Looking for some fetish fun but tired of the club scene? Then try online dating. But with so many kinky sites to choose from, it can be hard to know where to start. Fear not, cos here at Fetish.com we've checked them all out! This time, we review the ever-popular FetLife. But does this kink-filled site live up to the hype?


People who love the fetish lifestyle are attracted to kinky dating sites for the networking potential as much as the extras. Where else could you find such a dazzling array of BDSM junkies who are ready to play rough, many of which live just down the road?

Indeed, it’s always good to have back-up when society considers you a pariah, so becoming involved in a social circle as well as a sexual scene can be a confidence boosting ride.


Giving us life!

FetLife has a reputation as one of the best kinky enclaves in the world: it’s at the top of Google's rankings and completely deserves the praise. There are no cheesy porn ads flickering around the pages and the layouts are intuitively designed.

As do many other free kinky dating sites we have reviewed, FetLife makes it easy for users to get results by giving them what they want in a few clicks. The difference is that FetLife works as much as a social network for kinky people as it does a dating site.

Their great customer service begins on a sign-up page which doesn’t demand too much of new recruits. You simply put in the minimum of details, create a user name and you’re off.

Reassuringly, they’ve invested in security, with a human response question and a CAPTCHA box to weed out the bots. When it’s done, you get an automatic email welcoming you aboard and giving you details of their support team.

Furthermore, the message is even signed ‘Your Friend, The FetLife Postman’. It’s a throwaway element, as is the generic welcome message in your inbox as soon as you join, but little touches like that add wit to an otherwise routine procedure and make it feel slightly more personal.


FetLife's blog system for kinksters

Get enough likes or comments and your kinky blog post might get featured on FetLife's Kinky & Popular page

 

Making your profile stand out

You can use photos, link to fetish stuff you love, add or accept friends and elaborate on your lifestyle preferences. The Write feature gives every member a platform to share their kinky (or not) thoughts and images.

It works like changing your status on Facebook or adding a new pin on Pinterest, but if enough people like or comment on your post it could end up on the Kinky & Popular page. Here you have the potential to become an overnight star and all-round sex object by having your Journal, Note, Photo or Video broadcast to the entire FetLife community.

Kinky & Popular entries range from natural, attractive photos to hardcore videos and bondage fantasy literotica. These nestle alongside pretty raw articles like “Mental Health Stigma (or: what the fuck is wrong with people)” and “The reality of an online relationship,” so there’s content for every occasion. What's great about FetLife is that so much of its content is user-generated.

Assuming all you want to do is link up with people in the community, chat, and explore the site, membership is free. Alternatively, for $5 a month, there’s a more customised experience. You can watch videos, block annoying people from your chat and proudly embed an ‘I support FetLife’ badge in your profile.

FetLife's list of fetishes and kinks

FetLife also has a comprehensive tagging system to search for kinks!

 

Global groups

Membership is global, but there’s a Western slant, with the US and the UK forming a majority. However, the Places tab lists numerous other countries and districts, giving you access to a world of established munches, parties and events run by enthusiastic fetishists.

The Groups section provides a dizzying amount of choice, from ‘Being the reason somebody smiles’ to ‘Needle play’ and ‘Smelling pinkie’. The emphasis is less on BDSM relationships and more about acceptance, sharing experiences and making contact.

The Fetish area really lets your individuality shine; from ‘Ice cubes in pigtails’ to ‘Gearstick handjobs’ and ‘Vampires’, it’s all here for the taking. Just select from either ‘curious’ or ‘into it’, then press 'submit' to hangout or chat with people who are feeling what you are.



Chat and community

There is plenty of casual play to be enjoyed via FetLife and the chat option is a great way to initiate a meet-up, but treating it solely as a hook-up list means you’ll miss its full potential. The big picture here is community, with mutual respect and support available to everyone from newbies to experienced BDSM community mentors.

FetLife is not without its critics: many have said that it's not as inclusive as it could be. Still, it has huge amounts of functionality, there’s also enough professional and amateur erotica to make any horny kinkster swoon.

Long-time members are generous with their lifestyle advice and happy to satisfy your curiosity. Better still, you won’t be pining for a BDSM fix night after night: all the perverts you need are right on your doorstep. Whether you’re undecided about fetish dating, or you’re already working the lifestyle, you can’t go wrong with a FetLife profile.
 

Do you love FetLife as much as us? Is there anything about it that gets on your tits? Share your thoughts with our kinky community below. And, if you like FetLife, you'll love Fetish.com. If you're not already a member, sign up below for free BDSM dating, Forum chat, and all the latest fetish news from our sex positive community. 
We're waiting for you, kinksters!
 

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On Friday, November 14, 2014 at 5:10 AM, Guest said:

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[…] people are told to join the FetLife dating site but not given any advice beyond that. In unfamiliar territory without a roadmap, […]

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[…] terms here. There’s pierced, shaved, cut, hair colour, endowed etc. If you’ve been spoilt on S&M dating sites that truly celebrate the lifestyle, this is a […]

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[…] Other than a search, you can use a couple of basic utilities to make connections with other members of the community. Try sending a friend request, find out who your visitors are, or rate people’s pictures. Aside from that, I couldn’t find anywhere to chat, discuss or share any kind of communication with the KinkRed community. This is something that Fetlife, for example, has perfected. […]

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I have been on fetlife for a few years, but never really used it until I moved to a new state. Now I'm finding it very beneficial finding great lifestyle friends, and getting to know play partners I can trust. I also was able to find the dungeon in my area and found it very welcoming. It's a great time to be kinky, even in a "50 Shades" rose tinted world.

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[…] people are told to join FetLife, but not given any advice beyond that. In unfamiliar territory without a roadmap, people tend to […]

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[…] The whole experience of writing this Shinykicks review felt the opposite of kinky: the site is lonely, isolating and makes you feel deflated. The content is terrible, nothing feels current and there’s a complete lack of engagement in the forums. Understandably, most members seem to have abandoned the site and taken their quest for kink elsewhere. […]

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[…] When someone asks, “How do I meet more kinky people?” or, “How do I get involved in the scene?” my response is always the same: join FetLife. […]

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[…] what will be happening. If your main contact with the S&M community is on a dating site like Fetlife, send out invites via an online forum if it’s more convenient. Most guests will, of course, be […]

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I have a little experience in the lifestyle. Being new I had know ideal what it mant to be a dom. I learned it is all about the sub. not sure I would be open to being a awitch but it is a possibilty. I dont like pain but enjoy dishing it out; as long as there is no blood or boddy fluids ( pee, and fecklie matter is a complete no no but having someone else optional to someone else is a posibilty). a Little voyuerism is hot. But like to control the situation. I AM NOT HERE FOR THEIR PLEASURE ALONE.

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