Monogamous

Monogamous Archetype in BDSM

Are people monogamous in BDSM relationships?

Monogamy is when you have one relationship at a time. It is the expected norm in vanilla relationships but is also very popular in the kink community too. In vanilla society, monogamists partner up with just one other person and that is often for many years at a time. Some get married, others have civil unions but any relationship between two people with a sexual/romantic connection is counted as monogamy.

Within BDSM the definition is slightly different, in that a monogamous Dom and sub are likely to keep most kink and sexual play between themselves. Strict monogamists will commit to only having kink or sexual play with one person.

The line between monogamy and non-monogamy is definitely blurred. However, there are those within monogamy who aren’t quite as strict. They may have exceptions to the rule of only being with their partner. For example, when it comes to play. If one partner is into a particular fetish or aspect of BDSM that the other doesn’t enjoy they may do this one thing with another, pre-agreed person from time to time. They may have agreements that allow for one partner to demonstrate certain BDSM play with others or that the person can be a rope bunny for another person under certain circumstances.

Kinky men who are monogamous All men

E-dUbBs

E-dUbBs

Male (37)    180 cm, 75 kg

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London, UK

BeardedSi

BeardedSi

Male (34)

Friends, Events & Places, Networking

Chester, UK

Lesta

Lesta

Male (20)    178 cm, 90 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Pic Exchange, Cybersex

Leicester, UK

wilkie

wilkie

Male (61)    185 cm, 90 kg

Friends, Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Networking

Chelmsford, UK

Snufkinheart

Snufkinheart

Male (51)    185 cm, - kg

BDSM Lovers, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Kinky Dates, Friends

Diss, UK

AdamWest

AdamWest

Male (30)    169 cm, 79 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Swingers, Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Events & Places

London, UK

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Firewitch

Firewitch

Female (41)

Friends

Leicester, UK

Bluerose

Bluerose

Female (27)    162 cm, - kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, LTR (relationship)

Gravesend, UK

Lithorn

Lithorn

Female (38)    162 cm, 72 kg

LTR (relationship)

Everett, USA

F8d

F8d

Female (37)

Friends, Cybersex

Dublin, USA

Tactile2468

Tactile2468

Female (42)    157 cm, 55 kg

BDSM Lovers, Friends, LTR (relationship), Events & Places, Networking

Cardiff, UK

jayjaysub

jayjaysub

Female (51)    167 cm, 85 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, LTR (relationship), Events & Places, Networking

Wolverhampton, UK

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RayandDanisj

RayandDanisj

Male/Female (48/52)    -/- cm, -/- kg

Events & Places, Networking

San Jose, USA

MrandMrsRouge

MrandMrsRouge

Female/Male (34/29)    -/175 cm, -/79 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, NSA (no strings...), Swingers, Events & Places

Oxford, UK

sircadianandsub

sircadianandsub

Male/Female (66/57)    188/164 cm, 110/127 kg

Friend with benefits, LTR (relationship)

Calcot, UK

Luna_Bull

Luna_Bull

Female/Male (30/35)    167/183 cm, -/70 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), Swingers, Events & Places

Hampton, UK

LesbianDominant

LesbianDominant

Female/Female (29/28)    152/149 cm, 180/120 kg

BDSM Lovers, Friends, Networking

Topeka, USA

Offgrid_couple

Offgrid_couple

Male/Female (30/29)    190/167 cm, 69/50 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Events & Places

Bournemouth, UK

Which BDSM archetype matches well with a monogamist?

The general rule of thumb is that if the vast majority of your BDSM, romantic and sexual play is with one specific partner, you are monogamous. If you regularly play with others in any of these aspects, then you are more likely to be non-monogamous and match with another non-monogamous kinkster.

How do monogamous kinksters symbolise their relationship?

A connection could be symbolised with a collar, which has a similar purpose to a wedding ring. There can also be a collaring service which is very much like a wedding as people gather to watch two people commit to one another to the exclusion of others.

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