Vanilla

Vanilla Archetype

What is a vanilla?

Vanilla people stick to the standards in sexual play and roles. For example they’re most likely to be in heterosexual, monogamous relationships. By sheer definition members of the LGBTQI community aren’t vanilla even though you could argue what the definition of standard is when referencing sexuality.

There’s nothing wrong with this, even though vanilla is often used as a derogatory term by kinksters. It’s often seen as being boring and normal. However, not everyone has a particular fetish or kink and so vanilla sex is exactly what they need and want.

Some vanilla people will go on to find out they have specific fetishes and kinks but the majority will be happy always having vanilla interactions. Keeping to what they know is a driving factor for vanilla people. Knowing what will happen in a sexual interaction is important to them. They’re likely to have lots of limits on what they will do.

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Which BDSM archetype matches well with a vanilla?

Vanilla people often match up with other vanilla people. Vanilla people can match up with other kinksters but eventually someone will end up changing. A vanilla person who finds a love of kink is unlikely to stay vanilla and a kinky person could chose to give up their kinks to be vanilla.

Where does the term vanilla come from?

The term vanilla is thought to come from the ice cream flavour. It is seen as the plainest flavour you can get. However, vanilla can often be the best basis for an ice cream dessert as you can add lots of flavours to it. This is the same with vanilla people. They may keep to the standards but can spice things up with mild forms of kinks. Such as adding restraints into their sex life in the way of something mundane that you could find around the house like a tie. They might use other novelties such as games, love dice and body paint to add excitement to their sexual encounters.

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