I’m interested in a female-led relationship with a pretty, polite, service-oriented guy.
Here’s the thing—sexually speaking, I am vanilla as fuck. My relationships are monogamous. My libido is unexceptional. Group sex turns me off. Not a sadist or interested in ritualized dominance or discipline. I’m not interested in restraints, or pegging/flogging/abusing dudes, or anyone, for that matter. I've been told that I have a masculine energy about me (often intended as an insult by men with very narrow ideas of gender expression) but my appearance is femme.
So why am I even on here? Because a feminine-presenting woman who is confident and aggressive and aloof is consistently read by vanilla society as a subversive hypersexual being. My track record on popular dating apps is abysmal. I'm viewed by men as either an enemy to patriarchy who must be put in her place OR as one of patriarchy's niche sexual fetishes who wants her feet licked.
Desires and Fantasies
I really just want a traditional long term relationship with a guy who respects and venerates women with his heart and mind--not just with his dick.