Not here for play though it can be a happy side effect, mostly want to make friends and branch out into this community. Many experiences and always willing to learn if you want to message me then state at least one of my interests so I know you have actually read my bio. Oh and don't even begin to think that you can just start sexting me before I know at least a bit about you. Some of that stuff is ambitious for a guy to say but just remember I do what and who i want the way I want, where I want (with consent). but seriously when I'm not domming I'm a puddle of anxiety so I may not seem in control at first.
Outside of kinks and fetishes I'm in love with cooking, English, history and I write my own poetry.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Brat tamer
100% Primal (Hunter)
1% Primal (Prey)
0% Rope bunny
When I account for the fact I like to let my subs feel like they have at least a little control and then tear it apart It changed a lot of my scores
I'm a Dom, preferably looking for a pet or a babygirl or both. I'm new to most forms of play but I know what I want and how I want it so even if you have to show me something that doesn't make me any less able to dominate you.
I have a fantasy I'm dying to fulfill of having my sub insert ice cubes into themselves and then removing them before they melt, for me to have a good old whiskey on the rocks :)
I love this Victoria, to put it in its simplest terms for me everything is about care. I enjoy providing a release, an aid, a care for my subs. While I am very varied in my approach between types of subs and individuals at the core of it I still care for and look after anyone under my wing, I enjoy Read more… pain and pleasure and more than anything something I find is not unique to my approach but makes it special is my use of power illusion, of giving certain freedoms to my subs only to tear them down (with consent and care obviously) its all about building them up so i can tear them down
Hmm i think im seeing the point moreso of why it may be an indication of a lack of understanding. In my own opinion how they may refer to themselves and wish to be referred to is up to them but as a whole female dominants are Dommes. Its important for some people to retain that identity yknow?
Thank you all for your responses, I see a lot of your points and agree with many but not all.
I weren't trying to whine at all here I think my issue more has been with the fact that this reputation still follows me despite being on here several months, being very involved in the chat and becoming a Read more… rather regular face, also I have been at this scene for a while for someone my age due to very extraneous circumstance.
I have been regularly practicing kink and reading and learning for 2 and a half years now, I've had several subs both casual and serious ranging from 36 to my own age and @KinkedAskew I have offered to three separate subs 21+ experiences and comfort that they themselves remarked after I ended our play was above and beyond that which they received from Doms twice my age.
I am quite satisfied with seeing everyone's opinions and reasons for them actually and I'm glad I was taken seriously. I continue to strive to learn and improve I had just at the point I posted this become infuriated with people who were much older than me but had far less experience than me talking down to me.
Seems like one of those things between the old guard and new guard. I find that Domme/Dom is more a preference thing and id have never considered it part of the basics even though when I started reading into the lifestyle every book recommended to me by members of the old guard approached it with Read more… the attitude of "Dommes are females and if she calls herself a Dom shes obviously so green she doesn't understand what it means". I think part of the reason that Domme even came to be is that the further back in the history of the scene you go the less and less dominant women you find and the more need there was to create for themselves their own identity within the scene. To clarify i mean far far back in the scene to some of the origins of many of the modern dynamics in the late 1800s early 1900s.
I think a lot of people are scared cause they think that they are gonna get labeled as something they aren't, Like for example I am attracted to transmen and transwomen if they already fulfill my standards of beauty but I know people who are attracted to these people because they 'chose to chang' Read more… to fit that beauty standard.