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  • 30.07.2021 15:54:23
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  • 30.07.2021 15:33:21
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  • 08.03.2019 17:56:08
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  • 07.02.2019 8:53:14
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Hard limits not respected

Hi Charlie, I think talking more does help. I'm pleased to have found this website. I would rather not disclose publicly at the moment x

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  • 06.02.2019 21:50:38
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Hard limits not respected

Absolutely, thank you x this has really helped me.
I need to put my foot down a bit harder I think.

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yak
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  • 06.02.2019 21:14:18
  • Female (41)
  • ●Derby
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Hard limits not respected

Bigpolly it is hard to replace a Dom where I am, they are definitely rare. Especially ones that would put up with me. (I'm really hard work). But you are right I need to be stronger.
Eyemblacksheep He definitely has permission to push me out of my comfort zone and he does seem some stuff as a Read more… challenge for sure . But this is a clear hard limit which I have thoroughly and painfully explained on more than one occasion. He just really doesn't seem to take it that seriously I guess.
Motsmunches I do trust him, but he has let me down in a big way a couple of times ( although it was possibly my fault) and I just can't be 100% sure. Just joking about it is almost a trInger for me . So its hard, because I know I'm possibly over reacting.. but can' help it.

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yak
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  • 05.02.2019 19:07:54
  • Female (41)
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Hard limits not respected

Thank you for all your replies I think he is a good guy . But it is possible that he does just want what he can't have, it does seem that whatever else I am willing to offer it won' be enough until I cross that line . Walking away is hard as it has taken years of knowing this person to build up Read more… the trust to play in the first place so I'm emotionally invested but also aware that he would be hard to replace. I think I need to talk again about the damage he is doing. Maybe find the courage to show him this thread .

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yak
icon-wio yak created a topic in BDSM Forum
  • 04.02.2019 22:13:20
  • ●Derby
Hard limits not respected
Hi all, just wondering if anyone else has had a hard limit which their partner has struggled to understand?
My current play partner/Dom is very good but he keeps joking about using one of my hard limits as a punishment. I have asked him to stop and he said he would but he can't seem to help it. I Read more…have explained why its a hard limit and he keeps saying he understands and would never make me do it. But then brings it up again because he "forgets" and uses it as a threat "jokingly"
It is something that might seem trivial to anyone else but not to me.
I just don't know where to go with it now.
Likewhit-8746, Deloo-9878 · 25 Replies
RosesHaveThorns75
RosesHaveThorns75 Take a brake with ANY relationship that is being taken for granted it'll soon sort out for either party what is next necessary..... Or at least distance yourself in some way women/juniors are often expected to be mediators/negotiators walking out/ no contact is the "real deal" for most guys/seniors...they'll either "sort out" Or "ship out" in my experience.... Whereas talking often ignored or dismissed by other party as "not serious"..... Sadly Take a brake with ANY relationship that is being taken for granted it'll soon sort out for either party what is next necessary..... Or at least distance yourself in some way women/juniors are often expected to be mediators/negotiators walking out/ no contact is the "real deal" for most guys/seniors...they'll either "sort out" Or "ship out" in my experience.... Whereas talking often ignored or dismissed by other party as "not serious"..... Sadly
Like · 07.03.2019 9:14:24
Deleted profile Not sure where you are now with him but few quotes that ring the bell high and strong.
"he is very good but he keeps joking
I think he is a good guy
the damage he is doing
Walking away is hard as it has taken years
But this is a clear hard limit which I have thoroughly and painfully explained on Read more… more than one occasion"
its a toxic relationship, i am not sure how long but you said it's damaging you somehow, not what a D/s should be. You have let him doing it for too long because he gives you sometime, what you need, and becasue you accept it, he thinks you will never leave him or try to find someone new.
Its too hard you say? he's a good guy but, all this excuses give him to think that you are not so serious about your hard limits.
Cornwall got a fairly big kinkster pool, maybe you should try another website or go to a munch, there is one in Truro look on fetlife for date.
I suggest having a break for you to think hard about it and he to give him a lesson.
Likeexdebauch 27.02.2019 0:41:29
exdebauch
exdebauch It may be hard to replace a Dom where you are but that shouldn’t detract from what’s right or wrong for you and what’s happening is trying to force you to cross lines. Your right we all want what we can’t have which is I guess partially why we’re here but I would always respect lines and boundaries previously agreed and in this case it seems your not comfortable discussing with him so to ridicule is outrageous. Be strong Yak I’m sure you have it in you. It may be hard to replace a Dom where you are but that shouldn’t detract from what’s right or wrong for you and what’s happening is trying to force you to cross lines. Your right we all want what we can’t have which is I guess partially why we’re here but I would always respect lines and boundaries previously agreed and in this case it seems your not comfortable discussing with him so to ridicule is outrageous. Be strong Yak I’m sure you have it in you.
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yak
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  • 05.01.2019 22:55:44
  • Female (41)
  • ●Derby
  • Not single
I'm a fairly left wing, goth, hippie, veggie, bookworm. I'm a mum and a wife, a totally opinionated bossy pants and a complete empath. I am a strong, independent, modern woman, when my inner doomed victorian heroine let's me be.
I am needy, hard work, full of contradictions and more than slightly Read more… crazy.

I love books and horses, I swim to keep fit and I just discovered a thing called box fit which I love.I'm a little bit of a geek and I love to dance.

I am also submissive. I am not a walk over, I am extremely cautious. But I have spent a number of years coming to an uncomfortable acceptance that I need a Dominant partner. I have masochistic tendencies but would not consider myself a painslut, I have tendencies towards being a little or a kitten or something like that.. but I'm not sure yet, I'm exploring.

My husband and I are both Polyamorous. It works very well for us, if you want to know more just ask.
I am here to explore my submissive side further and find a community to help me on my journey and hopefully a mentor/Dom who wants to help me out with a bit of guidance.

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