Either way, that person should respect your boundaries. It's not a matter of difference in perspective. It's a matter of disrespect.

I get it. I totally do. Yes. It's aggravating. Yes. It's depressing. Unfortunately, the reason for it is that people suck. Not men. Not women. Not subs. Not doms. People. People suck. Some of the reason you either get no response, people trying to get you to jump through hoops, or knee-jerk Read more… responses is that women experience their own version of the "dating past 30" gauntlet. Again, MOST people suck. We don't like including ourselves in that group, but, statistically speaking, it tracks and we need to be mindful of how most men act, regardless of if we're one of the ones contributing to the problem, directly. If nothing else, it will help, with not taking offensive behavior as a personal attack, but a defensive response, triggered my repeated stimuli.
The other half of the reason is that most of THEM suck, just as bad. Again, nobody wants to look at themselves, as part of the problem. This is especially true for groups that have legitimate, often institutionalized hardships, because they think it negates their needs, as they would no longer be the victim and our society has a black and white outlook, where that concept is involved. They assume it's you, because so many other women are experiencing the same issues, but it's not something those other women are directly causing, with poor communication, unrealistic expectations and emotional baggage. Emotional maturity isn't exactly a widespread thing, in the current state of things.
Then there's the final factor: age. We're not kids anymore. Most of the decent, undamaged, fully functional and cost effective models are already off the market, so to speak. I hate to have to put it this way, but we're in the discount bin, buddy. More than that, it's a BDSM site, which pretty much means you're intentionally looking for someone with a few screws loose, while accepting that you do too. I know this, because I'm one of them and I accept it.
We all get upset at things like this, for the same basic reason: you subconsciously realize that it means what you're looking for is a lot harder to find than you thought. We all want to be with a decent person. Trouble is, there's not a lot of those out there. All you can do is put yourself out there and wait for the one who responds to who you really are. You don't want any of the others, anyway, so what they do shouldn't affect you. Learn to observe negativity, without having to absorb it. Just like poisonous berries, it will try to lure you in, with bright colors (things that catch your attention), but those are a warning to stay away. Clinging to it will infect your mind; the one place you have the ability to be at peace, in this world.

AJ193 - You definitely need to work up gradually, in width. You definitely do NOT want a torn urethra. It doesn't really stretch, like other parts of the body do, so you can be over by just a few mm and that's enough to cause an issue. Also, make sure you're using bacterial static lubricant. It's Read more… very easy to get a bladder infection, using a sounding set.
As far as depth is concerned, if you feel like you've hit a wall, stop. If you try to *** it, you can do serious damage. As you might imagine, the urethra isn't a straight line. You might have hit a bend, a narrow spot, or your bladder, depending on the length of the sound. If you hit the bladder, stay out. Even with surgical lube, the chances of an infection are too high and most people don't find it to be a pleasurable experience, in the first place.

@someone15227 yes. Actually, that was their original intended purpose. They were originally used in medical procedures, for men with narrowing of the urethra, or an enlarged prostate.

I don't believe this happens.

Firstly, the wording here is beautifully constructed and I thoroughly enjoyed reading it, especially the last part. I never understood this bizarre tendency either, but I like your take on it. Thank you.