I am a Lesbian and I don't interact with men on this website. If you interact with my page and you are a man, I will block you.

Heya! Welcome to my page ^-^
I moved to Seattle a few months before the 'rona hit so I really haven't had a chance to date at all. I'm polyam with only one partner rn and I'm itching to get back into the dating scene. I'm chronically ill and disabled, which means I won't be meeting up with people until I get vaccinated, but that should be next month (fingers crossed). I want to use this section of my page to talk about who I am, what I'm looking for, and what my expectations are. This means this section will be pretty long, but I'm going to format it in a way that it is easy to navigate.

ABOUT ME:
I'm autistic, which I mention first because that's the filter through which I experience life. It's the most "about me" thing, especially when it comes to social interactions, since allistic and autistic people communicate so differently. I have a few interests that are pretty constant which are drawing, animation and leftism. Everything else kind of operates in cycles, but I generally like crafty hobbies, video games, and cooking. I like learning about things that interest me and I will sometimes spend days looking up and categorizing information about whatever topic I'm on at that time. I also have very strong opinions about things all the time and I don't mean that with a negative connotation. I'm really bad and figuring out what information about myself is relevant to put into something like this so if you want to know something, just ask

WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR AND MY EXPECTATIONS:

• I have some expectations that are present regardless of what kind of relationship I have. I also want to be clear that I use partner to mean any kind of partner. Sexual partner, romantic partner, play partner, life partner, casual partners, pretty much anything that's "more that friends". I am a lesbian, and by this is mean my partners are women and non-binary people who are comfortable with having a lesbian partner. I know there are plenty of non-binary people who feel like dating a lesbian undermines their gender identity and I respect that. My current partner and I operate with full autonomy in our relationships, by this I mean that they don't dictate what my relationships with other people look like and I don't have any control over their relationships either. All of my partners have to be on the same page about this, which means I WILL NOT become partners with monogamous people under any circumstances. There is a fundamental disconnect between the way I view and approach relationships that doesn't jive well with mono people and it's better for everyone involved that we not get involved. I also need my partners to be leftist, socially aware, educated on social issues (I don't mean academia), and participate in meaningful activism. As a multiply marginalized person I can't risk allowing certain people into my inner circle and I have no interest in having to educate my partners.
• As for specifics, I am primarily looking for a regular dominant play partner. I don't have an interest in being in a romantic relationship with this play partner. I want to cultivate a close friendship with this person, but I'm not going to have the same expectations for this relationship that I would for my romantic relationships and I want us to be on the same page about this. I want a play partner who is experienced with impact play and preferably experienced with rope bondage, M/s dynamics, and/or edge play in general.
• I'm also looking for a "long term" romantic and sexual partner. I require all my sexual partners to be kinky to some degree, so I do pretty much all my dating on kink focused sites. I prefer people with similar life experiences and interests as me but this is not a hard and fast rule. If we are compatible, I'm willing to give most any relationship a chance.

• Lastly, I am interested in a casual relationship by which I mean we are sexual partners and we go on dates, but the level of emotional investment is lower than a typical "long term" relationship. I don't like using "LTR" to refer to a relationship that has a higher life investment because I find all kinds of relationships can be long term as long as the people involved are having their needs met and boundaries respected.
  
  Desires and Fantasies
  My latest favorite fantasy is being put in a free use booth at a queer play party.