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Fairylight
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Am i doing something wrong? I like to think that as a submissive when a Dom messages me to chat i am respectful, but also human but the last few weeks i feel i may be getting it wrong? Are there rules? Have i got the etiquette wrong? Any advice would be greatly appreciated as i seem to be getting passed up for someone better more often than not!

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SirPiggy
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I very much doubt you are doing anything wrong, being polite and following etiquette is what should be done.

if a Dom or Domme for that matter cannot at first get to know the real person behind the picture/profile then it's far better to be patient and wait for the right person to come along.

i wouldn't worry if I were you.

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Posted

My best advice here is talk to Saphy....she will guide you in etiquette and protocol from a sub perspective....her knowledge base is immense in all of the above...but from me the best words of advice I can give you is DON'T LOSE FAITH....have a positive mental approach...what you think about you bring about....negativity breeds negativity!!!!!

Have faith hun.....

Takeitlikeaman
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14 minutes ago, SirPiggy said:

I very much doubt you are doing anything wrong, being polite and following etiquette is what should be done.

if a Dom or Domme for that matter cannot at first get to know the real person behind the picture/profile then it's far better to be patient and wait for the right person to come along.

i wouldn't worry if I were you.

Your always polite piggy.😘

14 minutes ago, SirPiggy said:

I very much doubt you are doing anything wrong, being polite and following etiquette is what should be done.

if a Dom or Domme for that matter cannot at first get to know the real person behind the picture/profile then it's far better to be patient and wait for the right person to come along.

i wouldn't worry if I were you.

 

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SirPiggy
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4 minutes ago, Takeitlikeaman said:

Your always polite piggy.😘

 

I am Madame.

some people don't like polite though or following etiquette.

i do know that some so called Doms can be very blunt to a point of being ignorant.

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Persona of *Dom* can all to often be interpreted in a cold calculated way....it really doesn't need to be and in a lot of cases will detract from the very essence of what the term Dominant is all about...all to often the need to be overtly assertive/controlling will backfire if used inappropriately....its something that needs to be controlled and introduced in phases...hence communication becomes the deriding factor...but for Fairylight these "Dom's" are lacking in etiquette and the base level of good wholesome communication....like all good presents...you take care to peel away the wrapping to reveal the prize!!!!!!
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Fairylight
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Thank you for the comments, i dont necessarily think its the Doms lacking in etiquette because as far as i can see they do well with who im passed over for 😂 im pretty sure its something im doing/not doing?  The faith is slowly ebbing away though but until its completely gone im still here, still chatting 😊

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Keep the faith hun....
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Mrchristopher70
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I see the main problem here as first and foremost the need to treat any Interaction as Just getting to know someone and from what I have heard that is sorely lacking. The wade in nature is far too prevalent. And thus the reaction they get if not of there liking they then move on to someone they think they can get it all these own way .these are people that you don't want so don't worry I'm sure the right one will come along patience is the key
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Fairylight
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Oh MrC patience is a virtue i lack unfortunately! 😂😂

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Chat too me and see the difference??? I'm a soft DD so maybe that's what you need so you can evaluate the difference... Only trying to help ok x
IvyVogele
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Unfortunately I've been here, a lot of people coming into this scene tend to be a bit crass; for lack of a better word. There isn't anything wrong with you per se, just their perception on how to start a conversation. I tend to be very sarcastic with these people, striking up a conversation is a varying thing but it shouldn't make you feel like you're doing something wrong. When I first started out I was in your shoes and I went to the person who trained me and asked him and he laughed and told me that those people are way out of their depth and just threw themselves ten paces ahead of where they should be. He told me to just smile and tell them to back up a little and start with a hello. Start out with a Hi/Hello and be civil, pace them if you want to. Nothing's wrong with you, you're just experiencing what everyone else has. Hope this helps.

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I think it’s a lot like starting a regular relationship too, not even Domme will want to talk to you. There has to be the right dynamic and feeling for both parties. You might just tick one Dommes particular set of boxes but completely not even register for another. Just a case of finding the right one really. Good luck :)

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