Thanks for the reponses, I'm slow to reply due to my schedule but mainly as I wanted to properly absorb everyone's words.
I'm lucky in that we have great communication, but now we can read through this together and although we're all different it does give us more food for our thoughts. Mad, I Read more… thought it'd be nothing but excitement - at fatherhood, a new dynamic, her delicious new body... when my worries kicked in and I followed them with a bit of research in the wrong places, wow, it threw me! Honestly, one afternoon the most positive thing I could find was a lady who said she "couldn't care less if he (her guy) wanked himself stupid to porn instead... I don't care anymore...", which put quite a downer on my hopes for our future!
Haha we'll need a very big lockbox indeed!
Although I'm mainly dominant, it's in a gentle, loving way. The prospect of running myself ragged making sure she gets everything she needs is a big turn on for me, so who knows what nature will do, but I'm sure it won't switch off her desire to be pampered. She's already insisting I get what I need too, so between you all my silly head is feeling less lost already. One point in my favour already is she knows I have a real thing for pregnant women, if I can barely walk past one without being completely distracted, she knows she'll be turning my head inside out every second of our journey.
Thank you all very much!
John