You're confusing emotion with sexual desire. The two don't go exclusively together. Although sex is often the glue that holds a relationship together in this instance it's two separate parts. You have to choose one or the other at this point. If this relationship was important to you you need to Read more… fix it in some way without the sexual element. It's common to have two different sides to a partnership which over time can come together through knowledge, understanding and negotiation. Love has many forms and elements. You need to decide who and what you want.