I agree, I apologise if it looked like I was saying we shouldn't raise these issues, it was more those new that join and want to learn will pick up about consent, trust, manners etc, sadly they are usually not the ones this post was originally about.

I hate to be the naysayer but sadly, in 12 years of being on various kink sites, I haven't seen these posts make any change. Basically the people you want to change won't read them, so the advice won't get to them. The people who do these types of messages usually are new to the site, have no Read more… experience of the scene, have not been to a munch or an event and not yet made any friends. They have a profile and are horny, that is it.
Unless sites made it harder for people to make profiles or made them go through some sort of orientation before their profile went active, I doubt anything will change. Of course neither of those things are in the best interests of the site, as they want as many punters as possible, so they will never happen. I have heard some subscription sites are better, mainly because they weed out the ones looking for quick thrills because they won't pay to join, but sadly I have also heard there is a problem with people feeling entitled, because they have paid for subscription, that they are owed something by other members.
Sadly it's crap either way

I suppose if you do message a person, and they do delete your message without replying, it immediately shows you they are not someone you would like to converse with.

Really? Not replying to an unrequested message is rude? By what you are saying you seem to infer that people are obligated to reply to all messages received. If I received a rude or illiterate message I would not reply and wouldn't feel rude by doing so. Surely, as we are all adults we have the Read more… freedom to choose who we do or do not reply to?

nondescriptcouple quote BigPolly :❝I believe because people have a screen to hide behind then they think that’s ok!? - I also think because I’m a sub people don’t expect me to have a voice.❞
The keyboard warriors, cock in hand, will type whatever their little member tells them too, hence the 'Hi Read more… slut' messages, also if you only read online BDSM porn you will presume that all subs drop to their knees, mouths open, whenever a Master enters a room. Sadly there is a huge disconnect between the reality and fantasy of kink, and that is where a lot of people who are new to the scene fall down.
In the same way you should never go grocery shopping when hungry, newbies should never type and send a message when they are horny.

Sadly this is not unique to this site, to kink sites, to the internet, to life in general. I would be surprised if most ladies who have visited a vanilla club haven't been harassed by 'that man' who just won't take no.
Say No, and if they reply block them. You do not need to deal with people who a) Read more… cannot read and b) have no manners.
For some people (mostly men) kink sites are places to find free whores, who if you beg and plead long enough will give in and let you have some pity play. Of course that is rubbish but it doesn't stop them trying again and again and again. I have been on various kink sites for 12 years + and this question is asked over and over again. Sadly, it never changes, these people will always exist, and all you can do is hope they move onto another person, as it is doubtful they will ever change. If they have reached adulthood and do not understand what No means it is unlikely they ever will.
Pessimistic I know, but that's reality for you.

I will be honest I struggle with the idea that a Dom/sub relationship is different to any other form of relationship. In all relationships there needs to understanding, two way communication and give and take. From your explanation it does seem your Dom contacts you when he feels like it and then Read more… ignores you when he cannot be bothered, in the vanilla world that would be a Booty call, not a relationship.
You say your relationship agenda is obvious but have never spoken about it, and that he has trained you to see his position in the relationship without directly communicating. Without any communication or confirmation from him it sounds like all you have done is presumed both his agenda and role based on guesswork, not facts.
I am sorry to be so harsh, I realise he is your Dom, but you have asked for peoples comments.
One question for you, why are you asking strangers what is going on, shouldn't you be asking your Dom directly for a clearer understanding of what he is doing? Or is it that you don't think he would respond or might perhaps just ignore you again. If that is the reason then you do need to think seriously about what relationship you actually have with him.

I suppose the question is, is looking for a 'paypig' different to looking for a spanker, rubberlover, DaddyDom, foot slave etc.
I realise it is more of a business transaction but if the people asking are registered on here as professionals, then I cannot see they are doing anything wrong.
I am not Read more… into rubber but have no problem with someone asking for a rubber lover.
Kink is a very very 'broad' church with many different facets, some more popular than others, but the old saying of YKINMK (Your Kink Is Not My Kink) prevails, I may not like or understand it but each to their own.

Sadly with a lot of online chat you get the fantasists, those that want you to believe their way is the only way. Kink is in many ways like normal life, go with your gut, if it sounds stupid it usually is. Any relationship, be it kink or vanilla, is built on many factors, one being both parties are Read more… equals. You cannot be told to love someone in the same way you cannot be told to submit, you have to want them for them to happen and feel right. As other people have said, you have been messaged by chancers and wannabees, our advice would be to get to munches and events and meet the real kink world.