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My own journey into financial domination

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ErikFantasy
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I did not consider myself as a paypig/money slave or whatever. Yes I was a sub, highly into soft/mild domination (I love worshipping, Tease and denial and plenty of other stuffs but nothing too drastic as torture or stuff like that). To be honest more that once a Domme tried with me a tip game (maybe a little introduction to financial domination) and it was always a turn off for me.

Until I met Her !
On Her profile She was into feet tease and body worshipping and this day I wanted that. Of course Her beauty instantly caught my eyes. But well there are a lot of beautiful Domme no? (and even more beautiful wannabe Domme unfortunatly). But not only that. The way She was sitting, the way She was dressed...

This first night was crazy ! She was so busy with many slaves/sub/users coming in and out of Her « room » (the virtual one of course). I could not catch Her, but finally at the end of the night She did notice me and invite me in Her private. I would not talk to much about the session because it is a bit too personal for me, but it was only about body worship and especially feet. What a delight, and the waiting was totally worth the pleasure. I was not a faithful sub you know. First because online it is easier to find a « fake » mistress or a wannabe one who think screaming all the time and being wrapped in leather give her power and authority, but even when I was in session with real Domme I could not stand to one. I don’t know why.

Anyway the day after I came back to Her room. And here start the the devilish doom for my bank account, and my personal heavenly bliss with Her. She knew I was not into findomme I told Her previously. This day She made me tip ridiculously low amount of money to Her during the session while we were still doing the more « normal » stuff domme/sub. I don’t know how She managed to tame me but one month later I was paying for Her new Iphone. And guess what ? I even did feel sexual excitement doing that. 15 days later it was the moment for new heels and one month and half later it was now the time for Her well deserved vacation to be tributed by me.

It has been over a year now. A year since I met Her. I don’t feel anymore the need to see any others Domme and to seek for them now. And yes, I can only admit now, financial domination is one of my fetish. One of them ? Maybe now even the the most important one !

I still have regular sessions with Her. Even if it is often about pleasure for both of us sometimes it is just about conversation. As a true Domme she has a lot of culture and knowledge, and it is a real pleasure for me to try to discover more about Her to try to serve Her better. And She is probably doing the same over me, increasing step by step Her control over me by knowing me better, knowing what makes me tick, and maybe even rearranging my desires.

She knows my financial situation, my income. I’m not that rich, i have modest income. We both know She could have taken everything or nearly if She really wanted. But She is a rare Domme that value the sacrifice and not necessary the amount. I’m not sure about that, but in a way (the true Domme-sub/slave way) She cares about me I think. Yes, She could have be more greedy, but She is smart enough to see I’m faithful to Her and think about the long-run. And I really thank Her for that. How many wannabe Domme would have jump on the moment to destroy the life of a guy with no ulterior motives ? She did not. Of course She can be sweetly greedy and so irresistible when She knows the moment has come.

Since the first vacation I paid for Her, a long list of other stuffs is to add. And now I’m so addicted and aroused that even when I can’t offer what She wants I feel so bad. But She knows that. And She knows that I will try as hard as possible to remedy to that as soon as I can. And sometimes I’m even rewarded for that, even when She knows I can’t tribute right away.

This « relationship » domme-sub is such a bliss for me. She really made me happy because I could find that missing piece of my personality’s puzzle ! She really changed my life in a beautiful and sastifying way ! She has my eternal gratitude for that.

What do you think about my experience ? How did your findom appear fetish guys ? Or did u always know about it ?

Thanks for reading me and sorry for this long text. Oh and by the way even if my english is correct, I'm not native so my apologize for the mistakes !

 

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eyemblacksheep
Posted

it's an interesting tale.

A good Dominant should always care about their subs limits and well beings.

 

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callipygian
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Interesting and 'good' to hear the experience form the other end of the stick (i know i should use other words there!).

Doesn't work for me in any respect - as a kink or a turn on - but if it does for any other then fair enough and c;'est la vie.

Without intruding it would be interesting to know the kinda figures we are talking about here - to put it into some kind of perspective.  And that could come from anyone experience.

Also wondered if there were any male findoms??  (is that the right terminology) and females that considered that a kink and par take in it?

 

 

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eyemblacksheep
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Male Findoms are 'Cash Masters' - they often have male subs who prefer a male Dominant - but - sometimes female subs.

A friend of mine, a female sub, earned a lot more money than her partner and enjoyed handing it over to him and being given an 'allowance' so to speak - which is still a form of Financial domination.  

callipygian
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Cheers Eyem....

The whole 'dynamic' of it is interesting and also how it reflects the general state of play with  'life' today. (looking at the bigger picture)

Could probably rant on about it for ages - which is probably best done over numerous drinks and many days ;)

But the power shift is interesting and as you mention - who holds the purse strings .

Maybe it is a brave new world out there?  (which is only loosely meant to be a cultural reference - is it??)

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ErikFantasy
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7 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

A good Dominant should always care about their subs limits and well beings.

I totally agree with you. Unfortunatly with the democratization of the fetish world some dom(mes) may tend to think it is only about a selfish pleasure without caring about anything else. Like it is a way to liberate all your low instincts without any consequences. Being brat and yelling at people is not being dominant (except roleplay), it is just being an asshole !

Well i'm happy it is not the case here.

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eyemblacksheep
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It's something I could talk about for hours despite it not being my fetish - I've been around long enough to see some of the good and the bad and the problems.   Usually being a case of getting into role with someone who hasn't consented to it.  Both men and women can be guilty of this in times in their own ways : basically anyone who contacts a stranger assuming a role.

There are women who think findom is easy money (as there are guys who think kink is easy sex) and they both end up being disappointed (though - somehow we seem to defend the guys but not the women) 

Any effective relationship regardless of how it's consisted needs both people to be happy with whatever arrangement.

Moving away from finance, but just as relevant, the "whatever the Dominant wants" trope asks the question of "why do you wish to give that Dominant what they want" and the answer likely being that there is something you get out of it, be it your fetishes, new experiences and so forth

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ErikFantasy
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Of course any relationship cant be totally disinteressed, we all seek hapiness that can take very different forms from one individual from another.

 

On 10/05/2018 at 1:10 AM, eyemblacksheep said:

(though - somehow we seem to defend the guys but not the women) 

Yes the fact that some men are just "all we do anything you want mistress" to someone they just see 15 sec before is kinda desorientating for domme too, cuz yes as you said in fact they just want easy sex. I have no problem with people who have just a fantasy about it, but the fact it comes unclear in their head, it is harder for the domme to identify who is who.

 

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eyemblacksheep
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I dunno, most Dominants know when someone says "I'll do anything" that they're not worth their while - because - a- they won't do 'anything' - b - coercing information out of them about what they like, might like, etc. and if they'd be compatible is harder work than needs be.


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