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Shadow82
icon-wio Shadow82 wrote something in the forum
  • 12.04.2018 0:03:52
  • Male (32)
  • Bethel
  • Not single
Supporting a Sub with mental and emotional scars

I greatly appreciate everyone who took the time to offer advice. I can see this is going to be a long and interesting road.

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Shadow82
icon-wio Shadow82 wrote something in the forum
  • 09.04.2018 23:15:32
  • Male (32)
  • Bethel
  • Not single
Supporting a Sub with mental and emotional scars

Thank You for all the feedback. A little more background may help in responses. I will use rope bondage as an example (though this isn't a problem) During a scene and in just discussion she LOVES IT!!! I mean white hot, hell yeah! Scene goes off without a hitch, great fun. It is in the aftermath Read more… that her brain starts beating her up BECAUSE she enjoyed it. I have asked her about my style of aftercare and whether it is sufficient to which the answer is a resounding yes. Now due to our current situation some types of play have been put on the back burner so to speak to help deal with the fact that in some of our play "Extended" aftercare may be needed.

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Shadow82
icon-wio Shadow82 created a topic in BDSM Forum
  • 09.04.2018 20:13:41
  • Bethel
Supporting a Sub with mental and emotional scars
So, my question is this. I have a collared submissive who was trained ass a level 5. Unfortunately, the... Doms, and I use this term begrudgingly, did alot of damage both mental and emotional. I am wanting to help her face and defeat her demons so that we can continue to grow, myself as a dominant and her as a submissive.
Any advice?
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Cassie34
Cassie34 Hi...May I add to this topic as it is very close to my heart..I was subjected to abuse when I was alot younger...No choice....Scared to talk to anyone...I was left alone with my own confused thoughts...Was what I was going through...Normal...part of growing up...I had no idea.! It changed my Read more… life..affects me to this day...Being in a relationship , whether Dom or Sub..vice versa , an understanding and patience with ones partner is so important. If you really care about your blossoming relationship , the most important thing you can do is to discover , what is not easy , a way of encouraging your partner to open up...it is so hard to do...it is even harder for your partner !!..It really comes down one thing only..Trust..When one opens up emotionally , one feels very vulnerable..Use your instinct as to how to proceed , and do NOT go by what your personal desires are . I spent 4 years going through specialist psychotherapy , once weekly..it took nearly 3 years to really open up...To be honest..I think that if she was part of the fetish scene , I do not think it would of taken that long..NO ONE can really understand what it is like to have emotional and mental scars because of ones past unless they have been through the same or something similar...that is so important to remember.! On a personal note..after all this time , even though time is supposed to be a great healer , I panic when any male touches me , even as a friendly or comforting gesture.Making and achieving that breakthrough is something that I have to yet experience..I mean with a partner.!..One day..Cassie
Like · 21.04.2018 13:37:08
Charms
Charms communication and telling her that you will listen to her any time. also do things away from play time. like a walk in a park or go for coffee. also aftercare is a must.
i have problems due to x bfs makeing me feel worthless ect. my dom spends time with me just talking. we do vanila stuff to like shopping an cooking togther. let her see the vanila side to communication and telling her that you will listen to her any time. also do things away from play time. like a walk in a park or go for coffee. also aftercare is a must.
i have problems due to x bfs makeing me feel worthless ect. my dom spends time with me just talking. we do vanila stuff to like shopping an cooking togther. let her see the vanila side to
LikeCassie34, Ahmd774and 1 more… · 16.04.2018 6:59:03
Shadow82
Shadow82 I greatly appreciate everyone who took the time to offer advice. I can see this is going to be a long and interesting road. I greatly appreciate everyone who took the time to offer advice. I can see this is going to be a long and interesting road.
Likeeyemblacksheep, Cassie34 · 12.04.2018 0:03:52