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Gender Woman
Age 35
Status Not single
Zodiac signs Aries

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Description

Bi submissive female in a committed relationship. Looking for advice, community and friends as I re-engage the BDSM side of myself after a long period of vanilla/disinterest.

Fantasies

Submission, shibari, and reatraint, exhibitionism, mild masochism, electricity.

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LadyPleases
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Knowing the ropes...
Hi all, bit long winded, so bear with me. If you just want to read my query and not the whole backstory see the final paragraph marked with an asterisk.
Have always been into kink. Went through a very intense period of it in my mid-twenties where I was part of the scene, had a lovely Domme playmate Read more…who took very good care of me as she introduced me to some of the fun to be had. I discovered some things about myself that gave me immense satisfaction and pleasure. I have since moved away and mostly lost contact with her and have had two children which did a bit of damage to my libido for a year or six! (Nothing like sleep deprivation and constant interruption to make sex very quick and basic, if it happens at all!).
My husband is vanilla-ish, but open minded and luckily more on the Dom side. He's had some mental health struggles which I have supported him through and been very much the carer/strength in the relationship. As my libido has come back and his health has recovered to some extent I find myself craving with great intensity the submissive relationship I previously explored. I want to be cherished and taken care of; to be told what to do and to be pleasured in return for my submission. I need to be in that place where I can let go and float because I am mentally and emotionally exhausted and depleted. Depression is a selfish illness so I have had to be selfless and I would like, just now and then, to be the one on the receiving end of all the care.
Husband and I have been exploring some more kink fantasies of late and whilst I'm not sure I'll get him to a club any time soon (though I would love that) he has shown willing to explore some more bedroom BDSM. I know he has joined a forum himself to ask some questions, it may well be this one but I'd rather not know :-)
*The aspect of my kink that has always had the most effect on me is restraint, particularly ropes/shibari. I was wondering if anybody could recommend a good book/site to explain to a potential Dom how to get started, what ropes are good, what effect ropes are likely to have on the sub/sub space, aftercare - all those sorts of things. Especially as I have sunk very deeply into subspace when tied into a rope harness before and needed quite significant aftercare so want to make sure he's informed. I could explain some of it to him myself (though not how to do the tying) but it feels rather like topping from the bottom so I'd rather buy him a book and let him figure it out. Luckily he's into sailing so shouldn't have any issues with the knots and ropes!
Likewilkie, Ol_Sparky · 4 Replies
BerryBrighton
BerryBrighton There are so many ways to learn rope out there. There are some amazing shibari books, but there's nothing quite like hands on experience. Why not both of you nip to your local rope group? They are generally non sexual spaces to learn to tie safely. I have a weekend rope workshop coming up in Brighton in September with some pretty amazing rope teachers coming over from the USA.. you also get first hand stories of aftercare, nerve damage and how to avoid injuries xx There are so many ways to learn rope out there. There are some amazing shibari books, but there's nothing quite like hands on experience. Why not both of you nip to your local rope group? They are generally non sexual spaces to learn to tie safely. I have a weekend rope workshop coming up in Brighton in September with some pretty amazing rope teachers coming over from the USA.. you also get first hand stories of aftercare, nerve damage and how to avoid injuries xx
Like · 09.07.2018 15:30:15
morris159
morris159 also look for stuff by Midori also look for stuff by Midori
Like · 07.07.2018 23:20:49
morris159
morris159 if it's just the ties you are after try youtube two knotty boys or twisted monk both give simple instructions. if it's just the ties you are after try youtube two knotty boys or twisted monk both give simple instructions.
Like · 07.07.2018 23:15:13
LadyPleases
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  • 07.07.2018 22:53:15
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
Knowing the ropes...

Sorry this is a duplicate. Realised I had probably posted in the wrong section and thought I had deleted the original but actually haven't. Apologies if this is poor etiquette. Is there a mod who could help me delete the post in the newbies section?

LadyPleases
  • 07.07.2018 21:55:05
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
LadyPleases
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  • 07.07.2018 21:50:48
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
What types of kinksters are you hoping to meet here on Fetish.com?
Mentors really. In need of support and advice after a long time out of the scene.
LadyPleases
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  • 07.07.2018 21:50:48
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
When did you discover you were kinky? Tell us about your journey through kink and BDSM.
I've always been kinky, it just took until I was married and in my twenties before I discovered that that other people were too...
LadyPleases
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  • 07.07.2018 21:50:48
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
What was your first kinky experience? What did you learn from it?
Bedroom bondage I suppose. What did I learn? That it was what I needed to satisfy a dark little part of myself and that I wanted to try more.
LadyPleases
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  • 07.07.2018 21:50:48
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
Tell us a bit about your kinky lifestyle. Do you go to fetish clubs and munches, are you in a 24/7 relationship...?
In a marriage with a man who is willing to explore BDSM a bit more and learn about some aspects of the scene. Am currently not on the scene at all, but would like to move back into it, but this time alongside my husband and experience it with him.
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  • 07.07.2018 21:50:48
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
What qualities are most important for you in a relationship?( BDSM, kinky or vanilla)
Respect. Care. Reciprocity.
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  • 07.07.2018 21:50:48
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
D/s: Dom/me or sub? Top or bottom? Caregiver or little? Owner or slave? Do you switch or are you unsure?
Submissive.
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  • 07.07.2018 21:50:48
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
What turns your kinky brain and body on?
Ropes. So much ropes.
Also enjoy sensory deprivation, exhibitionism, mild masochism, electricity but if I had to choose one thing - ropes.
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  • 07.07.2018 21:50:48
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
Are you out or in-the-closet about your kinks, sexual orientation or gender identity? Why?
Out amongst close friends and very hoenst with my husband, but present as very boring Cis straight middle class white woman to people who don't know me.
I quite enjoy the disguise to be honest.
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  • 07.07.2018 21:50:48
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
  • Not single
Do you find talking about sex and kink easy or difficult? Why?
Easy, with likeminded people.
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  • 07.07.2018 21:50:48
  • Female (35)
  • Bedford
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Is physical appearance or fashion important for you and your kinks?
Not especially.
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