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Posted

I am very interested in this. I am a sub who’s visible life is busy, responsible, professional, organised, successful and happy. 

I am a sub who enjoys all aspects of 24/7 and (not but) I would love to explore topping from the bottom.....

question to subs:

how have you done this/ considered it/ managed it (as a scene?)

question to Doms:

what would you like if you were topped??

 

.....anything goes......

Mrchristopher70
Posted
I think it's more about comunication during play ..manly for me because I do not switch .. I am who I am .
Posted
18 minutes ago, Mrchristopher70 said:

I think it's more about comunication during play ..manly for me because I do not switch .. I am who I am .

Could you imagine?!!! I wouldn’t even attempt to switch..... I wouldn’t change a thing about you xxx

Posted

ery interesting topic...

My role with Sir is also set in stone, we would never switch. However, out of scene we talk openly about what we would both like to explore and I am clear about fantisies I have, and elements of play I want to try and how this could play out. I know Sir will take this on board and will incorporate it at some point as he choses. Being his Sub I see it as my responsibility to respond to him in scene as he wishes and try hard to please him in this way. I feel it would be disrespectful of me to try and change his thought process in scene to meet my own needs? Im interested to read responses on this though as im such a new sub im open to others opinions.

I have read a lot on this topic after you highlighted it to me Firewitch, and it appears many hold the term "topping from the bottom" with negative connotations. That perhaps it can be seen as Sub doing a poor job? However, my interpretation is that it is about ensuring the Sub feels empowered to speak their mind out of scene to ensure their needs are also met?

Ive also noted from reading on the topic is that some behaviours occur from the sub...pulling away from their Dom/suggesting different toys/refusing elements of the scene without good reason can be manipulative to ensure they are punished...as this then meets their own needs. I must admit I can be a handful for Sir if I think it may lead to a significant spanking!

Early days in our journey I was definately topping from the bottom and telling Sir to loosen the clamps or spank a little harder. Now Its different, although Sir sometimes checks in with me throughout the scene, if I want something harder/like it etc he makes me beg for it...still giving me what I crave but maintaining complete dominance. 

I think ultimately its a fine balance and depends on how people personally define topping from the bottom.

Posted
6 hours ago, SubmissiveNix said:

ery interesting topic...

My role with Sir is also set in stone, we would never switch. However, out of scene we talk openly about what we would both like to explore and I am clear about fantisies I have, and elements of play I want to try and how this could play out. I know Sir will take this on board and will incorporate it at some point as he choses. Being his Sub I see it as my responsibility to respond to him in scene as he wishes and try hard to please him in this way. I feel it would be disrespectful of me to try and change his thought process in scene to meet my own needs? Im interested to read responses on this though as im such a new sub im open to others opinions.

I have read a lot on this topic after you highlighted it to me Firewitch, and it appears many hold the term "topping from the bottom" with negative connotations. That perhaps it can be seen as Sub doing a poor job? However, my interpretation is that it is about ensuring the Sub feels empowered to speak their mind out of scene to ensure their needs are also met?

Ive also noted from reading on the topic is that some behaviours occur from the sub...pulling away from their Dom/suggesting different toys/refusing elements of the scene without good reason can be manipulative to ensure they are punished...as this then meets their own needs. I must admit I can be a handful for Sir if I think it may lead to a significant spanking!

Early days in our journey I was definately topping from the bottom and telling Sir to loosen the clamps or spank a little harder. Now Its different, although Sir sometimes checks in with me throughout the scene, if I want something harder/like it etc he makes me beg for it...still giving me what I crave but maintaining complete dominance. 

I think ultimately its a fine balance and depends on how people personally define topping from the bottom.

 I like this and is very much in line with what I was thinking and how it could be managed. The communication is so important and provides a great opportunity to explore wants/ needs. 

I like the notion of the “temptress” and this can be achieved in a variety of scenarios/ scenes. 

I haven’t and won’t request or instruct but trust that Sir knows when I’m nearing my limit at that time. 

I too like to be “a handful” which I can’t help even if I know I will be in more trouble!!!

Mrchristopher70
Posted

Your always in trouble you know I keep a list !!!!!!! C

PatientTraveller
Posted

Just a thought.....wondering if, Firewitch is mixing seduction with topping from the bottom, you have be careful that you don't mix seduction with manipulation.....manipulation isn't health for you or your partner.

However seduction is an art and is a wonderful element to have in a relationship...the sweet dance between fighting or giving into temptation....alway great to play with as the temptress may get more than they have bargained for.

 

 

 

Posted

Interesting topic ,

before I comment further Firewitch are we in agreement Thomas topping from the bottom is 

trying be “boss” while being dominated ?

Goose

😉

Posted
2 hours ago, goosebumpgiver said:

Interesting topic ,

before I comment further Firewitch are we in agreement Thomas topping from the bottom is 

trying be “boss” while being dominated ?

Goose

😉

Yes 😊


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