Dominant by nature, fun and firm by nurture. Genuinely a trustworthy person with confidence in my abilities and highly valuing privacy. In my subs I want to see honesty, integrity, drive, and independence before anything sexual occurs. Ideally I'm looking for D/s relationships with women, no interest in M/s or men. If you are not interested in serving, I am not interested in sex. One thing I cannot stand is disrespect, it offends and annoys me when people feel the need to be rude and intentionally intimidating. If you become close to me I'm fiercely loyal and giving, a side of me that a lot of people don't see. Above anything else, what I most enjoy is the development of the person, guidance, training, nurturing, and helping them to be the best version of themselves possible.
A big fantasy of mine would be to have sex with a complete stranger. Knowing very little about them. Purely on a sexual level.
Long term I long for a sub to serve, obey and satisfy me. I have no issue with them being switch.....just not with me. I dont do jealous and pretty easy going.
Yak like has been said before by others, your limits are your limits. For what ever reason you have them he must respect that. Think of it like this. You draw the outline of the picture. He can colour in the picture how he sees fit but must never cross the lines that you set out initially. He must Read more… respect you and your limits. Using a hard limit as a punishment is never acceptable.
In a nut shell, personally speaking, for me the control lies with the sub. As a Dom it's my job to push her but within her limits. She sets them. I must follow them. I must respect her limits at all times and if she uses Red or safe words no matter what I am doing I must stop. I personally would be Read more… ashamed to get a sub to use her safe word or Red. The sub offers to allow the Dom to control certain aspects. The Dom can't just decide he is going to do that. The Dom ends up in a position of power and control but that is given by the sub. I do admit my ways and values are old school so something may have changed in recent years.
Sorry to hear about the issues with your mum. This worked for me. When you clam up, when she is winning, don't let her. Strive to be better as a person. Strive to give people the chances she didn't. Be the opposite of her. Take a deep breath and tell someone you trust, first time will be hard but Read more… you just shared your issues here which is a huge step in the right direction. Good luck! You can do it. Your opinion counts too!
Hey firstly welcome here. Good on you for wanting to try new things....... Who wants to stay vanilla huh? I'm sure one of the regulars in chat is in a wheelchair too and lives this lifestyle and had a lot of fun doing it. Maybe pop into the chat room once your comfy to do so and join in. Would be Read more… great to see a new face in there. Good luck!