I'm interested in BDSM form a psychological perspective. Interestingly scientist found that we reexperiencing traumas, stressful situations from past (not necessarily form childhood) in a controlled manner. That is why BDSM is relying on trust, because normally we practice with somebody, who is a bit trustworthy.

I think BDSM and the side that we choose is related to intense emotions from the past. For instance hopelessness, vulnerability, frustration, humiliation, pain and so forth.

I also think this emotion manifestations have 2 sides.
For example, who experienced vulnerability and frustration and who knows what sort of mixed feelings. He/She wants to reexperience the event or wants the opposite. The desire to make other people feel that way.

Hence I think has to do a lot with our coping strategy's. Someone, who was vulnerable and frustrated in the past, probably would like to experience some power in the the future and has fantasies about it. (Like roping somebody to the bad or revenge.) or would have fantasies about giving up power with somebody, who is trustworthy enough. (Like giving up the control above orgasm and being locked up.)

This is only my opinion, if you think differently try convince me.

I was here before, but now I came back. I think BDSM has to be part of my life. I tried to live without it and I could't. Thus I decided to come back. I think D/S is wonderful and I would like to enjoy it.
I'm very open-minded switch. I do like both roles. I consider BDSM as sort of role-playing. I would't be able to live as a dom or a slave 24/7. I don't want to tell to others how to live, I expect the same.
I think love is equal and relationships are not about power.

Desires and Fantasies
Bondage, orgasm control, role play, domination, rough sex, toys and many others