Just so i make this painfully clear. I have lived all my sexual fantasies to date. So You are gonna have to be spectacular to hang with me!
Desires and Fantasies
none what so ever
Our BDSM writer Molly is back with some more pearls of wisdom for a female sub whose Dom has demanded a One Penis Policy in their dynamic. Read more in the magazine now!
make sure your sub services YOU FIRST ...make him earn his sleep
awesome job darling. this is a must read for many. terrific job i know this took some work. proud of you
so sorry for all of you who may have thrown your shoulders out getting your pitchforks to stab at me with. When I...yes I read the original post....my attention was caught on the following quote.."One reason I wanted to enter a relationship as a sub was to learn now to surrender Read more… control......
well operative phrase being .....ready??? as a sub.....led me to consider that this is not the first BDSM relationship for the author and so it was UNNECESSARY for me to go over ground that was prolly well known.
After some of you put away the pitchforks and really get some experience YOU will learn that these relationships go much deeper than ...whose the Dom and whose the Sub. and the Sub wants control. Things can go a whole lot deeper and it depends on whose in the relationship.
So thank You for darting in all the comments about safety and such which are valid points. And i promise i will remember not to post anything too deep ....i would hate to see anyone else throw out their shoulders reaching for their pitchfoks.
Enjoy! And good luck Lady Pirate.
These relationships are NOT 50/50 arrangements. A submissive is generally not a partner in the sense of a vanilla marriage. The Dominant whether male or female is in charge. They make the decisions. They drive the train. The sub is NOT in charge. They do not make decisions unless directed to. And Read more… they don't drive the train. They RIDE IT. So buckle up and enjoy the ride and all the mind games that accompany it. It might be fun. If you can let yourself release and trust and follow ..you might find that it's a hell of a ride.
You want to ""learn""to be a sub..then act like a sub. Learn to follow and let Him lead. If the need to confront and question is so great then maybe You have zero sub tendencies. This could be a test that you are flunking. How hard do you want this? How hard are You willing to work for it? Read more… However it is worth asking if you may speak frankly with Him meaning if You piss him off you wont get punished. Then bring up the things you have share and keep your shit together calmly while He does or does not explain Himself. Oh and be prepared for Him to tell you He has His reasons.
Most Dominants I know would not be cross most find it hot as fuck to have this kind of control. And to be taking away your ability to control this