Reyhoney Posted December 10, 2017 Please, can you help me understand this? This guy I’ve been seeing has expressed his love for rough sex, he said none of his ex’s ever entertained him in it and were against it, I was naturally into it and I didn’t mind it, we started having sex after a while and it got rough, it got pretty rough that I’ve actually cried during it once (big fantasy of his). Anyway we had sex like this for a while but we still had other types of vanilla sex, but rough was our default. One day I expressed to him that I love him and he froze, he said that because the sex got so rough he had to numb his feelings for me in order to keep having it. He said he tried to tone the roughness down but I wasn’t into it (?) and he said the rough sex was too much for him. Anyway, I’m confused and broken-hearted, is there any truth to this? Did he have to dehumanize me in order to have sex with me that way? I feel sort of betrayed cause rough sex is all he ever talked about. Is it just an excuse to end our relationship? Any insights would be very helpful. Thank you.