Hi my name's Roxanne, but I prefer Roxy. I joined a training group on another site, which teachers newbies like myself all about BDSM. This helped me understand what its really all about. Before I joined this group I didn't understand what I had been looking for in a relationship. I only new that something was missing. As I began to learn and understand about BDSM I realised what had been missing in my life.
I've always been an independent woman in charge of my own decisions and life choices. I considered myself to be dominant, and gradually realised that well actually I'm a switch. The more I learned, and looked at my life and choices and decisions I had made, I then began to reflect on my life and experiences. I have now come full circle, and I now know I am a submissive from the heart. My being in control, and in charge was a choice I wasn't actually given.

What I am looking for is a deep mental connection, one that goes beyond sex, kink, fetishes. This as we know happens over time however. I'm not looking to meet any time soon and will only talk with the intention of getting to know some one.

Ok so what type of person I'm looking for.......
First let's start with what I'm not looking for, I'm not looking for a top/bottom. I have no interest in casual bed hoping. Neither am I looking for a switch, I have no interest in being in control inside the bedroom or out.

Now what I am looking for......
I'm looking for a 100% Dom/Master who follows the Gentlemen and Old School Domination and Submission.
My preference is for sensual domination. I haven't filled out the BDSM test because I don't fit into some of the questions being asked. I'm inexperienced in this life style, and I will require full submissive training with the right person. I'm also wanting to live the life style 24/7 but around my work commitments. I have read a question on here on wether a dominant ect should pay financially for a submissive ?Personally I'm financially independent, and like providing for myself. This is something I would not give up, or allow anyone to change this. I am also a demisexual ( I need to have a mental connection with my match inorder for me to give myself sexually to my Dominant.

If your still reading my bio then wow that's great please continue..... Lol

So below is something I would like you to read.

I came across this list I've written below, when I read this I was very surprised because..... Well I actually identified with everything written on this as my own needs. Needs I had not even realised I actually had or wanted, and needed fulfilling.

What I need as a submissive within a D/s dynamic relationship.

1, I need to feel safe.
2, I need to know you except me
for all I am.
3, I need you to be consistent.
4, I need to expand my limits.
5, I need you to teach me.
6, I need goals and direction.
7, I need to be corrected.
8, I need you to be my role model. 9, I need your approval, and
reassurance.
10, I need to be able to express
myself.
11, I need to learn from my
mistakes.
12, I need forgiveness when I fail
you.
13, I need to feel I contribute.
14, I need to enjoy success.
15, I need to share with you.
16, I need to feel loved, respected,
and protected in your
ownership.

Gentlemen and old school Domination and Submission BDSM. This to me is a deep mental connection, my pledge to a Dom/Master is giving control over my mind, body, soul, and heart. To obey his every command within a soft and hard limit contract, agreed upon by both parties. In return he gets my complete obedience to his wishes, desires and orders, which is what I would give of myself to my Dom/Master.
The Dom/Master,s part is to see to my needs. This then is called a power exchange, and goes beyond sex, kink, and fetishes. If your still with me then......Not only is that..... wow...... But I'm also impressed.......Lol

Ok so who am I ? Well let's see.

I read on another's profile a method they used to describe themselves, so i've decided to use the same method...... I asked family, friends, and work colleagues to use one word to describe who I am. Here is what they said.......

Happy, Relaxed personality, Good sense humour, kind, Caring, Positive, Easy to talk to. Good heart. Chatty lol. Honest, Reliable, Understanding, Empathy.

Ok enough of that now let's see how I see myself ?

Well.....That's easy..... I live by a simple code treat others how you want to be treated.... Everyone has a purpose, and a reason for being here.

I read some where that..... Outer beauty fades overtime, but inner beauty never does. A simple phrase but so very true.

Are you bored yet........ lol

So my job is in the health care industry, I'm a support worker, and I work with autistic adults who also have complex needs. This is in a Supported living environment. I,ve learnt some amazing skills during my career. Observant, understanding, good listener, supporting in a person centred way, skills I use in my every day to day life..................

So I think I've written enough here if you have read my profile........ lol, and have any questions please leave me a message. If I'm not for you then I wish you all the best on finding what your looking for.

Kind Regards,
Roxy. xxx

Desires and Fantasies
I'm very open sexually, I like being called names slut, whore ect, being made to beg. Being tied up, blind folded. Feeling a flog whip slowly moving over my body, my heart beating, my breath short fast, my body aching anticipating that quick sharp sting against my skin is very powerful, erotic stimulating. The rush of tingling sensations moving over my body. Any way got lost in the moment for a minute then.
Light flogging, spanked open handed, hair pulled. Role plays, playing with my toys and being watched. 1-1 only. I do have hard limits and soft limits, soft limits I want to be pushed some what on them. Hard limits well we,l see on that. I'm a 1-1 type of person so I have no interest in swinging, gang bangs, other women. I have never had a fantasy about having 2 cocks at the same time. The thought makes me want to puk to be honest lol. Happy discussing all things sexual and about my life ect. I,l be honest and straight up.