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Description
Bi submissive female in a committed relationship. Looking for advice, community and friends as I re-engage the BDSM side of myself after a long period of vanilla/disinterest.
Desires and Fantasies
Submission, shibari, and reatraint, exhibitionism, mild masochism, electricity.
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- Erotic Photography (Passive)
- Bisexual (Passive)
- Bondage (Passive)
- Bondage Rope (Passive)
- Discipline (Passive)
- Double Penetration (Passive)
- Violet Wand (Passive)
- Exhibitionism (Active)
- Restraints (Passive)
- Floggers (Passive)
- Masochism (Passive)
- Nipple Play (Passive)
- Sensory Deprivation (Passive)
- Sex in the Water
- Sauna Sex
- Spanking (Passive)
- Submission (Passive)
- Wax Play (Passive)
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Knowing the ropes...
Hi all, bit long winded, so bear with me. If you just want to read my query and not the whole backstory see the final paragraph marked with an asterisk.
Have always been into kink. Went through a very intense period of it in my mid-twenties where I was part of the scene, had a lovely Domme playmate Read more…who took very good care of me as she introduced me to some of the fun to be had. I discovered some things about myself that gave me immense satisfaction and pleasure. I have since moved away and mostly lost contact with her and have had two children which did a bit of damage to my libido for a year or six! (Nothing like sleep deprivation and constant interruption to make sex very quick and basic, if it happens at all!).
My husband is vanilla-ish, but open minded and luckily more on the Dom side. He's had some mental health struggles which I have supported him through and been very much the carer/strength in the relationship. As my libido has come back and his health has recovered to some extent I find myself craving with great intensity the submissive relationship I previously explored. I want to be cherished and taken care of; to be told what to do and to be pleasured in return for my submission. I need to be in that place where I can let go and float because I am mentally and emotionally exhausted and depleted. Depression is a selfish illness so I have had to be selfless and I would like, just now and then, to be the one on the receiving end of all the care.
Husband and I have been exploring some more kink fantasies of late and whilst I'm not sure I'll get him to a club any time soon (though I would love that) he has shown willing to explore some more bedroom BDSM. I know he has joined a forum himself to ask some questions, it may well be this one but I'd rather not know :-)
*The aspect of my kink that has always had the most effect on me is restraint, particularly ropes/shibari. I was wondering if anybody could recommend a good book/site to explain to a potential Dom how to get started, what ropes are good, what effect ropes are likely to have on the sub/sub space, aftercare - all those sorts of things. Especially as I have sunk very deeply into subspace when tied into a rope harness before and needed quite significant aftercare so want to make sure he's informed. I could explain some of it to him myself (though not how to do the tying) but it feels rather like topping from the bottom so I'd rather buy him a book and let him figure it out. Luckily he's into sailing so shouldn't have any issues with the knots and ropes!
Have always been into kink. Went through a very intense period of it in my mid-twenties where I was part of the scene, had a lovely Domme playmate Read more…who took very good care of me as she introduced me to some of the fun to be had. I discovered some things about myself that gave me immense satisfaction and pleasure. I have since moved away and mostly lost contact with her and have had two children which did a bit of damage to my libido for a year or six! (Nothing like sleep deprivation and constant interruption to make sex very quick and basic, if it happens at all!).
My husband is vanilla-ish, but open minded and luckily more on the Dom side. He's had some mental health struggles which I have supported him through and been very much the carer/strength in the relationship. As my libido has come back and his health has recovered to some extent I find myself craving with great intensity the submissive relationship I previously explored. I want to be cherished and taken care of; to be told what to do and to be pleasured in return for my submission. I need to be in that place where I can let go and float because I am mentally and emotionally exhausted and depleted. Depression is a selfish illness so I have had to be selfless and I would like, just now and then, to be the one on the receiving end of all the care.
Husband and I have been exploring some more kink fantasies of late and whilst I'm not sure I'll get him to a club any time soon (though I would love that) he has shown willing to explore some more bedroom BDSM. I know he has joined a forum himself to ask some questions, it may well be this one but I'd rather not know :-)
*The aspect of my kink that has always had the most effect on me is restraint, particularly ropes/shibari. I was wondering if anybody could recommend a good book/site to explain to a potential Dom how to get started, what ropes are good, what effect ropes are likely to have on the sub/sub space, aftercare - all those sorts of things. Especially as I have sunk very deeply into subspace when tied into a rope harness before and needed quite significant aftercare so want to make sure he's informed. I could explain some of it to him myself (though not how to do the tying) but it feels rather like topping from the bottom so I'd rather buy him a book and let him figure it out. Luckily he's into sailing so shouldn't have any issues with the knots and ropes!
BerryBrighton There are so many ways to learn rope out there. There are some amazing shibari books, but there's nothing quite like hands on experience. Why not both of you nip to your local rope group? They are generally non sexual spaces to learn to tie safely. I have a weekend rope workshop coming up in Brighton in September with some pretty amazing rope teachers coming over from the USA.. you also get first hand stories of aftercare, nerve damage and how to avoid injuries xx There are so many ways to learn rope out there. There are some amazing shibari books, but there's nothing quite like hands on experience. Why not both of you nip to your local rope group? They are generally non sexual spaces to learn to tie safely. I have a weekend rope workshop coming up in Brighton in September with some pretty amazing rope teachers coming over from the USA.. you also get first hand stories of aftercare, nerve damage and how to avoid injuries xx
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· 09.07.2018 15:30:15
Philip2004 also look for stuff by Midori also look for stuff by Midori
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· 07.07.2018 23:20:49
Philip2004 if it's just the ties you are after try youtube two knotty boys or twisted monk both give simple instructions. if it's just the ties you are after try youtube two knotty boys or twisted monk both give simple instructions.
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· 07.07.2018 23:15:13
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Knowing the ropes...
Sorry this is a duplicate. Realised I had probably posted in the wrong section and thought I had deleted the original but actually haven't. Apologies if this is poor etiquette. Is there a mod who could help me delete the post in the newbies section?
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