seonny ➦seonny quote Jeromiah:❝That’s because there’s a lot of women advertising they’re easy. So the women don’t help.❞
Yes, there are women advertising easy, but these predators (using a body to f**k) are just like women who are Goldiggers. They are looking for any easy target first, but basically a numbers game (all size, shapes, looks) until they catch one who has low self-esteem to use. Same ideas, same tatics on both men and women. ➦seonny quote Jeromiah:❝That’s because there’s a lot of women advertising they’re easy. So the women don’t help.❞
Yes, there are women advertising easy, but these predators (using a body to f**k) are just like women who are Goldiggers. They are looking for any easy target first, but basically a numbers game (all size, shapes, looks) until they catch one who has low self-esteem to use. Same ideas, same tatics on both men and women.

seonny ➦seonny quote Jeromiah:❝Now here is my response to the OP. I’m the same. My bdsm needs are separate from sex. I have always wanted a domestic servant since I was a kid. So not sexual! If I wanted a slave since I was a kid it certainly has never been about sex! Mum said we couldn’t afford an actual Read more… servant so when I learned about bdsm slaves I thought great that’s for me! I realised that it was possible to acquire a free slave because these people actually enjoy the act of serving someone. So I joined a few bdsm dating sites and social media but unfortunately all I got were blokes wanted to serve me in a sexual way and when I serve me I mean serve themselves! They wanted me to “dominate them” by going on about their cocks and put them in chastity and tell them when and when they cannot or can masturbate and im like nah that’s not what I’m looking for. That doesn’t benefit me at all. What I wanted was somebody to wait on me hand and foot and do whatever I say and obey me but for it to not have anything to do with their body parts. I couldn’t care less about putting them in chastity or whether or not they masturbated. I wanted them to stand at attention, now to me, kiss my feet and hands, clean my house, cook for me and accompany me when I go out and carry my stuff, open doors for me and generally make my life easier.
I have realised that that is what some people want to do but so far I’ve not been able to actually meet anyone to do this. The majority just want sex and im like no this is not what I want. Yes I would like a sexual partner but only in a relationship and it’d be actually quite vanilla. It’s quite frustrating and I feel your pain❞
I understand this is your wants and desires. To me, this is a one way road "My way or the highway", and very bad energy!

MrCasey69 ➦MrCasey69 quote Jeromiah:❝Me Casey I agree I too am a paraphiliac. I do actually find sexual satisfaction just by ordering someone around and degrading them. I don’t just get turned on by physical sex acts but by having total power over someone or them me but without sex involved he he❞
I think Read more… what you describe is absolutley right - that's true for many of us. While I certainly do enjoy sex, I can quite happily play with a partner for hours without stimulating myself, and the buzz after a good session like that is far more powerful than any orgasm.
The OP didn't say anything about getting any sexual gratification out of their kinks which is what I think is very unusual. But perhaps they just weren't being clear / explicit about what they meant.