About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- Events & Places
- Networking
- NSA (no strings...)
- BDSM Lovers
- Pic Exchange
- Cybersex
Description
I'm a lot more experienced than when I first joined this site, but only in the vanilla sense. I've dabbled in bondage and domination with a partner, fulfilling the role of the dom, and I've played with dommes online to just have a bit of fun (I had a LOT of fun, actually).
I've come to the conclusion that I'm definitely more sub-leaning and I'm looking to explore that further with people who I can find that kinky connection with.
Desires and Fantasies
I've got many fantasies and almost all of them include pleasing a domme who knows what she wants and will take it one way or another, being used by multiple dommes at once etc.
To give context, my ultimate fantasy is to be tied to a bench in a room full of dommes and left there for whatever uses they want. A bit generic perhaps, but everyone likes what they like!
My BDSM test results as of 20/08/2019 are a bit surprising I must admit. This is a little outdated, but all that would have changed is I'd have become more submissive if anything.
I think the brat part isn't incorrect, but how much of one I would be depends on who I'm with and whether or not they're into it. I can turn it off, I suppose.
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
Wanna know what interests me?:
- Anal Play
- Chastity (Passive)
- Cuckold (Passive)
- Dildos
- Edgeplay (Passive)
- FFM Threesome (Passive)
- Fleshlight
- Gangbang (Passive)
- Genital Torture (Passive)
- Rough Sex
- Masochism (Passive)
- MMF Threesome (Passive)
- Orgasm Control (Passive)
- Pegging (Passive)
- Cock Ring (Passive)
- Prostate Massager (Passive)
- Prostate Milking (Passive)
- Prostate Orgasm (Passive)
- Small Penis Humiliation (Passive)
- Strap-on (Passive)
- Submission (Active)
- Swinger (Passive)
- Testicular Bondage (Passive)
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Fetish.com is like an appetizing smorgasbord in Crawley with lots of hot guys to meet up with. Have a look around first if you prefer to see who’s around, or if you know what you want, search by selecting the right category "Kinky Dating”. Nobody stays alone here for long! Fetish.com has tons going on!
My thoughts on why both parties benefit from femdom
My thoughts on why both parties benefit from femdom , why both parties are in control, and why you should embrace it (if you want to!)
So, to address the elephant in the room, Femdom is all about the female dominating their partner - in the context of this article, their partner will be a man.
In Read more…this relationship, the man often gives up control to the woman, which would lead most people to think that she is in complete control, but there's a key word people often overlook; in a healthy Femdom relationship, be it casual or long-term, the submissive gives the domme control.
Once control is given it is, theoretically, just as easy to take back. Therefore, if a submissive gives control to their domme, they technically still have that control, since they're not giving it, they're suspending it.
This is why it's so important to build trust between the dominant and the submissive, because whilst there is of course the argument of whether or not the dominant could physically overpower the submissive...we live in a society where, in most situations, it doesn't come to that, and so we can disregard it.
Take me, for example. I am 6'2 and was 8 man when I played Rugby. To translate, that means I'm a big bloke.
I have quite literally picked girls up before and thrown them in the air (with their consent, of course) so the idea that a 5'1, 90lbs woman can actually force me into a vulnerable position without resorting to extortion (or proper training) is almost laughable. Not impossible by any means, but a little unrealistic.
That being said, she would be able to convince me into that position because I want to feel powerless for a period of time. I want to submit to her, and let someone else take control for a while when society and lifestyles force me to be the one in command in the public eye.
This is, what I assume, to also be the appeal for the dominant - they love the rush that comes with making someone submit to you simply because you know that, deep down, they want you to be in control. I'm primarily a submissive, but I have switched in the past and even I have to admit that having someone give complete control because they trust you and they want you to be in charge of them is immensely flattering, and gives you one hell of a rush.
So why do I think Femdom is so common? Well, for centuries we have had the structure of "the man of the house" being in charge and whilst that is the case in many homes today - which isn't inherently a bad thing - society is still pushing for men to be the leaders and the ones in charge. It's shifting to a more equal stance which is perfect - not all men are leaders, and not all women are followers, so we should not use this as a standard for assigning control - but whilst many men and women accept this, it's still not the norm, and that is why Femdom is so prevalent.
Both men and women are finally able to entertain their inner desire to either gain or give control, even if just for a while.
This turned into more of a rant than expected, but to conclude, I don't think subs ever have no control over the situation. If anything, they have more control since consent is key; but the ability to entertain your desires to either give or take control in a sexually free environment is too great a pleasure for both dominants and submissives to miss out on.
So don't be afraid to give in to those desires, and don't feel like you're taking advantage of your partner, because remember: they want this too.
So, to address the elephant in the room, Femdom is all about the female dominating their partner - in the context of this article, their partner will be a man.
In Read more…this relationship, the man often gives up control to the woman, which would lead most people to think that she is in complete control, but there's a key word people often overlook; in a healthy Femdom relationship, be it casual or long-term, the submissive gives the domme control.
Once control is given it is, theoretically, just as easy to take back. Therefore, if a submissive gives control to their domme, they technically still have that control, since they're not giving it, they're suspending it.
This is why it's so important to build trust between the dominant and the submissive, because whilst there is of course the argument of whether or not the dominant could physically overpower the submissive...we live in a society where, in most situations, it doesn't come to that, and so we can disregard it.
Take me, for example. I am 6'2 and was 8 man when I played Rugby. To translate, that means I'm a big bloke.
I have quite literally picked girls up before and thrown them in the air (with their consent, of course) so the idea that a 5'1, 90lbs woman can actually force me into a vulnerable position without resorting to extortion (or proper training) is almost laughable. Not impossible by any means, but a little unrealistic.
That being said, she would be able to convince me into that position because I want to feel powerless for a period of time. I want to submit to her, and let someone else take control for a while when society and lifestyles force me to be the one in command in the public eye.
This is, what I assume, to also be the appeal for the dominant - they love the rush that comes with making someone submit to you simply because you know that, deep down, they want you to be in control. I'm primarily a submissive, but I have switched in the past and even I have to admit that having someone give complete control because they trust you and they want you to be in charge of them is immensely flattering, and gives you one hell of a rush.
So why do I think Femdom is so common? Well, for centuries we have had the structure of "the man of the house" being in charge and whilst that is the case in many homes today - which isn't inherently a bad thing - society is still pushing for men to be the leaders and the ones in charge. It's shifting to a more equal stance which is perfect - not all men are leaders, and not all women are followers, so we should not use this as a standard for assigning control - but whilst many men and women accept this, it's still not the norm, and that is why Femdom is so prevalent.
Both men and women are finally able to entertain their inner desire to either gain or give control, even if just for a while.
This turned into more of a rant than expected, but to conclude, I don't think subs ever have no control over the situation. If anything, they have more control since consent is key; but the ability to entertain your desires to either give or take control in a sexually free environment is too great a pleasure for both dominants and submissives to miss out on.
So don't be afraid to give in to those desires, and don't feel like you're taking advantage of your partner, because remember: they want this too.
Lornasproperty Well said. i think it is a lot to do in my case with being brought up to respect Women, that coupled with a pretty early realisation that Women hold the cards in the dating game.
Quite simply if you get laid on a night out it wasn't you who decided to have sex!
Add into this the 'Happy Wife Happy Life' philosophy and i don't understand why more men aren's submissive! Well said. i think it is a lot to do in my case with being brought up to respect Women, that coupled with a pretty early realisation that Women hold the cards in the dating game.
Quite simply if you get laid on a night out it wasn't you who decided to have sex!
Add into this the 'Happy Wife Happy Life' philosophy and i don't understand why more men aren's submissive!
Quite simply if you get laid on a night out it wasn't you who decided to have sex!
Add into this the 'Happy Wife Happy Life' philosophy and i don't understand why more men aren's submissive! Well said. i think it is a lot to do in my case with being brought up to respect Women, that coupled with a pretty early realisation that Women hold the cards in the dating game.
Quite simply if you get laid on a night out it wasn't you who decided to have sex!
Add into this the 'Happy Wife Happy Life' philosophy and i don't understand why more men aren's submissive!
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· 13.09.2020 16:49:18
Deleted profile Very good points well made Jd good topic! Very good points well made Jd good topic!
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17.08.2020 16:38:07
eyemblacksheep There's a lot of different reasons men get interested in Femdom. Some is actually misogyny - that they ultimately see women as weak, lesser, whatever and so that it is somewhat 'taboo' or 'humiliating' to submit/etc by a woman. (there's a lot of other prejudices circle in kink - but this could be a long and off topic)
But yep, there's a common trope of someone who is expected to be in control - expected to have control - wanting to give it up, even if it's just for a short space of time.
There's a lot of different reasons men get interested in Femdom. Some is actually misogyny - that they ultimately see women as weak, lesser, whatever and so that it is somewhat 'taboo' or 'humiliating' to submit/etc by a woman. (there's a lot of other prejudices circle in kink - but this could be a long and off topic)
But yep, there's a common trope of someone who is expected to be in control - expected to have control - wanting to give it up, even if it's just for a short space of time.
But yep, there's a common trope of someone who is expected to be in control - expected to have control - wanting to give it up, even if it's just for a short space of time.
There's a lot of different reasons men get interested in Femdom. Some is actually misogyny - that they ultimately see women as weak, lesser, whatever and so that it is somewhat 'taboo' or 'humiliating' to submit/etc by a woman. (there's a lot of other prejudices circle in kink - but this could be a long and off topic)
But yep, there's a common trope of someone who is expected to be in control - expected to have control - wanting to give it up, even if it's just for a short space of time.
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· 16.08.2020 15:11:39
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I'm a lot more experienced than when I first joined this site, but only in the vanilla sense. I've dabbled in bondage and domination with a partner, fulfilling the role of the dom, and I've played with dommes online to just have a bit of fun (I had a LOT of fun, actually).
I've come to the Read more… conclusion that I'm definitely more sub-leaning and I'm looking to explore that further with people who I can find that kinky connection with.
I've come to the Read more… conclusion that I'm definitely more sub-leaning and I'm looking to explore that further with people who I can find that kinky connection with.
A young guy who's dipped his toes into the world of BDSM and is definitely looking to explore more.
Whilst I occasionally enjoy being more dominant, what I am really looking for right now is a domme who can take an untrained sub who's eager to learn and mould him into her perfect toy.
Whilst I occasionally enjoy being more dominant, what I am really looking for right now is a domme who can take an untrained sub who's eager to learn and mould him into her perfect toy.
I've been on here a while now so I thought it'd be worth updating my bio a bit.
I've spoken with a few people and I've found that what I'm looking for is a domme who's willing to take me on and teach me how to be a sub.
I'm looking for more of an online thing at first, but if there's a connection Read more… I'd happily meet up.
I've spoken with a few people and I've found that what I'm looking for is a domme who's willing to take me on and teach me how to be a sub.
I'm looking for more of an online thing at first, but if there's a connection Read more… I'd happily meet up.
Not really sure what to put here since I've never been on one of these sites before.
My previous relationships turned out pretty poorly, but I found out I've a taste for being on the submissive end of a domme/sub relationship, and whilst I'd love to find something like that, I'm happy to settle Read more… for less of a commitment.
That being said, I'm discovering that taking control is more fun than I thought - so if you're looking for a dom I'm sure I can accommodate...
Whilst I know some terminology, I'm still pretty new to the scene and would need someone to show me the ropes (pun not intended).
I guess overall I'm just looking for dommes to show me my place and for subs willing to be patient with me as I learn to take control?
One thing I'm finding I have to specify for some reason, I am an apprentice, meaning I have very little money to spare, meaning I cannot send you a 'tribute' to 'prove loyalty' after an email or two.
My previous relationships turned out pretty poorly, but I found out I've a taste for being on the submissive end of a domme/sub relationship, and whilst I'd love to find something like that, I'm happy to settle Read more… for less of a commitment.
That being said, I'm discovering that taking control is more fun than I thought - so if you're looking for a dom I'm sure I can accommodate...
Whilst I know some terminology, I'm still pretty new to the scene and would need someone to show me the ropes (pun not intended).
I guess overall I'm just looking for dommes to show me my place and for subs willing to be patient with me as I learn to take control?
One thing I'm finding I have to specify for some reason, I am an apprentice, meaning I have very little money to spare, meaning I cannot send you a 'tribute' to 'prove loyalty' after an email or two.
Not really sure what to put here since I've never been on one of these sites before.
My previous relationships turned out pretty poorly, but I found out I've a taste for being on the submissive end of a domme/sub relationship, and whilst I'd love to find something like that, I'm happy to settle Read more… for less of a commitment.
That being said, I'm discovering that taking control is more fun than I thought - so if you're looking for a dom I'm sure I can accommodate...
Whilst I know some terminology, I'm still pretty new to the scene and would need someone to show me the ropes (pun not intended).
One thing I'm finding I have to specify for some reason, I am an apprentice, meaning I have very little money to spare, meaning I cannot send you a 'tribute' to 'prove loyalty' after an email or two.
My previous relationships turned out pretty poorly, but I found out I've a taste for being on the submissive end of a domme/sub relationship, and whilst I'd love to find something like that, I'm happy to settle Read more… for less of a commitment.
That being said, I'm discovering that taking control is more fun than I thought - so if you're looking for a dom I'm sure I can accommodate...
Whilst I know some terminology, I'm still pretty new to the scene and would need someone to show me the ropes (pun not intended).
One thing I'm finding I have to specify for some reason, I am an apprentice, meaning I have very little money to spare, meaning I cannot send you a 'tribute' to 'prove loyalty' after an email or two.
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