Anyone here into the more ritual / intentional side of kink?
I’ve been exploring Shamanic Kink for a while - the intersection of BDSM, ritual, embodiment, archetypes, and conscious power exchange. It’s less about adding more “stuff” to a scene and more about paying attention to what’s happening underneath it.
I’m helping with a 7-day Shamanic Kink Immersion in Upstate NY this September. People are coming from the West Coast and Europe for it, so if you’re in New England, you basically have the luxury of just driving there.
It’s 7 days, all included - food, accommodation, workshops, practices, community, and plenty of time to explore.
Curious if anyone here has explored this side of kink before. Would love to meet some New England folks there
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Is BDSM still BDSM when you take away the sex?
I've been thinking about this lately:
A lot of what makes a BDSM scene powerful isn't necessarily the sexual part. It's attention, power, surrender, anticipation, trust, sensation, roles, ritual, the weird little things that can happen between two people when they're really present.
So where does Read more…BDSM end and something else begin?
Can a scene be genuinely transformative without being sexual? Or does taking the sex out of it change the nature of kink completely?
I'm interested in how other people experience this, especially those who use kink for something beyond getting off.
A lot of what makes a BDSM scene powerful isn't necessarily the sexual part. It's attention, power, surrender, anticipation, trust, sensation, roles, ritual, the weird little things that can happen between two people when they're really present.
So where does Read more…BDSM end and something else begin?
Can a scene be genuinely transformative without being sexual? Or does taking the sex out of it change the nature of kink completely?
I'm interested in how other people experience this, especially those who use kink for something beyond getting off.
Likealexandria80450, Aureliana1177and 126 more… · 62 Replies
submidtn I had a pony boy. It wasn't sexual. There was bondage. There was training. His reasoning for needing to be a pony boy was to literally escape the stresses of being human. As a pony, he didn't have to think. He could be more primal brained. He could lizard brain and I had control. He could react without higher thinking. He literally used bdsm as an escape from being human. I had a pony boy. It wasn't sexual. There was bondage. There was training. His reasoning for needing to be a pony boy was to literally escape the stresses of being human. As a pony, he didn't have to think. He could be more primal brained. He could lizard brain and I had control. He could react without higher thinking. He literally used bdsm as an escape from being human.
LikeCarlMax, ReflectorForHire, prato34504
· 24.08.2026 20:51:10
freeport211567 Sex is just the cherry on top Sex is just the cherry on top
LikeReflectorForHire
· 21.08.2026 17:49:47
TravelDominant It's all in the acronym...
• Bondage
• Discipline/Dominance
• Submission/Sadism
• Masochism
Kinks and Fetishes can stand alone, as well be associated with activities within BDSM. Sexual exploration has used, and Been used, during the practice of Kinks and Fetishes and if you're looking within Read more… the community (in person) you'll see this explanation Everywhere.
Taking for example the lower end of the spectrum, bondage in the form of Shibari or Kinbaku... it originated from the holding and sometimes *** of prisoners in Japan. For many, nothing sexual happens during the practice of Kinbaku but there is a connective transference of consciousness, energy, however you individually want to call it... as well as sexual for many other people.
In DD/lg, some people have a sexual desire while they're in "little" or "middle" space, and MANY have absolutely Zero desire to associate sexually... their fetish is to feel safe within the confines of their emotional state of feeling safe and small in the company of someone big and authoritative... their protector.
On the far and intense side of the spectrum (respectively) we have hook-suspension practitioners. They are motivated to practice their fetish because of the headspace they shift into as they settle into their physical ***, or for some, separate themselves from it. They rarely Every associate this experience with sexual acts.
***And all of these still fall under the umbrella of BDSM.
So yes, sexual activity is not the predominate ingredient to make BDSM "BDSM". But it's your choice to include it or not. The beauty of individualism is practice by each and every one of us, and is not confined by rule of societal opinion.
Play safe all.
• Bondage
• Discipline/Dominance
• Submission/Sadism
• Masochism
Kinks and Fetishes can stand alone, as well be associated with activities within BDSM. Sexual exploration has used, and Been used, during the practice of Kinks and Fetishes and if you're looking within Read more… the community (in person) you'll see this explanation Everywhere.
Taking for example the lower end of the spectrum, bondage in the form of Shibari or Kinbaku... it originated from the holding and sometimes *** of prisoners in Japan. For many, nothing sexual happens during the practice of Kinbaku but there is a connective transference of consciousness, energy, however you individually want to call it... as well as sexual for many other people.
In DD/lg, some people have a sexual desire while they're in "little" or "middle" space, and MANY have absolutely Zero desire to associate sexually... their fetish is to feel safe within the confines of their emotional state of feeling safe and small in the company of someone big and authoritative... their protector.
On the far and intense side of the spectrum (respectively) we have hook-suspension practitioners. They are motivated to practice their fetish because of the headspace they shift into as they settle into their physical ***, or for some, separate themselves from it. They rarely Every associate this experience with sexual acts.
***And all of these still fall under the umbrella of BDSM.
So yes, sexual activity is not the predominate ingredient to make BDSM "BDSM". But it's your choice to include it or not. The beauty of individualism is practice by each and every one of us, and is not confined by rule of societal opinion.
Play safe all.
LikeWide_open_2026
· 19.08.2026 4:56:14
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