What is it that you like about Power exchange?

[Qu****]

Nothing brings me joy than a feeling of Power Exchange…Whether it’s me leading and passionately making his soul crave me. Or the thought of….. IF….If I ever find my gentleman that makes my soul feel how I make my subs. He’d be 😈🤤♾️🤪💋 What is it that you like about Power exchange?

[Kr****]

I like the yearning that comes from holding that power. The need that both feel that isn't found in any other way. The willingness to be intentional with meaning. There's just something that feels electric about the thought of such. Hitting a nerve like nothing else.

[jo****]

Trust. Being handed the reins is all about the joy of being completely trusted. It is my sole focus

[PR****]

The fact that we both can express ourselves with sexual aggressiveness and knowing that I’m turning you on by serving you with intentions on serving me after is what drives me for it.

[le****]

I love when my subs fully submit to me. I like the control and when they can't stop thinking about me. Obedient subs make me feel satisfied in more ways than one 😉

[Hu****]

For me it’s the feeling of commitment and ultimate trust combined with the undeniable connection that comes as a result. It’s the understanding of boundaries, the pushing of those boundaries and the excitement from a sub as they experience the push on those boundaries. It’s the release of control and then allowing me to take them a journey of discovery or rediscovery of ecstasy that is consuming.

[bl****]

I am like a child with a new toy when it comes to power exchange dynamics. The ability to play with it, control with it, mind fuck with it, let go off all inhibitions with it, be my *** self with it, take both of us to great heights and back with it. It’s all packaged in it.

[Fi****]

There is something deeply intoxicating about not only having total control over someone, but having them give themselves over to you completely. The combination and balance of your authority and their trust in you to be in control while also keeping them safe gives me a feeling unlike anything Ive ever felt.

It is important to remember, this kind of power and dedication given in these dynamics is as much of a privilege as it is a pleasure. Doms have a fiduciary duty to their subs to respect that trust and ensure they feel safe and cared for.

[te****]

Not just being in control but seeing the growth and how desperate my slave wants the guidance not only in the bedroom but in a everyday lifestyle 🤤🤤 the different ways of discipline as well

[PL****]

For me it's just the complete letting go. I don't have to be in control, I don't have to acknowledge an illusion of control, it's about being completely me.

[ju****]

It's the appreciation that my partners gets what the want and need in that moment and that is a huge turn on for me.

[Deleted Member]

I like fully giving over control to someone I trust. The rules, expectations, rituals, being told what’s wanted from me, and knowing they’re actively leading the dynamic. For me, the appeal is in surrendering on purpose and being able to stop carrying everything for a while.

[un****]

i don’t know how to properly articulate this in a way that makes sense but its the power not the fact that complete power exchange allows you to do whatever you desire within limits but the fact that this power allows you to not only make all of their stress drain from their body but the fact that you get a front row view to watching them just melt into your touch that in this moment nothing else except the two of you exist it is a feeling i’ve never been able to completely replicate outside of this type of dynamic

[Mo****]

Yummy

[Qu****]

Wednesday at 04:35 PM, Hung_Mature_Dom said:

For me it’s the feeling of commitment and ultimate trust combined with the undeniable connection that comes as a result. It’s the understanding of boundaries, the pushing of those boundaries and the excitement from a sub as they experience the push on those boundaries. It’s the release of control and then allowing me to take them a journey of discovery or rediscovery of ecstasy that is consuming.

Very well put ✨

[Qu****]

Wednesday at 04:17 PM, lesbianfemmebbw said:

I love when my subs fully submit to me. I like the control and when they can't stop thinking about me. Obedient subs make me feel satisfied in more ways than one 😉

Definitely agree! If mine isn’t all about his Queen. What is he here for?

[Deleted Member]

I have control issues and am curious to know if I tried being a sub would that help me with my control boundaries

[pi****]

Sex and physical control isn’t only way to enjoy power exchange. My sweet submissive girlfriend gets anxious sometimes. Giving me control allows her to stay present in each moment and enjoy our connection without worrying about what the plan is; she trusts that I’ll plan dates we’ll both enjoy.

Since she is accustomed to getting what she wants without effort (thanks to her family) and she’s a bit of a spoiled Princess. So if she’s being too passive or pushy about what she wants, I require her to use more clarity or patience.

Sometimes I say no to her requests, make her wait until I’m ready or prove she really wants something before I give it to her. You’d think she be annoyed but she relishes following my lead and earning my attention and time.

And when she wants to be affectionate, she has to verbally ask me for permission so she doesn’t try to take control of the moment. I give her a little attention but when she wants more, she has to ask for more and more.

It doesn’t even have to be sexual. When I want something from her, I give her a gentle command and she complies without hesitation.

When she gets fussy, I tell her that she won’t get anything from me that way. I remind her of how much she enjoys my attention and touch and she folds quickly. Seeing how eager she is to please me makes me feel amazing.

Because she’s given me control, she lets her mind stay in a submissive and receptive state. I always make sure to be a steady presence and safe space for her emotionally.

[br****]

Have you ever controlled others with each other?

[Ki****]

I have to be so in control of all my decisions constantly.

First had to be because of growing up in an emotionally abusive and unsafe household...


And now in my adulthood with my Crohn's disease and ADHD (anxiety as well) every decision I make has a consequence whether it was a good or bad decision.

Decision fatigue adds heavily unto the exhaustion and chronic fatigue I deal with.

So despite being a switch and needing/wanting control sometimes, the ability, the choice, to freely give up that control after so long of my life being ***d into being in control or the opposite having my control ***fully taken, being able to give it up in a healthy context over certain areas of my life, not just the sexual ones, brings me such relief I haven't found anything as helpful.

The taste of finally having a real BDSM semi-lifestyle relationship after fantasizing about it for years, only for it to not last longer than a couple months, has me at my wits end.