Looking for a BDSMDate review? If you've read many of our previous kinky dating site reviews, you've probably noticed a few trends. A lot of sites seem to promise an immediate connection to a world of gorgeous people who want nothing more than to chain relative strangers to the walls of their comfortable dungeons. Instead, they deliver a pile of pretty pictures, a paywall and a constant barrage of ungrammatical spam. BDSMDate doesn't do any of those things, in fact. It doesn't even seem to have a paid membership function.

BDSMDate Review: First Impressions

The first impression of BDSMDate is that it's rather old-fashioned in its GeoCities-worthy web design; a minimalist black background, no glossy modern design. It looks like it could be from 2006. Honestly, you wouldn't have to change it much to look like 2001's hottest BDSM dating site. Signing is up is simple and free. You fill out a basic form, put in a few details and click a confirmation link. Once you've done that, you can fill out your profile, upload photographs and so on. There are a few site functions – such as messaging other users – that you'll need to fill out a profile to access. Other than that, you can get started searching for profiles to view.

So far, so refreshing: no constant badgering for subscriptions, no army of spambots, no frustrating crippleware.

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So what's the downside to our BDSMDate review?


The downside is that the pool of potential dates on bdsmdate.co.uk seems to be a little … well … little. I live in a moderately large town, but even when I set my search parameters to include a radius that would cover most of London I was only able to come up with about 20 or 30 results – and that was using the simplest search possible. If I refined it – say, to exclude women who weren't looking for men, or to exclude people who expected to be paid – the number would shrink even further. It may be that this is just the flip side of the site's lack of fakery: if there aren't that many people in a category, it doesn't dress them up with ranks of dead profiles. So perhaps we'll give a mixed BDSMDate review.

Overall, there's a general sense of idiosyncrasy about BDSMDate. It's visible in the language choices – do other people call paying for sex “sponsorship”? I've never heard it before. It sounds so worthy – and also in the search options. For instance, I can restrict my search to one of a range from “very light” to “very hard” – but very hard what? I have no idea. Similarly, the list of fetishes you can check on a search runs to eight in total, with “fetish” as one category, but scat and pissing as two separate ones. Do you have a fetish? I'm not sure - It seems a little unbalanced.

As I pondered this curious site, I began to wonder if I wasn't, as the young people say, interrogating the text from the wrong perspective. Perhaps the problem was just that there weren't a lot of the kind of people I was looking for? In the name of science, I created a gay alter-ego and tried the experiment a second time.

 

 

Were my BDSMDate review results any different? Nope; about the same.


Speaking of differing user experiences, before I figured out how to refine the search I clicked on quite a few profiles of women who were not looking to meet men at all, and each of them had a vehement, capitalized, multiple-exclamation-pointed statement informing the world that they weren't looking to meet a man and would not welcome messages from men, sadly suggesting that my fellow straight guys are no better than I am at figuring out how the search function works but significantly worse at reading comprehension.

Overall, then, you don't get a lot from a BDSMDate membership; on the other hand, you do get significantly more than you pay for, since unlike most “free” kinky dating sites it genuinely doesn't appear to cost, or do, anything.

 


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Bdsmdate.com I true scam.... The notifications are bogus, the profiles are fixed, the pictures are recycled. When I sent a negative comment to feedback comment, that was last notification, flirt, comment, or like... The real red flag, my bank declined purchase when I tried to sign up... When I called to give my ok, they told me it was for a London telemarketer. A TELEMARKETER.... All conversations stopped when I asked for real time pics, wonder why? Because, woman on pic wasn't one sending them... Scam. Bogus... Say your money..

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Scam

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That's me out as well then. I got a different strategy tried on. It's gone from computer chat to- 'I need you to sign up to another website so we can fill you out a profile'. Well i've got a profile already, a free one, I dont need an additional paid one. What a load of shite. Anyways fobbed her off for now with 'i need to hunt for my credit card and i cant pay by mobile because my phone is shit.' This has given me time to do all of 2mins research to find out about this. She's getting back in touch at lunchtime. I'm gonna wind her (or him, i could after all be talking to an obese, moo moo wearing sweatyballs) up until the penny drops. It seems the internet is slowly making a troll out of me :-( Oh, the other site was BDSM.com so i'd avoid that one as well.

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I am also on this site and have had nothing but bad experiences. You start talking to a woman that looks hot, and says they are looking for this or that. They are always happy to reply then they start asking you to prove your loyalty, and obedience, then when you think things are going great they ask for sums if money ranging up from £100 for equipment for your date, the accounts and ways of paying fircthiscequipment just looks dodgy as fuck, and it all feels like a scam. It's happened with 4 different women, I personally think that it's a fake website setup to scam innocent fools out if their money. Luckily I'm not a moron and I won't pay any money out until I know you are real. Heads up people ask for verification: a phone convo, a picture with a sign and date on, various options. I for 1 am done with it.

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