I'm a male Dom, and while I could come on here and stroke my own ego by saying men are more dominant, or that dominance is something quantifiable, that's not how I think.
What does it mean to be more or less of a Dom? Not strength, I'd say, like stated here earlier. I think it's not the ability to Read more… overpower someone, but the ability to make someone want to be overpowered by you. Even then, it's not going to be something you can measure, after all, what makes one person want to submit won't work for the next automatically. There's a huge element of compatibility and trust.
The things that make a Dom a Dom does factor in skills, but in the end it's going to be about their unique relationship to the subs they interact with, which doesn't have to be physically overpowering for everyone. With so many flavours, there's no one right way, and it's certainly not dependent on whether you're a man or a woman.
Society does encourage men to aspire towards dominance and it does encourage women to accept submissive roles in social structures, but that says nothing about any inherent traits that would indicate ability to dominate someone.

Yes, you don't have to do anything besides oral if that's your comfort level, don't let anyone tell you that's not enough if that is what you're willing to give.

I recommend attending events, if you see them on FetLife maybe messaging the hosts about accessibility. While not everyone will be helpful, there's a lot of people who will be respectful and understanding, I've known people in the scene, both Dom and sub, who have disabilities. Sometimes you need Read more… to plan something differently, for example only letting someone be on their knees for a moment before getting them into a more sustainable position, being extra careful with bondage to avoid damaging joints or painful areas, so on and so forth, I'm sure there's people who can be accommodating in a comfortable way.

For me Dominance is indeed a dichotomy, like you describe. I want to take them to be mine and have my sadistic way with them, but also make them feel seen, known, and loved. Those things come through at the same time for me, though I do reserve time for lots of aftercare too. So you're very much Read more… not the only one.

I love to hear them say "please make me yours", always very sweet.

I'm glad you think so, though I'm still always surprised when such things are said regarding things I do or say, I'm flattered that you and others approve of my methods, thank you!
I hope that you can find people with sufficiently thorough and caring methods that you can be involved with if that Read more… isn't the case already, best of luck!

I experience it quite heavily. I'm known to be extensive with my aftercare for subs I interact with, usually coming up with more things than they think is necessary, as well as after they've had time to cool down and are able to tell me about how they felt in more detail.
Giving aftercare in those Read more… two ways, immediate and reflectional so to speak, makes it easier for me to deal with Dom drop, if their needs are met then I can also let go and see what I need. I think the heavier part of Dom drop is between the immediate and the reflectional stage of aftercare, given it's necessary for me to review a scene to feel finished with it mentally, even if they seem completely satisfied.
Dom drop for me is hard to describe, but it can feel like a physical weight, a tiredness that makes it difficult to focus. Unfortunately I also don't know what I need for myself, as most of my needs tend to revolve around their wellbeing.

I did this without realising one of the first times I actually engaged with someone who would later become my sub; I didn't know how to know for sure they had come and were satisfied so I had no idea they had come at all until they tapped out telling me that 10 orgasms was enough.
It's something Read more… I'd like to replicate sometime with proper planning and communication with another sub, if the opportunity arises, in my experiences it can be very fun.

Though I don't use the label, the definition of demisexual does describe how I process attraction, and I'm poly, I have experience with polyamorous relationships. I'm not sure what information you are looking for within demisexual relationships though, how do you think being demisexual might affect Read more… a polyamorous relationship?

This statement is interesting to me. While I cannot speak for subs, I can speak for myself and how I experience trust in others and how I see others experience trust in me. While I agree that if a Dom, or any person for that matter, is insecure about their ability to do something it will diminish Read more… my trust in them, I wouldn't equate that with not wanting to be vulnerable around a vulnerable person.
It's important for a Dom to be knowledgeable enough to trust themselves to earn the trust of others, but no one is invulnerable, every person will experience some sort of insecurity, whether regarding Dominance or other things, it's a part of how we become better as people. If we never question ourselves, allow not even a minuscule amount of those insecurities, we have no direction when seeking to grow better.
But back to not wanting to be vulnerable around a vulnerable person, if a Dom is vulnerable in the scene itself, within their role, within their abilities, I agree with you. It wouldn't inspire trust. But the capability itself to be vulnerable and allow oneself to feel that, in my opinion, could inspire more trust. If I only ever talk to subs I engage with about their feelings, what they need, what they want etc then the conversation will sound more like a therapy session or a business exchange than a deeper connection. That can be fine for some, especially if it's not a long-term dynamic. But I do notice that when I do let myself be vulnerable around a sub that I'd like to see again, if I do talk about my emotions and needs to the extent that I'm able to, they have often then found it easier to seek more depth in the conversation about not just my needs but also their own.
I honestly didn't expect to type this much, but I hope that hearing my thoughts is interesting. Have a great rest of your day/night!

I'm not sure what you are asking with this, do you need some advice with figuring out what you prefer? As ThaliaVirago said, switching is always an option, whether with the same person or varying people. Consider what you like about each role and the feelings they evoke and try things out, I'd say.

That's fair, I view my document as a jumping off point for there to be space for questions, but actions do often speak louder than words, I like to make use of both. Thank you for your addition!

I do agree with the show don't tell mentality, both in literature and life, though I still do think that my document might be beneficial.
The reason why I returned to the concept is to have an overview for those who have assessed my behaviour and would like to have a summary to see about things Read more… that haven't come up in conversation, for example, I'm going through a vetting process now and doing my best to ensure nothing is rushed and that communication remains clear. They seem very satisfied with the information they have based on my behaviour, and I'm open to questions from them, but I'm also trying to see what questions might be useful for them to have answers to, given they might not think of every single useful question they could ask me.
I hope that that gives some more insight into my motivation when making the document, thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Absolutely no problem, regardless of the misunderstanding your comment was enlightening, no harm no foul, I'm sure I also could have phrased my original post more clearly.
Those are some really great questions to consider, I'll take them into my notes for the document. Thank you for the insight!