Mental / Physical "Grooming"

[Submissive_summer]

How do you and your Dom/sub incorporate rituals or shared activities related to physical or mental "grooming" in your dynamic?

This could include elements like hair... makeup... clothing... nails or even affirmations....anything that enhances presentation in a way that pleases you or your Dom.. much like a cherished doll....

Some may find comfort and structure in having their Dom select outfits.. accessories... or even scents... while others appreciate the deeper aspects of mental grooming.. such as affirmations or mindset-shaping rituals....

What routines or experiences have you enjoyed... or what would you like to introduce into your dynamic?

[Yi****]

I have a couple of casual sexual relationships now lucky me and it's hard to communicate with them sort of up to the woman when she wants to meet up but in the meantime any messages or signals I do send are just designed to trigger their desires whatever their weakness is I'm not perfect

[fl****]

I had a dom that used to wash and style my hair. I have egregious amounts of hair so it’s literally a task. It’s something that’s weirdly intimate at least for me

[Submissive_summer]

8 hours ago, YinKissesYang said:

I have a couple of casual sexual relationships now lucky me and it's hard to communicate with them sort of up to the woman when she wants to meet up but in the meantime any messages or signals I do send are just designed to trigger their desires whatever their weakness is I'm not perfect

Casual dynamics definitely have their own rhythm.... and triggering desire is a skill in itself.... I have always believed that in a Dom/sub relationship... it’s not just about pushing buttons....it’s about shaping and refining both mental and physical responses over time....

[Submissive_summer]

1 hour ago, florence720075 said:

I had a dom that used to wash and style my hair. I have egregious amounts of hair so it’s literally a task. It’s something that’s weirdly intimate at least for me

Thats such a beautiful expression of intimacy and nurturing.... connections are often found in the smallest most personal acts....the ones that leave the deepest lasting impressions....

[MasterKama23]

Couple of ezample that i have see work wll for the mental / spritual grooming have been (1) after dinner/ date/ praise/ reward night out, as soon as sub/ slaves get insidr the house to strip naked, kneel and wait for dom/ msater to allow her inside. This i have been told immediately puts the sub/ slave inthe servicing mode which could have been relaxed when enjoying an evening outside and (2) sitting by dom/ masters feet when allowed in bed each night rubbing the feet. This again has been seen as grooming/ training for mental and spritual submission to the autority and protection of dom/ master.

[em****]

Ours is making our grocery list together and shopping together weekly, it’s such an odd ritual but it works so well for us. I head inside to start prepping to get the groceries and he carries them all into the kitchen and sits and talks to me while I put them away. I love it sm

[Submissive_summer]

26 minutes ago, MasterKama23 said:

Couple of ezample that i have see work wll for the mental / spritual grooming have been (1) after dinner/ date/ praise/ reward night out, as soon as sub/ slaves get insidr the house to strip naked, kneel and wait for dom/ msater to allow her inside. This i have been told immediately puts the sub/ slave inthe servicing mode which could have been relaxed when enjoying an evening outside and (2) sitting by dom/ masters feet when allowed in bed each night rubbing the feet. This again has been seen as grooming/ training for mental and spritual submission to the autority and protection of dom/ master.

I completely agree that rituals like these can serve as powerful forms of mental and spiritual conditioning / grooming reinforcing both comfort and structure in a dynamic....
Intentional acts like these can be very grounding by reinforcing connection between a Dom and submissive.....
Changing from an outside traditional setting back into the dynamic with something as meaningful as kneeling or an act of service is a beautiful way to maintain and groom that mindset shift... Thank you for sharing these examples....

[Submissive_summer]

23 minutes ago, emmy_daniel23 said:

Ours is making our grocery list together and shopping together weekly, it’s such an odd ritual but it works so well for us. I head inside to start prepping to get the groceries and he carries them all into the kitchen and sits and talks to me while I put them away. I love it sm

Sounds like a really nice way to blend teamwork...structure.. and quality time together..... Its a great reminder that rituals dont always have to be formal....sometimes... its the small... everyday moments that build connection the most.... Sounds like such a comforting and fulfilling routine for both of you... thank you for sharing

[em****]

6 hours ago, Submissive_summer said:

Sounds like a really nice way to blend teamwork...structure.. and quality time together..... Its a great reminder that rituals dont always have to be formal....sometimes... its the small... everyday moments that build connection the most.... Sounds like such a comforting and fulfilling routine for both of you... thank you for sharing

It really is, it’s a nice comfort. It also in my mind solidifies our dynamic by him being the one to carry and bring them in , and for him to sit while I put them all away

[Ja****]

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[Sting-ATL]

Usually, when my sub comes, I have her sit in my lap facing me. We hug, and I put on a temp sub collar. I briefly outline the scene(s) planned, and we talk face-to-face. I tell her what outfit(s) she will wear. I help her get dressed. I help her with the butt plug of the day. There are fif*** main Gorean sub or slave poses or positions. I like ten, and I have two poses I made up. We practice a dozen positions as a warm-up before we start a scene. I do the reverse when they leave and un-collar her. Hug and tell her she is a good girl if she was good that day.

[Submissive_summer]

16 minutes ago, Sting-ATL said:

Usually, when my sub comes, I have her sit in my lap facing me. We hug, and I put on a temp sub collar. I briefly outline the scene(s) planned, and we talk face-to-face. I tell her what outfit(s) she will wear. I help her get dressed. I help her with the butt plug of the day. There are fif*** main Gorean sub or slave poses or positions. I like ten, and I have two poses I made up. We practice a dozen positions as a warm-up before we start a scene. I do the reverse when they leave and un-collar her. Hug and tell her she is a good girl if she was good that day.

it sounds like a very intentional and affirming ritual for both of you.... The process of collaring and de-collaring...as well as practicing positions as a warm-up....clearly communicating ahead...seems like a great way to rein*** the connection and headspace..