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Someone said Female Dominance is wrong?

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I was talking to someone the other day about bdsm lifestyles and something she said really bothered me: "female dominance is wrong. Shouldn't it be male being Dom? Kinda weird, ya know?" Several things popped in my mind. I tried to explain to her she's being sexist and it's not wrong at all. She kept wanting to interrupt me and act like she's right and I'm wrong. I eventually got up and left. 

What do you say? Did I do the right thing? I feel bad for calling her out like that...

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Posted
What an odd thing to tell you!?!? That’s a typical narrow minded line that someone who doesn’t understand the bdsm world would say. Nothing (excluding the obvious children/animals etc) in bdsm is wrong. We all have different fetishes & different roles & each person is entitled to their own but stating someone can’t play a role because of their gender is just bizarre. You keep doing your thing & ignore any moronic comment 😊
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Fimus
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So long as it is done with informed consent, there is no "wrong". The end
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I have encountered similar beliefs in the past (generally from people I quickly realized I have no desire to be friends with), then again I once met someone who thinks planes leave chem trails to increase the cloud cover to we cant see the aliens controlling our weather. People can believe what they like and we are free to point at them and laugh at them for being total wankpuffins.
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There are dominant people, there are submissive people and tgere are those inbetween who lovr to switch it up (pun deffinatly intended). Gender has nothing to do with it
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3SumQueen
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It's an old fashioned view that is considered sexist today but some people still hold it. People submit when they decide to, not just because of their gender.

I wouldn't feel bad about having your own opinions, she can have hers too. Debating them isn't a bad thing.

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eyemblacksheep
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a lot depends where she gets her source from - a lot of fiction is M/f orientated.  And of course as has been said that there's a rather old school view that men are Dominant, women are submissive - men that are submissive are lesser and women that are Dominant are just acting to appease male subs.   Which is all bollocks, really.

But, you can understand where misconceptions come from.

I wouldn't say call her out, as such, merely correct - that these days it's not uncommon for anyone in any dynamics.

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Posted
Some people are narrow minded and are unable to see things from a different perspective it looks as if you’re open minded enough to be able to see the bigger picture!
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3SumQueen
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Additionally, I think it's offensive also to you personally because there is no man in your relationship. She could be having a snidey dig right there.

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I don't see how anyone can say it's wrong. What's wrong to them could be right for everybody else. I would keep in mind the pedestal she placed herself on might not be as sturdy as she thinks. I definitely don't think female domination is wrong. 

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SweetBitch
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#1. Don't feel bad!! Why do you feel bad? Because your opinion is different than hers?? She had no issue with her opinion. #2. She is obviously naive and uninformed. #3. Why does either have to be right or wrong???
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