Isn't that what we are doing in this topic here and on this site?
I do however see far too many stereotypes all over. The concept of "fetish clothing" suggesting that ones fetish can't be normal clothing?

No, I am saying we should be able to go to a fetish club without wearing archetypal "fetish" gear, because fetish doesn't have to mean latex clothing and platforms. That may be some people's fetish, maybe a lot of people, but not everyone and they need to cater for others like me who are into Read more… ballbusting (that is what the name of this topic is) but not with fetish gear.
I do know that there are far more men with a strong desire to be ballbusted than women who really want to do it, because everyone is after getting their own needs met. That's why women can ask for a fee for doing it, because then they get some satisfaction by being paid.

But isn't this site an online fetish club?
The issue I have with "fetish" clubs is they seem to be stereotypical in the way things are done. I don't want to wear strange clothing. I also want the women who kick my balls to wear their civvy clothes and normal shoes (like trainers, brogues, regular Read more… boots or whatever)

My fetish is having women, dressed in a regular feminine way, touch me / kick me with their shoes, of a style that I like which generally means closed and "normal style" shoes.
Most of the cute-looking women are submissive by nature, it would seem. But I'm not into the D-S side, nor am I looking Read more… for a pure masochistic experience, although I do want to feel some pain.

Any post here is likely to draw attention to the poster, get people to look at the profile, and possibly lead to contact, so if merely by posting and getting attention it is considered a personal ad, then having such a forum is flawed.
My point is about "play" versus "relationship".
Firstly, let's Read more… get into the numbers game. I reckon the number of males probably outnumbers the number of females. Let's say by 3 to 1. So if everyone is going to pair up in relationships, two thirds of the males here will end up disappointed.
If it's all about open play then a woman will get to play 3 times as frequently as a man but the man will still get his fantasy met. We just share.
Secondly, a relationship is about a lot more than just sexual activity, and I believe kinky fantasies are part of sexual activity, even if it doesn't involve any sex, not even "relief". I find it erotic. That's why I do it. However, and this is just my mindset, whilst I have felt sex is often best monogamous, I have always held a mindset that kinky fetish activity should be more "open".
Whilst I can find women who will "support" my fetish if I pay, it isn't quite as fulfilling, and it isn't about the money, it's more about the feeling that they are doing what they are just for the money. Whilst I am happy to pay a reasonable sum to this site to support it, the aim is to find what I have outlined above, and if I'm not going to find it here I'm wasting my money.
I just hope this site isn't going to follow all the archetypal stereotypes I have seen so far, such that instead of asking "what's your kink" and letting you write it in free words, they force you to stick it among a load of fixed categories, into which mine doesn't actually fall perfectly.
By the way, maybe someone will ask me why I am called Mr Shins.

I guess it isn't illegal if you both consent to it.
However this site is so full of rules "you can't post that here, you can't say that here...".
If I were allowed to advertise what I am looking for to the world, there would probably be many willing participants. But it's taboo and I'm only Read more… supposed to discuss this kind of thing on fetish sites - like this one.
If not on this forum maybe on a different one here? I'd happily pay this site to join if there is any hope of me actually finding what I want.

There you go, one rule for @KinkyBrat19 being allowed to show nudity and one for me with a relatively innocent photo.
Mine can't be met here because those likely to be up for it probably don't join this site.

You are the one who has called it an "industry".
For this site, I guess it is - it's business for them.
Yes I am here hoping to meet someone who will be a willing participant in my chosen kink, who might enjoy doing the same, and I'm not saying I would only meet them one-off but does it have to be Read more… part of a relationship? I'd rather keep it "open".
If you're into needle play or need specialised equipment and a well-equipped dungeon then I guess you'd need a pro-domme, or a partner willing to get all that equipment.
I'm not sure if I'm allowed to say on here what my actual fetish is but it requires no special equipment.