Navigating the fetish scene in your local city or town isn't always easy, but luckily you have munches to help guide the (wicked) way. So, if you're just dipping your toes in the fetish and kink scene, here's Fetish.com's guide to munches: general, interest-specific and pre-party munches, in fact!


The fetish community is a big and overwhelming one on a global scale, and even on a local level within certain cities, particularly New York.

On average, there are five events happening every night there, ranging from social, to educational, to play-oriented. For a beginner or even an experienced practitioner, just getting their feet wet in the fetish scene, it can be difficult to decide where and how to get started.

The  munch is usually the best way to get started. Here a few different types:
 

General munches


A munch is a gathering of kinksters and people who think they may be kinky. They take place in diners, restaurants, bars, and coffee shops, and attract a variety of folk, depending on which munch you're attending.

Munches are neighbourhood specific and serve as a meeting ground for people looking to learn more about their desires and meet locals who share them. Some attendees choose to take part in munches outside their local area for a little more discretion.

These get-togethers are very casual and relaxed. There is never any pressure to disclose personal information, and conversations vary from kink-related to more universal topics.
 

Interest-specific munches


If you have a foundational knowledge of what peeks your sexual interest, then a more specific munch can better cater to your needs.

For instance, a general munch may be too broad a gathering for someone exclusively interested in pet play. Different regions offer different special interest groups.

Generally speaking, if there's a community for something, even if that community is small, a munch can be started. Some established community munches include: pet play, littles and bigs, submissives, dominants, poly, swingers, AB/DL, kinky introverts, geeky kinksters, book-reading kinksters, knitting kinksters... the list goes on.
 

Organizational munches


The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) sponsors and supports many grassroots and non-profit organisations all over the U.S.

These groups vary by state, but some are nationwide (or nearly so), including TNG or The Next Generation. If you're interested in joining a network of people within your demographic or who share specific interests, then attending a group-affiliated munch is a great starting ground.

Some common groups in the U.S. are Dom sub Friends (DSF), MasT (Masters And slaves Together), the Leather Alliance, and The Eulenspiegel Society (TES).

Membership processes differ by organisation, but for some, it's as easy as attending a munch. Benefits of becoming a member often cover reduced admission at educational classes and play events.
 

Pre-party munches


Ever wanted to go to a play party but didn't want to go alone? Some organisations that host parties will schedule a munch nearby, to meet an hour or two before the fun starts.

This is a fantastic way to meet potential play partners without the pressure of a sexually-charged environment. For those new to the scene, munches are recommended as a means of finding out more about what the party entails before diving in.

Attending the play party afterwards is always optional, but if you decide to go, you won't be alone!
 

Are you a munch lover? If so, tell us your favourites and what you enjoy about them in the comments below. And, if you want to join our sex positive kinky community, sign up to Fetish.com below by simply hitting the button. It's free and offers BDSM dating, kinky chat rooms, local event info and loads more kinky stuff!

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