Tbh, from when people could get through my fliter, the automatic turn off was they haven't read my profile or have abusive ways in speaking with me. (Meaning that they portray themselves as Dom's, but have a concerning history with women in general) I feel like it's okay for blank profiles or how Read more… ever someone wants to set there pfp up, just don't come straight out the back treating me and my time as a kink dispensary. I'm a human person, not a sex robot

Also I do suggest researching more on the dynamic as well🫂

I'm personally am not a findomme, but I have looked into it, the goal normally is for you to feel like you are supporting or being useful to the findomme or findom in question, some findoms have different styles on how they talk to there paypigs n which is probably why you had felt that way, Read more… depending on how they reacted to you. I would recommend getting to know them through multiple pages or things, to feel like you are getting to know that Dom/domme In question, also think if this is the route you want to go on. Because you are supposed to be feeling good even after a tribute is sent,😅if that's my understanding of findoms, 🫂hopes it helps

Findoms are different, they ask for tribute first, then conversation to know that person has or is interested into this dynamic

Devoted brat,/sub🦜

I've actually experienced a similar battle to yours very recently, what's keeping me to be the better me he made me realize is self care, yes it's us who worked on our selves but without that guidance we wouldn't have took those steps out of the pond onto the land,I wright little stories to replace Read more… my need to lean on someone again, it's my therapy I hope you find your tick as well🫂best wishes but know your not alone and self care is the key(mental self care)I hope what I said helped in anyway🫂🫂🫂

Tbh, I would get her to her self out of her head space then ask her, how does she feel and ask her to explain it in deep detail, if she doesn't actually really enjoy the acts but just do it because she wants to do it for him, tell her that she needs to think what she wants genuinely. Rather if it's Read more… communicating more with her Dom to not leave many marks or her leave, I dont know how there relationship works and do not know if she is a maso, if it's all consensual once out of her head space and fully think on the situation.

There is a Dom head space and also be aware there is a Dom drop, 🫂

For DMS, I think the best way to approach is saying something that you read off there profile and treat them like a normal person, most doms/dommes in particular want to get to know you before kink is involved.

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For everyone in this comment section, she had got told to not seek in the lobby chat by not only mods but by Dom's/dommes/subs/switches, it was a rule, placing a ad or looking for ads can help you talk with Dom's, or get to know them in lobby then take it to the dms.i understand your want to serve Read more… for a Dom, you can get to know them in lobby first without seeking then take it to the DMS if you so desire.