I'm a proper sane, caring, grown up who is also an experienced Dominant man looking for a submissive woman to go on an adventure with. The mental connection is just as important as the physical side - as far as I'm concerned a D/s relationship is something we do to and for each other as equals.
First, don't forget that each relationship and each D/s dynamic is different and unique – there are no 'he should/you shoulds' outside of what the 2 of you agree is your 'thing'. Everything the 2 of you do will be new to him purely because you are. It's easy to get hung up on the mechanics Read more… of what we all do but it's the combined nuances our different personalities coming together that lead to them being exciting and satisfying. The fact that he's asked you to surprise him would suggest he likes the idea of a dynamic with you in which you can express your personality to cook up those nuances.
I think FaisMoiPleurer hit it on the head with the idea of 'unexpected' being a surprise, not just 'new'. As an example, last week my Sub and I were apart (we often are due to distance) but we'd messaged a lot and I'd said something about how I'd love to hear her say something in particular (it was very rude and degrading so I won't mention it here!). It was in no way an instruction but later that evening, when I knew she was in the midst of a family get together, I received an audio file of her saying exactly what I'd mentioned. It was completely unexpected - she'd performed all her other tasks and I wanted her to just enjoy her family time, yet she'd excused herself and gone off to make it.
The fact that she'd taken time out from 'non-sub' time to make me that little gift, just to give me something extra to enjoy, meant the world and was so incredibly erotic. Rather than just please me by doing what she's told (which is the dutiful obedience of a submissive that I enjoy) she'd decided to use her creativity and playfulness (two other qualities that I deeply value in her too) to take elements of our D/s relationship and make something unexpected, surprising and deeply pleasing..
I used to have a friend who did webcam modelling - a regular used to ask for this as a fantasy from her and then she worked it in to some others. Eventually it seemed it would be a good idea if she could actually lactate so she knuckled down and worked on it, as you are, and eventually produced Read more… milk, to much appreciation from her regulars! She was 64 at the time! Hope that's an inspiration!!
Trouble is these days most people are taking pics on mobile phones and they use a pretty wide angle lens - great for cramming more into the shot but they will give you the 'back of a spoon' look if too close and, to be honest, arms length is too close. The selfie stick will help to get distance, or Read more… prop up the camera(phone) and use a self timer app. If you're indoors (though if your pics are naughty part of me hopes you're outdoors) and using window light then get pretty close to said window and have it to your side but in front of you - as if you're standing at one edge of the window. That way the maximun light falls across you from infront but to one side, which is usually more flattering than if it's hitting you full in the face. Don't do this with direct sunlight streaming through window - way too contrasty! If you want to get even fancier, set up a big white sheet or big piece of white card (surely you have that lying around!) opposite the window (or wherever your light is coming from) to 'bounce' some of it back onto the bits of you in shadow, which will be even more flattering by softening the shadows. Try not to use a built in flash on a phone or camera - they put them next to the lens which is THE worst place to put a flash if you want a person to like like a person. Oh, and think about backgrounds - is there anything there which will draw the eye away from you? Regarding angles - as others have said looking down from above often works well but you'll find getting some distance from the camera open up more options - you can always crop the shots afterwards. Hope that helps a little.
I've always seen there's roughly 2 parts to this - the mechanical bit of what you physically do and the mental side of what you are both getting out of it.
As far as the first part goes it's relatively easy to find out what kinky things you can do but I'd suggest you practice as much as you can on Read more… your own before using your new skills on your partner. So, practice knots (and undoing them!) in your own time; if you want to try flogging - practice wielding it on a pillow until you know you can aim and control it; that kind of thing. Also I think it helps to have a sense of what all this feels like for your partner - try whipping that flogger over your shoulder on to your own back, tie the rope around your own wrist and see how it feels. If you both like the idea of you leading her around by a collar, put it around your own neck and give it a yank so you know what she'll be feeling. If you can have a sense of what your partner is experiencing physically it wil be easier to build the empathy to read her and thus be a better Dom.
Oh, and always always make sure you know what is safe and what isn't - I'm thinking about things like where on someone's body you can flog them, how tight and for how long a rope can be tied somewhere, all that technical stuff. As eyemblacksheep says, workshops can be fantastic for this kind of thing.
As for the mental side, that's where the communication comes in - honest, non-judgemental, open. I think there can often be a sense among Doms that they should have all the answers, should never get anything wrong, should be the infallible expert. It's nonsense, of course. You never stop learning and everyone misjudges something from time to time - just keep talking and learn to read each other - if something goes wrong stop, check you're both ok, talk, laugh.
This kind of relationship can be so magically close because you have to open up for it to work well. Don't feel you're responsible for always getting it right, but by all means take responsibilty for making it right! And have fun - lots of fun.