About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- Networking
- BDSM Lovers
Description
I should first explain I am legally blind; that means I can see some things but not small or distant stuff. It's not a major issue for me, but I want to make sure it's not an issue for you. I have a lifetime of adapting to it, but you may need some time. Because of that I may miss some body language and facial expressions, so communicating clearly is key. It also prevents me from driving, but beyond those two issues, I can do most things.
At heart, I'm a nice guy who enjoys many things, both vanilla and spicy. Communication is the cornerstone of any functional relationship, that goes double for fetishes; consent is another major component of a successful fetish relationship. I'm eager to work to ensure we always have safe fun and I'm willing to take my time to get things right. I'm a retired government accountant so you know I'm trustworthy, patient and careful.
Ideally, I'd like a long-term relationship, but I'm open to other experiences in my search for someone. I enjoy the intellectual and emotional aspects of the lifestyle most. I'm willing and able to host once we know each other well enough.
Some of my vanilla interests include technology, politics, economics, science fiction, fantasy, horror, and videogames. I also frequently go to the gym and would love to have someone to exercise with, at least a little.
Limits
I'm up for trying anything safe as long as we know what we're doing, research is part of the fun. It also can't hurt anyone else.
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- Anal Sex (Active)
- Anal Plugs (Active)
- Fear Play (Active)
- Blindfolds (Active)
- Bathroom Denial (Active)
- BDSM (Active)
- Begging (Passive)
- Bondage (Active)
- Bondage Shackles (Active)
- Bondage Cuffs (Active)
- Bondage Rope (Active)
- Glasses Fetish (Passive)
- Chains (Active)
- Chastity (Active)
- Collar & Leash (Active)
- Cuddling
- Deep Throating (Active)
- Discipline (Active)
- Domination (Active)
- Erotic Wrestling (Active)
- Sex Worker - Client (Active)
- Face Slapping (Active)
- Restraints (Active)
- Figging (Active)
- Foreplay
- Forniphilia (Active)
- Torturer - Captive Prisoner (Active)
- Genital Torture (Active)
- Hair Pulling (Active)
- Handcuffs (Active)
- Rough Sex (Active)
- Humiliation (Active)
- Kinky Sex
- Kissing
- Clitoral Pump (Active)
- Masochism (Passive)
- Massage
- Nipple Clamps (Active)
- Nipple Play (Active)
- Oral Sex (Passive)
- Orgasm Control (Active)
- Spanking Paddles (Active)
- Pinching (Active)
- Role Play (Active)
- Sadism (Active)
- Sensory Deprivation (Active)
- Sex In Bed
- Slave Training (Active)
- Spanking (Active)
- Cum Swallowing (Passive)
- Submission (Passive)
- Sweet Pain (Passive)
- Subservience (Active)
- Whips (Active)
Wanna know what interests me?:
- 24/7 (Active)
- Anal Hook (Active)
- Inflatable Gag (Active)
- Ball Gag (Active)
- BDSM Branding (Active)
- BDSM Collar (Active)
- BDSM Gimp (Active)
- Bondage Stocks (Active)
- Bondage Bed (Active)
- Bondage Belt (Active)
- Bondage Mittens (Active)
- Bondage Harness (Active)
- Bondage Yoke (Active)
- Bondage Cage (Active)
- Bondage Hood (Active)
- Bondage Sleepsack (Active)
- Funnel Gag (Active)
- Breast Binder (Active)
- Cattle Prod (Active)
- Chastity Belt (Active)
- Corsets (Passive)
- Double Penetration (Active)
- Electro Sex Stimulation (Active)
- Violet Wand (Active)
- Erotic Hypnosis (Active)
- Extreme Bondage (Active)
- FFM Threesome (Active)
- Fisting (Active)
- Floggers (Active)
- Gags (Active)
- Human Pony Harness (Active)
- Hobble Skirt (Active)
- Jennings Gag (Active)
- Head Harness (Active)
- Costumes
- Lap Dance (Passive)
- Masks
- Medical Restraints (Active)
- Armbinder (Active)
- Muzzle Gag (Active)
- Nose Hook (Active)
- Nudism (Passive)
- Penis Gag (Active)
- Polyamory
- Porn (Passive)
- Posture Collar (Active)
- Predicament Bondage (Active)
- Ring Gag (Active)
- Spreader Bar (Active)
- Striptease (Passive)
- Stocking Fetish (Passive)
- Taser (Active)
- Uniform Fetish
- Straitjackets (Active)
Fetish.com gives you…
Fetish.com is like an appetizing smorgasbord in Duluth with lots of hot guys to meet up with. Have a look around first if you prefer to see who’s around, or if you know what you want, search by selecting the right category "Kinky Dating”. Nobody stays alone here for long! Fetish.com has tons going on!
Clue for day 2, use this to find the best partner(s) for your tastes.
At heart, I'm a nice guy who enjoys many things, both vanilla and spicy. Communication is the cornerstone of any functional relationship, that goes double for fetishes; consent is another major component of a successful fetish relationship. I'm eager to work to ensure we always have safe fun and I'm willing to take my time to get things right. I'm a retired government accountant so you know I'm trustworthy, patient and careful.
Ideally, I'd like a long-term relationship, but I'm open to other experiences in my search for someone. I enjoy the intellectual and emotional aspects of the lifestyle most. I'm willing and able to host once we know each other well enough.
Some of my vanilla interests include technology, politics, economics, science fiction, fantasy, horror, and videogames. I also frequently go to the gym and would love to have someone to exercise with, at least a little.
Ummm "but with previous trauma?"
It's not average, but who is. I'm confident there are dominant females who would be fine with what you want, too. But with previous ***, seeking therapy may be helpful too. I think the only question is, do you want to get hard for insertion? If so, try therapy and see how it goes. If not, try Read more… finding someone into getting what you are into giving. Don't worry about what is or isn't weird.
Feelings are normal and not under your control, so nothing is wrong with you feeling anything, any more than any other person having any other feeling. The only things that are good or bad are actions, so do the good actions and cut yourself the same slack you should cut anyone for anything they Read more… can't control.
Also, when you give one, you don't pick which one you give.
Yes, but you can get it again from the place you originally found it.
The fewer people the less chance of conflict. So sticking to single people is easiest. But a person with a consenting partner who is either involved or not is still a viable option. It depends who is out there that suits you, maybe you can find someone single or maybe not. It's your call. For Read more… me, I prefer single people because it is so much easier.
Or without worry?
Cheating aside, expecting a text at some point seems unclear. BDSM also requires a lot of communication, so they should have expressed their feelings before ending it, but they may have tried or not felt comfortable to do so. Try to establish and maintain a bidirectional communication trend where Read more… both of you can express concerns openly and without ***.
Normal? Yes. Wanted? Polite? No. There are many who do that, but it's not something you need to accept. I've seen several submissive women who specifically say they don't want that. I don't do that, and I'm sure many others don't. So if you like it, that's fine, enjoy the site; if you don't Read more… like it, that's fine, reject the ones who do and focus on the ones who don't, and consider putting a warning not to send such messages on your profile. Either way, there are plenty of people who would match your interests.
I started as a sub, but after some negative real experiences, transitioned to a Dom.