I'm an open minded, new Dom who's seeking to improve his skills.
I want to build a trusting, close, pleasurable connection with a sub which gives us both what we need.
Delaying orgasms and attaining repeated orgasms for my sub whilst they are tied up.
Stretching both my boundaries and my sub's boundaries.
My sub knowing what she can do to tease me and me spanking her.
Thanks for that eyemblacksheep
I'm reading threads in various Forums, talking to friends and this site is a great help, but seems all D/s play varies a lot.
If it's difficult to see what a new Dom might offer an experienced f-sub, then a new Dom might seek a new sub. If it works, great - but risk Read more… that neither really knows what they're doing... and certainly lots of misrepresentation of BDSM out there.
So most of us newbies are willing to learn - and likely looking to stretch our boundaries.
Can see why an experienced Dom would take on a new sub, but would many experienced subs see much for them in linking with a new Dom?
I'm new to this site but I'd be very wary of anyone who feels it is okay to force you into doing anything you're not comfortable with by threatening to leave. That is bullying not BDSM.
Your BPD shouldn't matter, what's past is past, if anything the stress from doing things you aren't happy with is Read more… likely to aggravate it. If you are getting the BPD under control (non-violent for a year) it is possible, and I hope I am wrong, that he feels you are less dependent on him now. Such a change in behaviour would be a very negative way of dealing with a positive step for you (well done you!).
You are a valuable person in your own right and you deserve respect, and if he treats others like you - by not listening to what they need - then he will find that he will not easily find anyone to do anything.