In our series of kinky dating website reviews, we browse around BDSM.com. But will this kinky website connect you with the fetish community or just leave you feeling short-changed?
 

Hair: brown. Eyes: blue. The problem with most dating sites is that there's no box to tick for “I will snarl hateful obscenities in your ear while you whimper in pain.” And that's not an easy subject to bring up with strangers. Few conversation topics lead naturally to it.

The answer: kinky dating sites like BDSM.com, where you can learn someone's corporal punishment preferences before you hear about their first pet. But does BDSM.com have anything going for it other than a really good URL?

This kinky dating website looks promising at first glance. Signup is quick and straightforward. Additionally, the automatically-displayed member photos at least pass a quick proxy smell check.
 

The real costs of BDSM.com

Initially, membership is of this kinky dating website is free, but that just allows you inside. It's a pretty hard sell right from the beginning. As soon as you sign up BDSM.com hits you with a page of add-ons that can be bought immediately. These range from “all the bondage movies you can handle,” to enhancing your profile in the listings or enabling standard members to message you directly.

There’s also the option to upgrade to silver or premium membership. Paying in a lump sum is far more economical if you can afford it. In essence, these monetised options allow you to reach out to those kinky contacts you like and to get noticed faster. Additionally, there's the option of round the clock phone support and the ability to create community blogs and live member videos.
 

Options without a paying membership on BDSM.com

There is little you can do without a paid membership on BDSM.com.You can search for other members, which returns their ages, locations, genders and a thumbnail photo, but that's it. You can't even view another member's profile with a free membership.

However, on the plus side, the search is fast and easy to customise, with plenty of options. You can limit your search to new members, search by kink, save searches for future reuse and more. It's not a bad search tool, except for the part that free users don't really benefit from it. Of course, from the perspective of the developers that might not be a bad thing. Running a fetish dating site like BDSM.com isn't free, after all, and they obviously want to turn free users into paying members.
 

Accessing a social community on BDSM.com

There are a few things you can do on BDSM.com. For example, you can read blogs, join discussion boards, check out the advice columns, and so on. Essentially, the social community aspects of BDSM.com are free, but the actual fetish dating site is a paid service.

As with any kinky dating website, you get what you pay for in terms of the content you'll find in the blogs on BDSM.com. If you don't mind a lot of excited capital letters you might find some interesting perspectives. Forums do seem to be pretty active. Some are organised by interests, while others are regional.
 

How BDSM.com can help you

Within our kinky dating reviews, BDSM.com isn't an exception: The more you put in the more you get out. If you like plenty of attention and twenty private messages a day, just get involved, chat in the forum, vote in polls and comment on blogs that catch your eye. If you want to become part of the scene and meet similarly kinky guys and girls there are plenty of events that enable this.

After making friends online you can go along to munches for an informal chat about BDSM lifestyle and have a chance to network with a wider circle of kinky individuals.

Not convinced by this review? Then check out Fetish.com's verdicts on other kinky dating websites.

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There are a lot of genuine members here however it was very disappointing, ,living in a country with not many members to be baited and switched at the end of my subscriptions twice and find a lot of the "members" were the creation-only fakes to pad out the numbers. The first time I fell for it, the second I didn't. My advice is to give this site a try but be wary because it is just as unscrupulous as the bad ones at times.

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