish is. A good fetish dating site should seek to educate its readers about different types of fetish.
They may also use videos and pictures to make sure that you know that latest facts and news about the fetish scene, which is constantly evolving. This ‘edutainment’ can keep people on the site informed, and less likely to misunderstand what fetish means.
Another advantage of fetish dating sites is that you may develop friendships, as well as meeting people for dates, scenes and encounters. These online, and real world, friendships, can be very intense and supportive. Friendships can even develop into real world relationships and a reasonably large group of people who meet on a regular basis for parties or social meetings.
If you place an ad in your local newspaper or a little-known dating site, then you may find that you do not get the replies that you want. There are some fetish dating sites which have not been well established, or planned. These can have very few members and not have the social momentum to make sure that people can arrange dates.
People misunderstand what is meant by fetish. They may have seen a television programme which implies that all people involved in the BDSM scene are somehow all sadists in real life, for example.
Such stereotypes can lead to huge amounts of miscommunication, particularly online where you do not get to see nuances of body language. The advantage of a niche fetish dating site is that you know exactly why you're there, and you're sure that the other people dating are similar to yourself.
It's easy to get caught up in the serious reasons why fetish dating sites are used. However, let’s face it, the main reason why people use niche fetish dating sites is to have fun.
It can be isolating to have a fetish and not to meet someone who shares the same desires as yourself. This is particularly the case if you live outside of a big city. A fetish dating site enables you to have some fun when you meet people and to explore aspects of your sexuality online.
The other reason why people use fetish dating sites is that they enjoy the simplicity. They don't want to get dressed up in expensive fetish clothes and go to a pricey club. They'd rather stay at home and go online, saving the expense of dating for when they finally meet them in person.
If they are educative, entertaining and have some ‘social momentum’, fetish dating sites such as Fetish.com are great places to meet a partner who enjoys your particular fetish. There are many online but choose carefully when you finally pick one. This could help you to find that fetishist of your dreams!
After reading this, we're sure you want to sign up to Fetish.com (if you're not a member already, of course!). Membership is free. Go on, you may meet the kinkster of your dreams...
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