Mind, Body,.....Soul...

OK, so new to this site and know what I'm looking for. You must be local, able to host (as I am not), and want me in your world as more than just a means to get off when our schedules are convenient.

Are you looking for your good girl by day and your naughty slut by night? A confident, fun, and professional woman able to handle public situations in the vanilla world, but a sexy, submissive, and sometimes mischievous kitten in our private life? If your answer was YES to all of these, then there might be some potential for us.

I'm not looking just for fun or play. I need a dom that will make me his PRIORITY, not just another play partner or a side sub to fulfill his fantasies of being leader of the pact. Trust me, I'm not hurting to have my sexual needs met and there isn't going to be a way you can persuade me into being your personal FWB until I find "the one." Im attracted to strong and experienced doms that know who they are and are looking for the same things I am.

Kink is not something I do for fun, it's a part of my identity, it's a part of who I am, hidden from the vanilla world we live in. So unless you identify as a dom in the same way, please don't message me.

What I absolutely do NOT need is to be viewed as a challenge to overcome. I'm not looking to be your next conquest. I don't need to be "fixed." I need a dom that appreciates my intelligence and my sarcastic humor, but also can make my mouth snap shut and send a shiver down my spine with a certain look. The one that is attracted to my confidence and doesn't try to break me from it, but will swiftly remind me when I have crossed the line. A real dom will build me up to be stronger than I was before we met, and if the bond should ever need to be broken, he will not do so in such a way as to rob me of my vulnerability and leave me broken and lost. The dom that I will devote myself and submit to completely will have a deep understanding of all that I am. He will love, accept, and cherish me to his core. This means a slow build, it will take time to get to know one another and to establish the trust I am referring to. He will not just chat with me a few times and then expect me to fall to my knees at his doorstep.

Now, could that be a possibility someday? Well, for the dom I'm looking for it will be. For the dom that I need, I will want nothing more than to please him; to hear him call me his "good girl" will make my heart swell and my pussy dripping wet for him, always. To wear his marks with pride, to enjoy the sting of his spankings in the moment, as well as the tender reminders of our last session days later when I squirm in my seat at work or when driving in the car. But it won't be given to just a dom who shares the same kinks. My dom will have me because he took the time to really know me, to understand me completely, to build trust over time, to push my limits only when he knew I was ready, to hold a firm hand when necessary yet provide a loving embrace in times when support is needed.

Everything in this lifestyle is give and take, everything must be reciprocal from both the dom and the sub. A dom gives into the sub's needs and the sub gives into the dom's desires. D/S is more than just the sub giving into the dom. If she submits to him, make no mistake there is a reason beyond giving into his sexual prowess.

Are there subs out there that just get off on submitting to men they hardly know? Of course, but that's not at all what I'm about. Having a chance with me will require more than sex talk alone, so if that's what you crave I hope you find it, just know it won't be with me. I know myself and I know my needs. I deserve to have my needs met and to feel valued. My submission is a gift, and gifts are given to people that matter in my life.

If my submission is what you desire, there will need to be more than attraction. There needs to be a high level of chemistry, a strong mental connection, and I need to feel the potential for a relationship and a deep d/s bond.

A dom needs to give and stay connected in just the same efforts as his sub. Again, some might say I'm high maintenance, I say I'm just highly selective. I need more than sex, I need more than play. I need a dom that will praise me when I succeed, punish me in FAIR but firm ways, and will help me rise up when life has done it's best to push me down. And aftercare is a MUST. I mean, seriously, if I'm spouting off that I'm looking for a relationship and not just play, you better be the cuddling type. ESPECIALLY if I ever enter subspace, cause sub drop comes hard and swift and I will need a dom that can make me feel safe in those moments.

If all of this sounds like too much work for you it's probably a good indicator that we're not a match. Thanks for the interest, but please move on, and best of luck in your search.

OK, now that we have that out of the way, if you're still interested, and if you are in it for the same things I am, then read on to learn a bit more about me:

So, it sounds like I'm a total bitch, and depending on the circumstance I can be, but really anyone that knows me knows I'm a sweetheart that believes in devoting my energy into love, not hate. Being a brat is a part of my personality but I have a softer side that not everyone gets to see. If I'm bratty, there's a reason. Maybe I'm feeling neglected (or horny, lol) and just want attention, maybe I'm testing you, maybe trust just hasn't really been established, or maybe you just aren't the type of dom I need. But, that isn't my job to figure out, it's yours Can you tell what's hidden behind my pretty eyes and playful smirk? I'm open minded and have a high level of awareness. I'm also very analytical, logical, and a huge sapiosexual. If you know what that term means without looking it up, we may be off to a good start I enjoy having philosophical discussions, talks about all parts of life (love, loss, pain, joy, etc), debates on ethics in social justice, past/present/future life events, and most of all I just want to know what makes you tick, what life experiences molded you into the person you are today? I'm pretty much an open book, so I'll share my story if you share me yours

Outside of being a mom (yeah, I'm a single mom which means mom duties always come first), my life passions include:

MUSIC! - Anything to do with music. Music flows through me, always has and always will. I come from a family of musicians and love listening to music and singing. I LOVE to sing and you're likely to hear me at some point if we meet I played piano, violin, and mandolin growing up but have long since put them behind me. Someday I will go back to them. I also would love to learn guitar and drums someday. I tried the didgeridoo and failed miserably, lol, don't have the lung capacity for that one.

Social Justice Issues - Diversity and Inclusion, as well as cultural competency work is near and dear to me but it extends beyond that to social justice issues in general. Nothing pisses me off more than seeing humanity turn against itself. Sorry, but if you think men should be paid more for a job that an equally qualified (or even more qualified) woman can do then fuck off. If you think it's only wrong to persecute blacks because that was wrong and we learned from it but that we can treat all middle easterners with distain cause of 911 or build a fucking wall to keep Mexicans out then walk away. And if you think I'm the typical stereotype for Asian fetishes out there (whatever the fuck that even means) then GTFO. And if you thought you liked me up until this point then good, that in itself tells me I never would have liked you anyways.

Humor - As I said, I'm very sarcastic and I like to make people laugh. Even when you think i'm being a brat, I'll still make you smile I know when to be serious, but you can't take everything in life so seriously. I like to joke around and have a good time so I need to be with people that make me laugh and have a good sense of humor. Making each other laugh shows a good sign of chemistry and builds a bond between people. I'm very sensitive to the energy of others and someone that can make me feel comfortable to be myself is someone I want to spend time with

Writing - Have you made it this far?! Wow, I'm impressed. No, really, most of these assholes online won't even take the time to read my age and location let alone read any of my profile. So congrats! I like you a little more and I don't even know you are reading this right now! OK, so all jokes aside I really do love to write (clearly). I don't consistently write but in my past have written pieces ranging from poems, creative stories, Old English term papers, to 15 page research papers written in a 2 hour timespan (I often surprise myself with what I can produce out of procrastination, lol). I have plans to become a published author someday, but for now I journal and write here and there when I have time.

Do you like what you have leaned about me thus far? Are you a an experienced dom looking for the same things I am? If so, message me so we can find out. You can hit me up on Chat as well, but it's pretty hit or miss when it comes to chat. I might have my browser open, but I might not actually be available to chat, so please keep that in mind rather than immediately assume that I'm just ignoring you. If things progress past the initial contact, I may ask you to switch platforms to an easier form of communication.

Best of luck to us all in our search, -Princess

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Desires and Fantasies
What I'm lookimg for:

I pretty much explained this in the section above. Honestly, if you want you know, you will take the time to read my profile. The right dom for me will want to know as much about me as possible, so doing a bit of reading that I have taken the time to write shouldn't be a problem.

Not everyone is a match and that is ok, nothing to take personal, just move on by. If my profile rubs you the wrong way, why bother wasting either of our time by messaging me to try and get a rise out of me for being bold enough to actually give you insight as to who I am as a person?

Honestly, the more you read about me, the less redundant questions you have to ask and I have to answer.

So, if you're bored of the same old bedroom sluts that have no substance, take a minute to grab a drink, get comfy in your favorite spot, and take a genuine moment to get to know me before approaching me. Not many people take the time to put their real selves out there. Maybe I'll peak your interest, maybe not, but you'll walk away knowing a little more about someone on here that's in it for the real deal and not faking their way through life.

Thanks for stopping by and checking me out. If we aren't a match, I wish you well in your search