Most of us grow up believing that hypnosis is swinging a pendulum in front of someone’s face as the hypnotizer counts down and puts the person into a trancelike state. There are many myths around this, but the facts are vastly different than these Hollywood depictions. In fact, each website and book I look at have a slightly different description of what hypnosis is and whether it’s safe and works well. Even medical opinions vs. spiritual ones vary widely. So what is erotic hypnotism play as a fetish? Is it safe, sane, and consensual?
For me, hypnoplay (aka hypnosis play) is about putting someone in an altered state of consciousness for reasons involving BDSM. Because hypnosis is great for relaxation as well, it’s helpful for quieting the voices in our heads and dropping our inhibitions and judgments. This, in turn, opens us to a deeper level of submission and sensation.
Erotic hypnotism is perfect for causing fifteen-minute orgasms, for mind fuckery, re-contextualizing trauma, humiliation, and so on. From my personal experience, hypnoplay is the same as subspace. So if my Dom tells me to feel his cock in all my holes at once, I feel him in all holes at once!
Safe, Sane, and Consensual
I’m going to go out of order here because I really want, to begin with, the consensual portion. According to WebMD, you cannot be hypnotized unwillingly. This means that it isn’t possible to force hypnosis on someone. It has to be consensual, or it’s not feasible, though negotiating still needs to take place beforehand.
Is it sane? This is a matter of opinion, but so do most of the BDSM practices I run into. Many medical professionals use hypnosis to relax patients and treat ailments. The Mayo Clinic says that hypnosis can be used to change undesired behaviors. Which fits Dominant and submissive relationships that involve training and behavior modification. The fact that medical professionals use it makes it sane to me.
Is it safe? To be sure, I asked my therapist. She went through the usual questions of consent and communication around boundaries, then asked if my Dom was being responsible. She explained variables, stages of consciousness, and how we have to be careful what we ‘suggest’ to people when they are in that state. While I don’t feel hypnoplay is unsafe, I do agree we have to be careful. When we have someone in this altered state, we can cause just as much harm as good. Vigilance is vital. The deeper we take someone, the more susceptible they are to suggestions.
If the person hypnotizing isn’t that experienced yet, I suggest good communication about what to do if something goes wrong. Have a backup plan or two. Which will go a long way for building trust, which makes a vast difference in effectiveness.
Like with any other kinky fetish, there is always a need for aftercare. The person doing the hypnosis needs to be sure their subject has come back up and returned to normal headspace. If this doesn’t happen, it’s like sending a confused, drunk person out to drive a car. You must take care of your submissive or subject until they are safely returned to normal.
Hypnoplay is a fantastic way to expand your kinky experience. It makes way for deeper and more fulfilling experiences. Just remember, trust and care are necessary. So read books, watch others in action, and plan plan plan! Submission this intense is worth the effort!