I am a 67 year old SSBBW bi widow who likes her kink. In my vanilla world I was literally "large and in charge". When I got home I prided myself on being the best sub my Dom could want. I enjoy bondage, blindfolds, impact play, oral, role play, medical play, and more.
Hard Limits:
No , s, , , branding or scaring, no *** or alcohol, knives. I am a submissive but not a masochist.
If you go to a different sex positive place like fet life dot com under the menu you go to events and it shows all the kink events, parties, clubs, Munches in your area
When the younger guys approach me, one of the things I suggest to them is asking one of the guys over 60 to mentor them if they have been in the "Lifestyle". Going to parties, dungeons, clubs, gangbangs, whatever kink events have rules, etiquette, processes or you can be banned. Tell him you will Read more… buy him a couple of beers and have a list of question. Get it straight from the Dom's or Sub's mouths.
I have blocked more people on here in two weeks than 20+ years on FetLife dot com.
I read on another thread a younger man assumes female on this site is here for one reason and he feels annoyed when a female say no to him. This site promotes kink activity without also promoting kink community etiquette, protocols, values, and morals. The kink community is just that, a community Read more… with a well defined structure and rules.This is a dating site. FetLife site is the doorway to the kink community.
This and the same insights from a sub who was on their side of a situatio such as this should be mandatory reading. For anyone new to the lifestyle.
If they call you mommy they probably want validation and safety. Make them *** but be their rescue from hood, blindfold, confinement
If you are not getting anything out of it, you don't sound in charge. What do you want if you are in charge? Set limits, boundaries (" one call a day, 5 minutes, make it count...; or "you don't call me, I call you. Now hang up!)
A Munch is a get together/meeting of kinksters. They are usually held in a private meeting room at a restaurant or pub/bar once or twice a month. The "parent" website for this app is FetLife.com and is the largest international kink website in the world. It's free and in the menu you can select Read more… events and it will tell you all the kink events in your area or across the country.