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married with Ask me

D/s relationship with Ask me

Personal details

Gender Woman
Age 48
Status Not single
Body shape Average build
Eye colour Other
Hair length
Orientation Gay
Zodiac sign Taurus
Tattoos

About me

Interested in:

I’m looking for:

Description

I am currently entertaining submissions from well behaved cis-male subs that want to serve in a TPE way, or those seeking a good pick-up play beating. Yes I'm amazing with a strap on, but I have no interest in pegging. Do not bother to approach me if this is all you seek. I am sapiosexual, so you will need to win over my mind if you want my attention.

I am a former sub, former slave, former switch. I Domme from a place of deep understanding and compassion. Consent/Protocol/Rules will be established and enforced for TPE dynamics.

Limits

no scat, golden, blood
no ageplay
nothing immoral

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TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something in the forum
  • 03.04.2024 14:01:46
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Femdom dating for submissive men

Munches are the best way to meet people, but not every city has these. Coming from Chicago to Asheville came with a lot of struggles in the BDSM community. I used to have munches, and dungeons, and community in Chicago, but in a small mountain town, not quite the same. All we have are apps Read more… like this. Even the fetlife groups in this area have gone silent.

TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something in the forum
  • 02.04.2024 18:49:21
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Loving hairy, is it a fetish?

Yes it's a fetish. I would say, a fetish is just an unconventional turn on. A kink is an unconventional need. And BDSM is an unconventional relationship with a well defined power dynamic.

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TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something in the forum
  • 02.04.2024 18:46:30
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Femdom dating for submissive men

I can assure you, it's just as frustrating on the Domme side. We also get ghosted. In fact, every sub that's ever ghosted me came back to apologize, tell me they were just 'so scared to finally have found what they always wanted' and they haven't found anything real like me, and can they just Read more… please come back... but the trust is broken already. There's no fixing that.
Seriously, on both ends, be a grown up, say the hard thing, face the confrontation, you might find exactly what you wanted on the other side of that.

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TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something in the forum
  • 02.04.2024 15:51:48
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
New Here? Introduce Yourselves!

20+ years in the lifestyle. Seeking subs that are serious about exploration. Open to hearing what you're seeking

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TheZenCommander
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  • 02.03.2024 6:28:40
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
G-spot

@fresno did you study Kar Sai while you were in 🇹🇭 ? Are you still there now?

TheZenCommander
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  • 01.03.2024 20:48:33
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Male forced orgasms

You'd be surprised what can be accomplished after enough edging and denial. But yes it's possible, and milking is the term you are seeking.

TheZenCommander
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  • 21.02.2024 23:44:32
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
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TheZenCommander
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  • 21.02.2024 23:26:28
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
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TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander shared the limits
  • 21.02.2024 22:53:09
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
no scat, golden, blood
no ageplay
nothing immoral
TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something about themself
  • 21.02.2024 22:52:16
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
I am currently entertaining submissions from well behaved cis-male subs that want to serve in a TPE way, or those seeking a good pick-up play beating. Yes I'm amazing with a strap on, but I have no interest in pegging. Do not bother to approach me if this is all you seek. I am sapiosexual, so you Read more… will need to win over my mind if you want my attention.

I am a former sub, former slave, former switch. I Domme from a place of deep understanding and compassion. Consent/Protocol/Rules will be established and enforced for TPE dynamics.
TheZenCommander
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  • 21.02.2024 22:46:25
  • Female (48)
  • Asheville
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  • 24.08.2021 21:40:37
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  • Asheville
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