Vanilla Me
Introvert by default, but once I click with someone? It’s game on — deep convos, dark jokes, chaotic memes, and unexpected charm😂
I’m the quiet one who notices everything and surprises you with how open I actually am.😉
Hobbies? Yeah I have a lot...some I aspire to do one day like snowboarding and others I do like building Gaming PCs 🤷🏿♂️ all expensive. 😅 I do enjoy going to the gym, eating out at restaurants and adult days out at IKEA. lol
I’m into people who are a little offbeat, wildly authentic, and curious about the world (and themselves). Nerdy? Alt? Goth? Kawaii, chaos wrapped in soft energy? Yeah, that’ll get my attention every time!
Kink Me
I’m currently solo and exploring within an ENM dynamic — but not aimlessly. I know what I’m looking for: real chemistry, intentional kink, and authentic connection.
I'm a switch with a strong interest in BDSM and power exchange — especially in Domme/sub dynamics where trust, communication, and play all flow naturally. I love getting deep into the psychology of kink, not just the aesthetics. I'm 1000 % an experimentalist 🤷🏿♂️😅😏 into some wild things, are you curious yet ? Ask to find out 😜
I attend local kink events in Birmingham, and I’m loving every step of this journey — not just the fun, but the self-discovery, growth, and genuine freedom that kink can offer when it's explored with intention and respect. 😎
Extra Bits for you to read or not 🤷🏿♂️
I'm easy going, I understand not everyone has time for kinks and events. I won't hound you, make you feel uncomfortable and will always respect your boundaries and consent.
I'm funny, and will try my best to ensure you're having a good time if we hang out. Yes, I'm introverted but with the right person I open up.
I'll listen to you. Having a bad day? Need some advice ? well I'll lend you an ear ( Although I can be kind of blunt sometimes but I mean no offense) 😂
Well I'm into so many things that you'll probably never get bored. One of the reasons I'm here is to do everything so here we go!
What I'm open to
A kinky friendship! With one or multiple people. We'd game, hang out, go to the cinema and really just enjoy each other's time with the option of play being available!
Events/ parties and really just exploring the kink scene in much more detail.
so if any of these interests you please don't hesitate to pop up!
My only Limits are gore and death. I guess I'm not necessarily into furries or pet play either.
You had prior conversation with this person & you thought it was going well so you sent a friend request. You've done nothing wrong, some people are just offended by everything. You aren't a red flag.
Rejection and acceptance is a part of life and unfortunately not everyone will want to be your Read more… friend but that's ok because when you've found your people, you'll be thankful 🫶🏿
It's a friend request. You're acting as if she violated this person by wanting to be friends here officially. She isn't a red flag at all, I'd be flattered if I had been talking to someone and they wanted to friend me. I won't be like "OMG this person has no boundaries" 🤣 get a grip.
Damn that's interesting...is that the reason some people like being fisted ?
As a young black male into BDSM as a switch, this is very tricky for me.
Of course, having a Black dominatrix would be ideal and help fight those thoughts of "I'm a disgrace to the ancestors" but I find that having someone you know & trust is obviously not only important but crucial.
I don't Read more… have an issue being in chains BUT I will need to know my domme is whole & genuine. I need to know she isn't or racist, furthermore I'd have to know my domme understands that I'm not a slave/N*gg or someone she can treat as such.
Its all about communication, my problem is that I enjoy Raceplay but I've had to understand the difference between "They are roleplaying" and "They are just Racist".
I think the only time I would be triggered is when my domme may say remarks outside of play.
If I have a black dominatrix I don't think I'd have an issue at all.