Non-monogamous

Non-Monogamous BDSM Archetype

What is a non-monogamist?

Non-monogamists break with the societal tradition of having just one partner at a time. They will prefer to be in an open relationship. They can be called polyamorous. They don’t see sex or kink as something to keep between themselves and just one other person. They can have several partners at once, these can be just for play or more serious relationships. Every non-monogamist will have different approaches to non-monogamy.

Polyamorists will have, or look to be in, more than one relationship. These will be more than play and sex, and involve a romantic and/or intimate aspect. Swingers may be married or in a committed relationship with one person but they will indulge in kink or sexual play with other people too. Swingers can be single, it’s not all about wife-swapping. Anyone not in a monogamous relationship can be referred as polyamorous.

Non-monogamists can indulge in all kinds of fetishes and kink play. They can be Dominant, submissive or switch if they’re into BDSM. They will rarely be slaves as devotion to one Master or Mistress doesn’t come easy to them. However, they might work well in a relationship with multiple slaves and one or more dominant partner.

Kinky men who are non-monogamous All men

Blu58

Blu58

Male (60)    183 cm, 82 kg

BDSM Lovers, Friends, NSA (no strings...), Swingers, Pic Exchange, Events & Places, Kinky Dates, LTR (relationship)

Ainderby Steeple, UK

Sissy4unow

Sissy4unow

Male (36)

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Swingers, Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Events & Places, Networking

North Shields, UK

northern_dom

northern_dom

Male (44)    188 cm, 100 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Events & Places, Networking

Newcastle upon Tyne, UK

daddywantsit

daddywantsit

Male (67)    178 cm, - kg

Friend with benefits, BDSM Lovers

Torrevieja, Spain

Fenrir

Fenrir

Male (52)    188 cm, - kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), Events & Places

Stevenage, UK

Shent

Shent

Male (27)    180 cm, 74 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Cybersex, Events & Places

Barton, UK

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BerryBrighton

BerryBrighton

Women (37)    150 cm, - kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates

Brighton and Hove, UK

Bendtheknee101

Bendtheknee101

Women (31)    177 cm, 75 kg

BDSM Lovers, Friends, LTR (relationship), Events & Places

Egham, UK

littlelunastar

littlelunastar

Women (32)    130 cm, 39 kg

BDSM Lovers, Friends, Events & Places, Networking

Briarwood, USA

Submonkay

Submonkay

Women (33)    165 cm, 98 kg

Friends, Events & Places, Networking

Ely, UK

Katiefox

Katiefox

Women (23)

Friends, NSA (no strings...), Events & Places, Networking

London, UK

CuteAsSin

CuteAsSin

Women (31)

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, LTR (relationship), Events & Places, Networking

Todmorden, UK

Kinky couples who are non-monogamous All couples

Basicouple

Basicouple

Women/Male (35/50)    170/- cm, 53/- kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship)

Basingstoke, UK

Cade

Cade

Male/Women (44/28)    180/167 cm, 64/45 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, LTR (relationship)

Lakeland, USA

Annie123

Annie123

Women/Male (27/26)    168/175 cm, 55/69 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, NSA (no strings...), Swingers, Events & Places, Pic Exchange

Cuddington, UK

pjandn1997

pjandn1997

Women/Male (21/44)    -/- cm, -/- kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), Swingers, Cybersex, Events & Places, Networking

Swindon, UK

ToysRus916

ToysRus916

Women/Male (31/31)    170/177 cm, 135/117 kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Swingers, Networking

Sacramento, USA

Kinkygermans69

Kinkygermans69

Women/Male (33/39)    -/204 cm, -/- kg

BDSM Lovers, Kinky Dates, Friends, NSA (no strings...), LTR (relationship), Pic Exchange, Cybersex, Networking

Beaumont, USA

 Which BDSM archetype matches well with a non-monogamist?

A non-monogamist might be in a relationship with one person but indulge in kink, fetish or sexual play with one or more other people. They tend to match up with other non-monogamists as they can find it difficult to be in a relationship with just one other person. They look for interactions with a number of different partners.

Common misconceptions about non-monogamists

Non-monogamists are not cheaters. They don’t take on a monogamous relationship and indulge in other relationships without their partner’s knowledge. Non-monogamists are careful to let all their partners know what is to be expected. Not all of a non-monogamist’s partners will play with each other, they may not even know each other very well. However, all partners will be aware that the non-monogamist isn’t exclusively in a relationship with them.

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