I’ve been scouring this site to see people’s views and perceptions of punishments and rewards. And of course, it’s a very subjective matter as there’s limits, preferences, and people’s opinions as well.
So let’s talk about what I consider punishments to be first:
Since I tend to like more extreme things, and have a higher tolerance, I’m going to need something that is more severe- especially since I have bratty tendencies, I’m looking to be corrected. And a punishment can be a NUMBER of things. Ex: infliction, control/restriction of outter communication (eg. family, friends); sensory deprivation, being tied up in a stress position (minutes, hours, days), , water boarding. Quite frankly I could go on. I want that psyche involvement. Make me so scared of you that I don’t want to act out because I know the punishment will be severe. I feel like with a M/s dynamic or most BDSM dynamics, the person who is not in a position of power should feel a sense of toward to person in power as a result of respect being integrated into the person who is not in power within the dynamic.
Now for rewards! Yay!:
Rewards are generally subjective to the sub/slave/pet/etc. personally, I love being rewarded with praise, cuddles and direct attention, taking care of any bruises or cuts you inflicted on me, princess treatment, less time in a stress position, allowing me to see my friends or go do something special, etc.
rewards shouldn’t be over given - as this sets the scene for greed and a sense of being spoiled, then the brattiness will never be corrected. But rewards are necessary because I need to know when I’m doing good, and you approve of those certain actions or you’re pleased with how I am.
But i definitely want to hear other peoples opinions, and what type of rewards/punishments you give or receive.
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On FET, we're here for the full kinky spectrum. That includes submission in all its forms, of course, but also everything beyond it: BDSM, roleplay, power dynamics, sensual curiosity, niche desires, and real community vibes.
Because kink isn't one-size-fits-all. And neither is attraction.
Strength in Submission — and a Real Community Behind It
FET isn't a marketplace where subs get treated like products on a shelf.
We're a respectful, global kinkster community where power exchange is celebrated with intelligence, warmth, and mutual consent.
- Some members find freedom in the act of surrendering control.
- Some crave the clarity, structure, and guidance of serving a dominant partner.
- Some are drawn to the devotion, the discipline, and the deep emotional trust submission builds.
Whatever form your submission takes, you're valued here.
This is fetish dating at its most empowering: respectful, intentional, and completely real.
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This space is for women seeking men who understand that submission is a gift, not a given.
- Maybe you're a submissive woman looking for a dominant partner who earns your trust before your obedience.
- Maybe you're into service, protocol, or the emotional depth of a structured D/s relationship.
- Maybe mainstream dating has never had room for this side of you.
- Or maybe you're a guy ready for a space where submissive dating is built on respect, not entitlement.
On FET, you'll find people who take power exchange seriously, because they know real dominance starts with earning it.
Submissive Personals That Respect the Dynamic
Mainstream apps don't know what to do with a sub who knows exactly what they want.
That's why submissive personals flourish on FET.
You can:
- Build a profile that expresses your submissive identity with nuance
- Post a free Kinky Ad spelling out the dynamic you're seeking
- Send a Spank to someone whose profile commands your attention
- Engage in direct, honest conversations with compatible kinksters in the BDSM Chat
- Learn and share experiences through the Forum
Whether you want bedroom-only submission, a 24/7 dynamic, or something still forming in your mind, this is where you'll find others exploring the same spectrum.
More Than Just Submissive Dating
FET is one of the most supportive spaces online for submissives, but it was never designed to put you in a single box.
FET is:
- Where subs are treated as full people, not roles to be filled.
- Where consent education is woven into the culture.
- Where exploring submission often leads to understanding yourself on a deeper level.
Curious About D/s Dynamics or Service Submission?
Some kinksters want bedroom-only power exchange. Others are drawn to lifestyle D/s with protocols, rituals, and deep structure.
On FET, you navigate your own path:
- You choose how deep your submission goes.
- You negotiate every expectation before you kneel.
- You build the dynamic around what genuinely fulfills you.
No one-size-fits-all collars here. Just kinksters building dynamics that work.
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