Are friend off limit on open relationships?

[Deleted Member]

For those that have open relationships. Are dating friends off limit? Why? Why not?

[gr****]

not at all. as long as romance is off the table its okay to share sexually with friends:)

[Christhebean]

Id never date a friend incase it ruint the friendship if we ever broke up

[my****]

I would say yes. I had a threesome with one of my friends and his girlfriend and we had a ton of chemistry and it turned into the two of us having sex and him joining where he could. It made things weird between all of us and they ended up breaking up a few months later

[mr****]

All depends on the boundaries and emotions your willing to involve. There is no right or wrong, as it depends on the actual friend, the dynamic, and situation.

[ke****]

You and your partner set those rules. But most people I know that are poly/open stay away from friends just so problems don't come up.

[jo****]

We dont cause we dont wanna have drama about friends.

[bu****]

I think along as good communication and understanding it's all good. I had this this female friend and we've talked about it and we both agreed we didn't want to hurt the friendship if it all went south so we decided not to. It's kinda weird having that conversation at beginning but after we did we both were on same page. At least then. Could it still happen in future ? Of course it could. You just have to decide if it be worth the risk

[bo****]

Don't shit where you sleep. As I've been told

[cl****]

My partner like to watch me with her friends

[No****]

In my relationship we have a strict no friends code because we don't really want our friends knowing we're open and we don't wanna risk any feelings that could ruin a friendship

[Pv****]

If you truly believe your friend is interested in being an intimate partner then talk to them about it. Be mindful if you misread them it could cost you their friendship. Sober discussion is a better route than a tipsy gamble, as things could be awkward after sobering up.

[Tr****]

Why would u fuck your friends? There are thousands of people in the world so u can create new connections and cherish those that u have without a *** of fucking them up.

[th****]

Not really. I think it would be cool if they got along and cooler if they dated

[Ginger81381]

In ours they're off limits but I know many who choose to sleep with friends. Each couple has to set their own boundaries

[ey****]

A lot depends on here for context on who is 'friends' here and where they're friends from

like if it's within the kink circle then no probs here

 

but you alone know what would/wouldn't work in your relationship 

[Th****]

When my partner and I first opened our relationship I had a friend who was interested in me. We tried for a while but it crashed an burned into flames. Would not recommend, easy way to lose a friend.

[Be****]

Speaking from experience, it is best to keep friends out of the circle unless they are introduced to the circle with that intent

[Lu****]

Best way to ruin a good friendship ….

[Su****]

Everyone has a different view of what open relationships mean but my advice I would say nothing is not doable with the right level of communication as long as communication and trust and honesty and most of all consent or authorisation from your partner otherwise it all falls apart

[Ca****]

Been in two cuckold relationships and our contract stated she could have any bull she wished as long as they were family friends or colleagues .

[Yo****]

We've had a few friends join us. But unless they're used to the lifestyle, they're bound to start crossing boundaries or just not understanding the dynamic. We had one that worked well, but he's got a monogamous relationship now. On the other hand, all the friends we've made that are in the lifestyle are still friendly even if we don't have a relationship with them anymore.

[Deleted Member]

If you haven't made things clear about feelings/attraction from the start. Then it is never a good idea to bring this person into any kink unless everyone is clear about it. I had separate relationships with the partners I tried bringing into the bedroom. Unless you know boundaries and what everyone needs from it then it won't end well. Attraction can be a good thing but not in the end game. Friend thing never works well

[Mi****]

Lost a friend of over 20 years and nearly lost the marriage. Definitely recommend against it.

[Ca****]

From reading the comments I think there are two houses: is an open relationship open to feelings, too? Or is it just hot sex with one of your buddies?