Do you consider yourself a romantic person?

[jj****]

We’re not bound by any one definition of “romantic” - what do YOU consider romantic?

[ar****]

To me, I see romance as a projection of an idealized version of a relationship in terms of "what might/could be" going forward. It uses fantasy to augment the perception of a partner, often without checking in with them to validate if the view is shared, or even based in reality.

[jj****]

1 hour ago, arnhem961 said:

To me, I see romance as a projection of an idealized version of a relationship in terms of "what might/could be" going forward. It uses fantasy to augment the perception of a partner, often without checking in with them to validate if the view is shared, or even based in reality.

I am detecting some projection in this answer. Do you see romance as a BAD thing??

[ar****]

17 hours ago, jjbeanbun said:

I am detecting some projection in this answer. Do you see romance as a BAD thing??

Nah, it's not a judgment of mine. I personally identify as aroace, and my definition of terms tends to be mostly analytical/logic driven.
Because I don't experience romantic attraction, I haven't got a clue what it actually entails. So this is my guess; it's not sexual attraction (wanting sex with them), not aesthetic attraction (finding them beautiful), not Physical/Sensual attraction
(wanting to be near someone and engage the senses) and not Emotional attraction (wanting to discuss and experience emotions).

So for me, that leaves Romantic attraction as an intent for long-term mating, courting behavior, commitment, living together, monogamy, exclusiveness, jealousy. Initially strong and overwhelming as it consumes our thoughts and actions. Often accompanied by physical/sensual+sexual attraction.

I'm not by far knowledgeable about this though, so I'm very open to learning other views! 🤓

[Da****]

I am blind to romantic advances. It literally takes a some one to put it up front.

[La****]

I do see myself as a romantic.
I love love. I celebrate love.
I just haven’t been lucky enough to find someone I actually feel safe to pour all my love into.

The media framed romance/romantics with certain characteristics. While the representation is not always wrong, but romance and being romantic is way more than what the media always portrays.

Being romantic is when presence is celebrated. Physically, emotionally, spiritually—you name it.
Emotional maturity and consideration is already a non-negotiable.
Romance is when there is an act of witnessing the life and celebrating everything with your partner.
To be loved is to be seen.
Being romantic is when you celebrate your loved ones presence, even with the most mundane, simple and silly way. It doesnt need excuses.
Romance doesnt need to be extravagant or flashy. But you can always recognize it when the little things are felt.

[sk****]

Shaun. An genuine intimate connection is something that I definitely desire. Romance, for sure. Both of us being in tune and it being that spiritual connection - where we just know what we need and want - it'll happen... The hardest part is being patient. The flesh gets weak sometimes.

[jj****]

Yesterday at 11:39 AM, Lady_King said:

I do see myself as a romantic.
I love love. I celebrate love.
I just haven’t been lucky enough to find someone I actually feel safe to pour all my love into.

The media framed romance/romantics with certain characteristics. While the representation is not always wrong, but romance and being romantic is way more than what the media always portrays.

Being romantic is when presence is celebrated. Physically, emotionally, spiritually—you name it.
Emotional maturity and consideration is already a non-negotiable.
Romance is when there is an act of witnessing the life and celebrating everything with your partner.
To be loved is to be seen.
Being romantic is when you celebrate your loved ones presence, even with the most mundane, simple and silly way. It doesnt need excuses.
Romance doesnt need to be extravagant or flashy. But you can always recognize it when the little things are felt.

I can see your romance here. What a lovely comment 😊 I hope you do find that romance

[Br****]

Yes I do which is why I’m polyam with 3 romantic connections along with ENM where I have another 7 sexual connections. With 4 of the 10 there is dynamic: 3 switches and 1 sub.

Still looking for that special male top, open to romance with the right guy.

Not sure if I could do romance without the sex though! I love intimacy!

[Curiouskinkster245]

Yeah I do and I consider myself romantic because I'm very loyal and protective over my partner and I take the time to learn what their love language is and to love them in that way no matter if I understand it or not and I listen to my partner's and I know that that's the bare minimum but yeah and I also create love playlists for them so yeah I'd consider myself a cute and romantic partner ngl

[Ra****]

I think needing the person to want you to perform not just having the task done by somebody makes you a romantic. If you need to feel wanted or you don’t really feel much, makes you a romantic. I also think how much you need the person to need. You is probably on a spectrum but the more you need the person to want you probably makes you more or less a romantic.